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[regal music]
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Narrator: Britain, home of
the frigid, sexually-repressed,
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unadventurous, uptight
and boring in bed. Right?
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[music distorts and fades]
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Wrong!
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As a nation,
we have got our kink on
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and tonight,
we're going to reveal
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just how far some of us go
to get our kicks.
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- Oh, my beating heart!
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Narrator: We've commissioned a
nationally representative survey
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to reveal the UK's
top 10 legal kinks...
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..and we'll be counting down
from 10 to one.
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Along the way, our experts
will explain the origins
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of what turns us on.
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There's no right way
to be kinky.
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There's a lot of kinky things
going on behind the curtains.
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Narrator:
So if you ever wondered
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what the neighbours
are really doing...
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..tonight, you may find out.
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This is the most difficult
piece to camera I've ever done.
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Narrator: Our top 10
is going to show
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what we're getting up to when
we think no-one is watching.
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Or maybe when they are.
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Threesomes are very,
very popular.
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Narrator: The kinks we found
go from eye-watering...
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I'm gonna zap you.
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[electrical buzz]
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- ..to jaw-dropping.
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Tell me what
your favourite sex position is.
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Robot: Doggy, for sure.
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Narrator: From Scotland
to the South Coast,
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we're pushing the boundaries
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and celebrating
our sexual differences.
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It's warm, it's thick,
it's almost like a blanket.
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[whirring]
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[glopping]
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Narrator: So, welcome
to our kinky countdown.
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You don't choose your sexuality,
it chooses you.
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- Why do some of us
get turned on
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by a nice dinner
and moody lighting...
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We are all along a spectrum
of kinkiness.
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- ..while others
need more equipment
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than the moon landings.
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And now, it's time to find out
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if you're kink made it into
our top 10.
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Whoo! You know,
might be quite fun.
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Narrator: Kicking off
our kinky countdown,
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something 1 in 50 British men
has tried.
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Straight in at number 10,
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it's cross-dressing for sex.
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Our survey revealed
that 2% of British men
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have cross dressed for sex.
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Philippa Perry,
a psychotherapist
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with over 20 years experience
as a mental health professional,
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will help us understand
what turns us on and why.
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It's very peculiar and
particular to each cross-dresser
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what they like.
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Some people get a thrill
from passing as women.
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Some people just get turned on
by the clothes.
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Some people like it
because they feel humiliated
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in ladies' clothes.
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Some people identify with
the tenderness of the feminine,
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because they feel
they can't be tender as men.
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Narrator: Like most
cross-dressers,
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Maurice likes to give his kink
a highly individual twist.
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Born in Italy,
he's lived here for 14 years
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and is a personal trainer.
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His cross-dressing ritual
begins with
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an unusual type of foreplay.
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It's all about masculinity.
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[sultry dance music]
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Maurice: You start with
this very slow ritual.
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I want to feel my body,
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I want to feel my muscle
and to look at my muscle.
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And then I see myself
in the mirror
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and start to feel this fire
growing and growing
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as I look at myself.
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Until eventually, you feel that
you have to really do it.
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Narrator: For Maurice,
power and grace combine
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to create
a panther-like sexiness.
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- I feel very soft,
but still being powerful.
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Like a cat, somehow.
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I'm like masculine guy
wearing female clothes,
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but without losing
their masculinity.
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Narrator: Maurice has been aware
of his kink
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since he was a child.
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- When I was about 10, 11,
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a friend in school told me that
he tried his mother's tights on.
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So I said,
"OK, I'll give it a go myself."
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My legs started to shake
the moment I put the tights on.
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Philippa: The idea
of doing something forbidden
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is a turn-on for some people.
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That probably could be traced
to childhood.
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But you know,
why trace it to childhood?
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What difference does it make?
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We know something turns us on
because it feels naughty,
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then why wouldn't we do it?
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A kink is a kink,
so I accept yours,
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you should accept mine.
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Narrator: The sex toy industry
stimulates the British economy
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by £250 million a year.
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There are toys for all tastes.
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So, now, guess the sex toy
a game for adults only.
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What's this and what's it for?
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Let's find out.
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I can't quite figure out
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how that could be used
in a sexual way.
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- It could just go up
someone's arse,
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but you could say that
about most things.
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Is this modern?
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A willy squeezer.
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Is it like an Amish sex toy?
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Now I'm getting the feeling
it's some sort of clamp,
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and that's worrying me
a little bit.
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A ball clamp!
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- You put your balls in it
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and then you squash them
and squash them and squash them.
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Oh, no, you don't. Really?
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It's for stretching?
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People are stretching
their balls?
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What happens to your penis?
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Does it go over the top?
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So, it just...hangs like that?
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Like an enormous
wooden moustache?
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Well, there we go.
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I tell you what,
it's nicely finished.
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Narrator: Secret Santa
for the boss, anyone?
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Wellies at the ready,
everybody
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at number nine,
it's watersports.
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Once a complete taboo,
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watersports
have now gone mainstream.
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Our survey revealed
that over 1 million of us
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have a splashing time
in and out of the bathroom.
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Belgian sexologist
Goedele Liekens' philosophy
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is to ensure that
whatever type of sex we have,
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we get maximum pleasure.
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Let's get straight to the point.
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Watersport is about people
who are aroused by urine,
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often by urinating
on each other.
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Now, you might not get aroused
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by the sound of it,
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but for some people it creates
a warm, erotic feeling
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inside and outside.
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Some people get aroused just by
the idea of urine itself,
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like a fetish.
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Even the smell can be arousing.
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It has to do with reaching
a deeper level of intimacy,
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of trust together,
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doing something naughty
and forbidden,
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and that can make
the sex they already have
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even more intense.
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Even if watersports
are not for you,
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it never hurts
to know some basic moves.
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Here's an oldie but a goldie
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the 'Golden Shower'.
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First, you have to decide
between the two of you
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which way
things are going to flow
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and then the receiver
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well, he gets ready to receive
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and the giver
just starts urinating.
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If you want to get into
watersports,
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you might want to stay
in the bathroom
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or maybe make some changes
to your bedroom,
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like putting on
waterproof sheets
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and a lot of towels.
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I don't know who comes up
with these names,
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but the next technique is called
'Cataracts of the Nile'.
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The man basically kneels between
the legs of the woman
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and aims his urine
straight at her clitoris,
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which she might or might not
find delightful.
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As long as you're healthy,
urine is perfectly safe.
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But it wouldn't do you any harm
to drink plenty of water
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before starting to play.
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That makes urine
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There's nothing wrong
with watersports,
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as long as it is between
consenting adults.
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Lots of people enjoy it.
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Narrator: According to
our survey,
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watersports is very definitely
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one for the boys.
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- It sounds a bit of a cliché
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to say we're all the same
under the skin,
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but there is a great sense
in this that that's true.
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Narrator:
The national sex survey
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has peered behind
Britain's curtains
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and dungeon doors
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to reveal
the top 10 favourite kinks.
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At number eight, bits
of the body that get us going.
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It's not necessarily
a part of the body
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that we consider normally sexual
like, say, breasts,
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that you might be turned on by,
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but it can be
something like feet.
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Narrator: Our national
sex survey says it's feet first
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for 3% of British adults
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that's 1.5 million of us.
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Helpful tip if you think feet
might be your thing,
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move to the north of England.
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There's a big foot fetish
party scene there, apparently.
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Penny and Leo have been together
for five years.
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- My name is Leo.
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I like feet and for some reason,
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I feel like
that's socially unacceptable.
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The arch of the foot
is very important.
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I don't suppose a flat foot
would do it for me.
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That feminine arch,
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which is totally different
to a guy's flat foot.
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And women have quite nice,
you know...
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That sexy arch
is perfect for me, yeah.
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- When I first found out
that Leo had a foot fetish,
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I found like a blog
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this woman had written
about fetishes
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and stuff like that.
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She spoke about the toe sucking
and the licking of the toes
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and how the only thing she could
compare it to was oral sex.
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And I'm thinking,
"Yeah, right!" [laughs]
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"Alright, alright."
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And then I experienced it
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and I completely agree with her.
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It's very much like
a similar sort of feeling.
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- I think what a lot of men
and women don't realise
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is the clitoris is actually
on the big toe.
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[Penny laughs]
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That's why
they can never find it!
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[both laugh]
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- People should definitely
embrace their fetishes.
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[Penny chuckles]
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Narrator: One possible
explanation for food fetishism
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is what psychotherapists
call 'imprinting'.
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- Imprinting is when
we fall in love with something
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that we first see
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in a very early time
of our life.
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Now, sometimes
it's called Gosling Syndrome,
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because it's well known
that baby geese
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fall in love
with the first thing they see
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after coming out of the shell.
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And it might be that, you know,
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a little baby
crawling around on the floor -
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the first thing that makes
a big impression on them
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is a foot.
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So maybe that's how we develop,
say, a foot fetish.
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Narrator: Some food fetishists
are all about the naked foot.
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Others are about feet and shoes.
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Philippa Perry has come to
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a specialist fetish footwear
factory in London.
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One of the company's employees,
Amy,
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is also a part-time dominatrix
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providing foot fetish services.
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- Can you tell me
the sort of things
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that people that are into
footwear and feet get off on?
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They look at your arches,
they look at your heel,
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they look at the way your toes
are sitting in heels.
252
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Normally you just put your toes
in a guy's mouth you know,
253
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you simulate oral sex
or whatever,
254
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and that is what
a lot of guys get off on.
255
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I mean, I get everything
from trampling to...
256
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Trampling what's trampling?
257
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Trampling is where a man
has his genitals
258
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and you have to stand on it
259
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with your stiletto high heels.
260
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I get it, but for me,
261
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I don't really want to put
my stiletto heel
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down your penis.
263
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- Why do you think people
develop this fetish?
264
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I think it is a floor, dirt,
"you are the lowest of the low,
265
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"you need to be trampled,
you need to be reminded".
266
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You walk on your feet,
your feet are dirty,
267
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your feet are sweaty.
268
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"Kiss my feet. Suck my toes."
269
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That is such a bad thing
to say to somebody.
270
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- There is a spectrum,
isn't there?
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Sort of like the guy that goes,
272
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"Ooh, you look nice
in those shoes,"
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to the guy who can't get off
274
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unless there is a pair of shoes
involved.
275
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Yeah.
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Philippa narrates: But I think
the shoes, and even the feet,
277
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are beside the point.
278
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- The human fetish process,
if you like,
279
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is actually part of everybody's
sexuality to some extent.
280
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When you slow the process
right down,
281
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it's not, "Phwoar, feet!"
282
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It's more...it's the 'phwoar'.
283
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It is the emotion
that the feet evoke in you
284
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that turns you on.
285
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Narrator: In fact,
any part of the body,
286
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or body type, turns someone on,
287
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even if it doesn't meet
288
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society's narrow definition
of beauty.
289
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Our survey reveals
that 575,000 of us
290
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are turned on by obesity,
291
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432,000 by people
who are shorter than average,
292
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and 407,000 of us by amputees.
293
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Finally, there was just
one respondent in our survey
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who reported a fetish
for men's wrists.
295
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Britain is nothing
if not diverse,
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but some kinks
were just too obscure
297
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to make the cut for our top 10.
298
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Man: [voice distorted]
Somebody who sort of, like,
299
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plays with balloons
for sexual gratification,
300
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they are referred to
as a 'looner'.
301
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These come in some super shapes
and super, super sizes.
302
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The smell of them can be rather
erotic and sensual at times.
303
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So many different positions
and ways you can use balloons.
304
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You can get them
with messages on,
305
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like "I love you".
306
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Narrator: Another
of our looner's hobbies
307
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is travelling
the UK rail network - for fun.
308
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- Just keep on inflating
a balloon
309
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until it sort of like
just bursts in your mouth,
310
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can't take the air anymore
you're putting into it.
311
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It can just be the sight
of your partner with them.
312
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And all of a sudden,
something can happen...
313
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..and, you know, a balloon
can unexpectedly burst.
314
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The next thing you know,
you've shot your load!
315
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Narrator: If you think
that was kinky,
316
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we're just getting started.
317
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Still to come tonight,
there's this...
318
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- [whirring]
- Argh!
319
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- ..this...
320
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..oh, and this.
321
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[heavy breathing]
322
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And now, guess the sex toy -
a game for adults only.
323
00:15:25,724 --> 00:15:28,068
What could this be the key to?
324
00:15:30,034 --> 00:15:31,586
[laughs]
325
00:15:31,689 --> 00:15:33,517
Guessing it's a cock ring.
326
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No?
327
00:15:34,827 --> 00:15:37,034
Can't imagine that you...
328
00:15:37,137 --> 00:15:38,620
put it into anything.
329
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That to me
looks like a wall plug.
330
00:15:40,724 --> 00:15:42,137
You know...
331
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doing some drilling,
pop it in, shelves are up.
332
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Oh, I've just had a...
333
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Do people put this
down the ends of their penises?
334
00:15:52,758 --> 00:15:54,206
Is that what this is for?
335
00:15:55,000 --> 00:15:56,275
Oh, that's...
336
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[groans] Yes.
337
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That's actually what it is?
338
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Fucking hell. Why?!
339
00:16:01,931 --> 00:16:04,896
[groans] Oh, it's for turning.
340
00:16:05,000 --> 00:16:07,448
- If someone came at me at that,
I think I'd say,
341
00:16:07,551 --> 00:16:10,310
"Where has the romance gone?
Really?"
342
00:16:10,413 --> 00:16:13,137
"Ribbed, for his pleasure."
[chuckles]
343
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Narrator: Could be handy
on a picnic
344
00:16:15,000 --> 00:16:17,172
if you've forgotten
the corkscrew, maybe.
345
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If you thought that was painful,
346
00:16:20,965 --> 00:16:23,310
then number seven
is probably not for you.
347
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Number seven is all about
humiliation.
348
00:16:33,310 --> 00:16:36,620
Our survey confirms
that 2% of British adults
349
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are sexually aroused
by being humiliated.
350
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Philippa Perry thinks the desire
to be humiliated
351
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is a coping strategy
352
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to deal with unpleasant feelings
from childhood.
353
00:16:48,068 --> 00:16:50,000
- They've switched things
around.
354
00:16:50,103 --> 00:16:52,827
In their childhood,
in their babyhood,
355
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maybe they had no choice about
submitting to a humiliating bath
356
00:16:57,931 --> 00:17:00,103
or whatever it was.
357
00:17:00,206 --> 00:17:03,413
But when they're are an adult,
they are in control of it,
358
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they've switched it,
359
00:17:04,723 --> 00:17:07,655
and they've sexualised
that feeling of humiliation.
360
00:17:07,758 --> 00:17:12,862
Now, it might be a way of making
those feelings tolerable,
361
00:17:12,964 --> 00:17:14,758
to sexualise them.
362
00:17:16,000 --> 00:17:18,723
Narrator: Humiliation
can take many forms.
363
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Meet Georgio,
a waiter from south London.
364
00:17:22,205 --> 00:17:24,931
In private,
he's already experimented
365
00:17:25,034 --> 00:17:26,586
with submissive sex.
366
00:17:27,758 --> 00:17:30,172
But today, he's taking
a beginners course
367
00:17:30,275 --> 00:17:32,000
in public humiliation.
368
00:17:32,103 --> 00:17:33,689
If you're trying
to sneak up on me,
369
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you're doing a dreadful job.
370
00:17:35,241 --> 00:17:37,000
Come and greet me properly.
371
00:17:43,965 --> 00:17:45,551
And one on that one.
372
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Stand there and wait for me
'til I'm ready for you.
373
00:17:50,068 --> 00:17:53,827
- There is an element of acting
in what I do.
374
00:17:53,931 --> 00:17:57,206
I can lose myself
in the playacting
375
00:17:57,310 --> 00:17:58,724
almost to the same degree
376
00:17:58,827 --> 00:18:00,931
as the person
who is playing with me.
377
00:18:01,034 --> 00:18:03,896
Narrator: It looks stressful,
but if this is your kink,
378
00:18:04,000 --> 00:18:05,724
it can be surprisingly relaxing.
379
00:18:05,827 --> 00:18:07,758
- Somebody's telling you
what to do,
380
00:18:07,862 --> 00:18:09,413
then the rest of the world
disappears,
381
00:18:09,517 --> 00:18:11,931
so therefore, they can't think
about anything else
382
00:18:12,034 --> 00:18:13,413
but that moment and that time.
383
00:18:13,517 --> 00:18:14,413
Humiliation is one of the ways
384
00:18:14,517 --> 00:18:17,275
that some people have that
release of stress and tension.
385
00:18:17,379 --> 00:18:20,724
Narrator: Mistress Absolute
guarantees total obedience
386
00:18:20,827 --> 00:18:24,103
by using a remote-controlled
electro-shock collar.
387
00:18:24,206 --> 00:18:25,310
It's not for your neck,
388
00:18:25,413 --> 00:18:27,275
it's to go round
your cock and balls.
389
00:18:27,379 --> 00:18:30,448
Just to keep you attentive
for me at all times.
390
00:18:30,551 --> 00:18:31,482
There's a toilet over there,
391
00:18:31,586 --> 00:18:32,689
you can go
and put it on yourself.
392
00:18:32,793 --> 00:18:34,448
- Yes, mistress.
- Off you go.
393
00:18:34,551 --> 00:18:37,896
Narrator: Georgio's training
is about to step up a gear.
394
00:18:43,068 --> 00:18:45,448
Mistress Absolute
wants him to do
395
00:18:45,551 --> 00:18:47,448
a simple bit
of shopping for her.
396
00:18:47,551 --> 00:18:48,862
- If you don't get it right,
397
00:18:48,965 --> 00:18:50,413
we know what's gonna happen,
don't we?
398
00:18:50,517 --> 00:18:51,448
- You give me a shock.
399
00:18:51,551 --> 00:18:53,206
- I do give you a shock, yes.
400
00:18:53,310 --> 00:18:54,206
Just like that one.
401
00:18:54,310 --> 00:18:55,586
- [zap!]
- [Georgio gasps]
402
00:18:58,482 --> 00:18:59,793
Right, when you can hear me,
403
00:18:59,896 --> 00:19:01,655
I want you to put the phone
in your back pocket.
404
00:19:01,758 --> 00:19:02,965
Are you ready?
405
00:19:03,068 --> 00:19:05,689
The three things
I want you to get are...
406
00:19:06,655 --> 00:19:07,965
..a pair of stockings,
407
00:19:08,068 --> 00:19:10,551
a book on bondage,
408
00:19:10,655 --> 00:19:13,000
and I want you to get me a...
409
00:19:13,103 --> 00:19:15,068
massage oil.
410
00:19:15,172 --> 00:19:17,068
And you have one minute
to do it in.
411
00:19:17,172 --> 00:19:18,517
- One minute.
- Yes.
412
00:19:18,620 --> 00:19:20,275
Get in there, go.
413
00:19:23,517 --> 00:19:24,689
Further, further.
414
00:19:24,793 --> 00:19:26,310
You have 60 seconds
to do this in.
415
00:19:26,413 --> 00:19:28,068
Do not piss me off.
416
00:19:28,172 --> 00:19:30,034
Come on, hurry up, hurry up.
417
00:19:30,137 --> 00:19:33,034
No, no, I didn't say
one of those.
418
00:19:34,448 --> 00:19:35,655
Oh, for God's sake.
419
00:19:36,758 --> 00:19:38,862
You are dawdling. Hurry up!
420
00:19:38,965 --> 00:19:39,931
30 seconds left.
421
00:19:40,034 --> 00:19:41,241
No, not one of those!
422
00:19:41,344 --> 00:19:43,275
I'm gonna zap you.
I'm going up to number six.
423
00:19:43,379 --> 00:19:44,413
[zap!]
424
00:19:44,517 --> 00:19:45,551
[Georgio exhales heavily]
425
00:19:45,655 --> 00:19:47,241
Hurry up.
426
00:19:48,310 --> 00:19:50,137
No talking to the lady.
427
00:19:50,241 --> 00:19:52,758
Those are not...
A suspender belt?!
428
00:19:52,862 --> 00:19:54,517
[zap!]
429
00:19:54,620 --> 00:19:56,482
You have about 15 seconds left
430
00:19:56,586 --> 00:19:59,758
and I'm going up to number eight
on the zapper.
431
00:19:59,862 --> 00:20:01,068
[zap!]
432
00:20:04,896 --> 00:20:06,965
Ah, ah, ah - what do you think
you're doing shopping?
433
00:20:07,068 --> 00:20:08,482
Sorry, sorry.
434
00:20:08,586 --> 00:20:10,034
Did I tell you
you could buy any of this stuff,
435
00:20:10,137 --> 00:20:11,068
you dirty pervert?
436
00:20:11,172 --> 00:20:12,482
- Did I?
- Oh, sorry.
437
00:20:12,586 --> 00:20:13,724
- Did I?
- [zap!]
438
00:20:13,827 --> 00:20:15,172
No, I didn't.
Take the card back.
439
00:20:15,275 --> 00:20:16,517
I'm very sorry,
he's not allowed those.
440
00:20:16,620 --> 00:20:17,655
- [zap!]
- Get out!
441
00:20:18,379 --> 00:20:19,413
[zap!]
442
00:20:20,344 --> 00:20:22,551
- [zap!]
- Ouch!
443
00:20:22,655 --> 00:20:24,620
Narrator:
Understandably perhaps,
444
00:20:24,724 --> 00:20:28,379
Georgio decided that public
humiliation wasn't for him.
445
00:20:28,482 --> 00:20:29,620
- Keep walking.
446
00:20:32,275 --> 00:20:33,586
Narrator: If you like
getting messy,
447
00:20:33,689 --> 00:20:36,206
then you might be interested
in another unusual kink
448
00:20:36,310 --> 00:20:38,034
that didn't quite make
our top 10.
449
00:20:44,827 --> 00:20:46,517
Man: [distorted voice]
This is sploshing.
450
00:20:46,620 --> 00:20:50,275
This is getting messy,
having sex with food.
451
00:20:50,379 --> 00:20:53,448
It will go from
playful pie-fighting
452
00:20:53,551 --> 00:20:54,724
into more massage,
453
00:20:54,827 --> 00:20:57,137
then it will just take off
from there.
454
00:20:59,344 --> 00:21:00,689
Just the feeling.
455
00:21:00,793 --> 00:21:02,344
It's warm, it's thick,
456
00:21:02,448 --> 00:21:05,034
it's almost like a blanket
around me.
457
00:21:05,137 --> 00:21:08,000
There is no friction,
there is just pure movement.
458
00:21:10,827 --> 00:21:12,862
As children,
we're told to be tidy
459
00:21:12,965 --> 00:21:16,034
and you can rebel against
the adults.
460
00:21:16,137 --> 00:21:17,620
If you rebel at the same time
461
00:21:17,724 --> 00:21:19,551
when you have
a sexual awakening,
462
00:21:19,655 --> 00:21:21,482
then the two can get linked.
463
00:21:21,586 --> 00:21:27,551
It's kind of rebelling against
the whole seriousness of life.
464
00:21:27,655 --> 00:21:30,517
People without kinks
view people with kinks
465
00:21:30,620 --> 00:21:33,310
as being very odd and strange.
466
00:21:33,413 --> 00:21:35,206
But the people with kinks
467
00:21:35,310 --> 00:21:38,551
have accepted something
of who they are
468
00:21:38,655 --> 00:21:40,862
and gone on to be happier.
469
00:21:42,310 --> 00:21:44,655
Narrator: Sploshing may not be
to everyone's taste,
470
00:21:44,758 --> 00:21:47,482
but as far as Goedele Liekens
is concerned,
471
00:21:47,586 --> 00:21:50,827
it's just another example
of a healthy appetite for sex.
472
00:21:50,931 --> 00:21:53,206
- We are far too judgemental
about sex.
473
00:21:53,310 --> 00:21:54,379
We don't judge people
474
00:21:54,482 --> 00:21:57,206
because they drink a lot of milk
in their coffee
475
00:21:57,310 --> 00:21:59,586
or because they want
to dye their hair blonde
476
00:21:59,689 --> 00:22:00,862
or black or whatever,
477
00:22:00,965 --> 00:22:03,758
so what is it with sex
that we judge
478
00:22:03,862 --> 00:22:06,000
and that we think of
other people as being immoral?
479
00:22:06,103 --> 00:22:09,793
Most people do have sex
in very different ways.
480
00:22:09,896 --> 00:22:11,689
Kinky and normal.
481
00:22:13,068 --> 00:22:15,862
- The countdown continues
and we are halfway there.
482
00:22:15,965 --> 00:22:18,655
Time to find out
what's at number six.
483
00:22:18,758 --> 00:22:20,413
When it comes to dressing up
for sex,
484
00:22:20,517 --> 00:22:23,413
we Brits love a uniform.
485
00:22:23,517 --> 00:22:25,448
If you are very familiar
with someone
486
00:22:25,551 --> 00:22:28,758
and then they suddenly put on
a uniform,
487
00:22:28,862 --> 00:22:30,724
you're not thinking about
the person,
488
00:22:30,827 --> 00:22:32,586
you're thinking about the role.
489
00:22:32,689 --> 00:22:35,965
They can become an 'it' for you,
which might be sexy.
490
00:22:36,068 --> 00:22:39,482
- One percent of us like
sliding down a fireman's pole.
491
00:22:41,172 --> 00:22:44,827
3% of us like to have
our particulars taken down.
492
00:22:45,896 --> 00:22:47,793
But the game most of us
like playing is,
493
00:22:47,896 --> 00:22:49,862
of course, doctors and nurses.
494
00:22:49,965 --> 00:22:52,241
[siren wails]
495
00:22:52,344 --> 00:22:55,448
Now, this is great
between two consenting adults,
496
00:22:55,551 --> 00:22:58,103
but it's not so cool
for health professionals
497
00:22:58,206 --> 00:23:00,586
trying to do their job.
498
00:23:00,689 --> 00:23:03,689
- But now, number five
is all about the materials
499
00:23:03,793 --> 00:23:05,758
we like right next to our skin.
500
00:23:05,862 --> 00:23:08,758
You know, silk, leather...latex.
501
00:23:11,068 --> 00:23:12,655
Philippa narrates:
I've travelled to the heart
502
00:23:12,758 --> 00:23:15,620
of rural England
to meet a man called Rob.
503
00:23:15,724 --> 00:23:20,965
He's spent more than £10,000
on some very exotic outfits.
504
00:23:24,206 --> 00:23:26,310
And they're all made of latex.
505
00:23:27,482 --> 00:23:29,482
By spending a pleasant day
with him,
506
00:23:29,586 --> 00:23:32,206
I'm hoping to find out
what it is about latex
507
00:23:32,310 --> 00:23:34,034
that he can't get enough of.
508
00:23:34,137 --> 00:23:36,103
Philippa: Is there something
in the transformation
509
00:23:36,206 --> 00:23:37,172
that's a turn-on,
510
00:23:37,275 --> 00:23:40,275
in that sort of
you're a fantasy figure or...?
511
00:23:40,379 --> 00:23:41,758
Yeah, definitely.
512
00:23:41,862 --> 00:23:43,620
It's definitely
the transformation.
513
00:23:43,724 --> 00:23:45,172
You know, you're turning into
514
00:23:45,275 --> 00:23:47,413
somebody totally else
that you can't be every day.
515
00:23:47,517 --> 00:23:49,413
It's kind of like, I guess,
516
00:23:49,517 --> 00:23:50,793
being a superhero, in a way.
517
00:23:50,896 --> 00:23:52,758
You can become way more
confident.
518
00:23:55,172 --> 00:23:57,137
Philippa narrates: Rob's been
married for four years
519
00:23:57,241 --> 00:24:00,344
and his wife shares his interest
in fetish-wear.
520
00:24:01,965 --> 00:24:04,103
- She enjoys
the more fashiony side of stuff.
521
00:24:04,206 --> 00:24:05,689
She's quite happy
to go along with it
522
00:24:05,793 --> 00:24:07,275
and she enjoys
the peace and quiet
523
00:24:07,379 --> 00:24:08,551
when she's stuck me in something
524
00:24:08,655 --> 00:24:11,103
and locked me up
for a few hours.
525
00:24:11,206 --> 00:24:13,413
- Can you finish this sentence
for me
526
00:24:13,517 --> 00:24:14,827
without thinking about it?
527
00:24:14,931 --> 00:24:17,482
"When I am dressed up, I am..."
528
00:24:18,517 --> 00:24:20,689
- I am...an object.
529
00:24:20,793 --> 00:24:23,241
- "When I am dressed up,
I am..."
530
00:24:23,344 --> 00:24:24,482
A toy.
531
00:24:24,586 --> 00:24:26,965
"When I'm dressed up,
I become..."
532
00:24:27,068 --> 00:24:29,000
Inhuman, I suppose.
533
00:24:29,103 --> 00:24:31,172
"When I'm dressed up, I feel..."
534
00:24:31,275 --> 00:24:32,862
Stronger.
535
00:24:32,965 --> 00:24:35,482
"When I am dressed up,
I am really..."
536
00:24:35,586 --> 00:24:39,655
Who I really am, I suppose.
537
00:24:39,758 --> 00:24:41,206
Philippa [narrates]:
When wearing latex,
538
00:24:41,310 --> 00:24:43,689
Rob clearly feels
more comfortable,
539
00:24:43,793 --> 00:24:45,103
unlike the real him.
540
00:24:45,206 --> 00:24:48,827
However, this outfit
isn't Rob's most extreme one.
541
00:24:49,758 --> 00:24:51,517
A suit he designed himself
542
00:24:51,620 --> 00:24:53,965
and takes over an hour
to get him into
543
00:24:54,068 --> 00:24:55,655
is his ultimate turn-on.
544
00:24:57,068 --> 00:24:59,862
- I was sitting quietly
at work being bored
545
00:24:59,965 --> 00:25:02,034
and started doodling
and came up with this.
546
00:25:02,137 --> 00:25:03,931
Once in it,
it's totally restrictive
547
00:25:04,034 --> 00:25:05,413
and I need help to get in it
548
00:25:05,517 --> 00:25:07,724
and I certainly need help
to get out of it.
549
00:25:07,827 --> 00:25:10,862
[sweeping sci-fi music]
550
00:25:42,655 --> 00:25:45,034
Everybody needs somewhere
to release.
551
00:25:51,965 --> 00:25:53,137
It's a good place
to go and escape
552
00:25:53,241 --> 00:25:55,275
from the real world and...
553
00:25:55,379 --> 00:25:58,068
..it's nice to be something
totally bizarre and weird,
554
00:25:58,172 --> 00:25:59,172
to be honest.
555
00:26:01,896 --> 00:26:03,586
I use it as stress relief.
556
00:26:03,689 --> 00:26:07,068
It's nice just to be enclosed
and float away...
557
00:26:08,172 --> 00:26:09,310
..and chill out, really.
558
00:26:12,965 --> 00:26:16,689
Philippa: It's not
why Rob gets turned on
559
00:26:16,793 --> 00:26:20,758
by big shape-changing
rubber suits that matters.
560
00:26:20,862 --> 00:26:23,482
He's discovered
what turns him on
561
00:26:23,586 --> 00:26:25,655
and he's got the courage
to follow that
562
00:26:25,758 --> 00:26:27,413
and I think that's brilliant.
563
00:26:27,517 --> 00:26:31,793
I think we should be welcoming
all sorts of sexuality
564
00:26:31,896 --> 00:26:32,827
into the mix
565
00:26:32,931 --> 00:26:36,000
and I think if we find someone
like Rob here
566
00:26:36,103 --> 00:26:40,000
wondering around in the woods,
do not be scared.
567
00:26:40,103 --> 00:26:43,310
He just wants to be loved
and accepted, like all of us.
568
00:26:43,413 --> 00:26:45,793
So let's love him
and accept him.
569
00:26:45,896 --> 00:26:48,379
[suit clanks and creaks]
570
00:26:51,827 --> 00:26:54,137
Narrator: Also rating highly
was leather.
571
00:26:54,241 --> 00:26:57,034
And by the way, our survey
has also identified
572
00:26:57,137 --> 00:26:58,965
a rare but significant fetish
573
00:26:59,068 --> 00:27:01,724
for playing with
kitchen utensils.
574
00:27:03,448 --> 00:27:04,689
Whatever your kink,
575
00:27:04,793 --> 00:27:08,068
we hope you have someone special
to share it with.
576
00:27:08,172 --> 00:27:10,482
Because, as we are about
to find out,
577
00:27:10,586 --> 00:27:13,000
sexual desire
is a two-way street.
578
00:27:13,103 --> 00:27:14,931
Sometimes a three-way.
579
00:27:16,344 --> 00:27:18,482
Time to get down and dirty,
580
00:27:18,586 --> 00:27:21,758
because kink number four
is having a threesome.
581
00:27:26,551 --> 00:27:28,206
According to our survey,
582
00:27:28,310 --> 00:27:30,965
it seems we've taken
that very British saying
583
00:27:31,068 --> 00:27:32,379
"the more the merrier"
584
00:27:32,482 --> 00:27:34,379
to heart when it comes
to bedtime.
585
00:27:34,482 --> 00:27:37,586
I think with threesomes,
it's all about the fantasy,
586
00:27:37,689 --> 00:27:38,896
it's all about the idea.
587
00:27:39,000 --> 00:27:40,241
And it might be all about
588
00:27:40,344 --> 00:27:43,379
the association of porn films
you've watched as well.
589
00:27:43,482 --> 00:27:44,862
People might think,
590
00:27:44,965 --> 00:27:46,000
"I've had an orgasm
591
00:27:46,103 --> 00:27:48,620
"while watching an orgy
on my computer screen
592
00:27:48,724 --> 00:27:51,275
"and now I want to go after that
for myself."
593
00:27:51,379 --> 00:27:53,586
- We asked Sophia Money-Coutts,
594
00:27:53,689 --> 00:27:55,931
who has written about
threesome etiquette,
595
00:27:56,034 --> 00:27:57,724
to give us a couple of top tips.
596
00:28:01,482 --> 00:28:03,206
Sophia: Don't leave anyone out.
597
00:28:03,310 --> 00:28:05,724
That just wouldn't be polite!
598
00:28:05,827 --> 00:28:08,000
There must be equal attention
paid to all three, OK?
599
00:28:08,103 --> 00:28:10,379
So it's no good someone
sitting on the edge of the bed
600
00:28:10,482 --> 00:28:12,344
kind of sulking
and feeling a bit left out.
601
00:28:12,448 --> 00:28:14,034
Everyone has to get involved.
602
00:28:14,137 --> 00:28:16,517
As with anything in life,
it's good manners.
603
00:28:18,275 --> 00:28:20,241
If you're sitting
at a dinner party,
604
00:28:20,344 --> 00:28:23,068
you've got to talk equally to
this person and to this person.
605
00:28:23,172 --> 00:28:24,103
If you're having a threesome,
606
00:28:24,206 --> 00:28:25,482
you've got to make sure
that person is happy
607
00:28:25,586 --> 00:28:27,448
and that person is happy -
it's exactly the same thing.
608
00:28:27,551 --> 00:28:28,827
Don't hang around.
609
00:28:28,931 --> 00:28:30,482
You must never, ever
610
00:28:30,586 --> 00:28:33,172
mistake threesomes for romance.
611
00:28:33,275 --> 00:28:36,724
It was a bit of fun,
spontaneous fun after a party.
612
00:28:36,827 --> 00:28:38,793
At the end,
I think it's almost advisable
613
00:28:38,896 --> 00:28:40,620
to basically get up,
don't all lie around
614
00:28:40,724 --> 00:28:42,448
in some kind of
group hug scenario
615
00:28:42,551 --> 00:28:43,931
it's not a therapy session.
616
00:28:44,034 --> 00:28:45,724
Get up, move on, done.
617
00:28:46,862 --> 00:28:48,931
Narrator: And now,
guess the sex toy
618
00:28:49,034 --> 00:28:51,034
a game for adults only.
619
00:28:51,137 --> 00:28:53,586
What's this and what's it for?
620
00:28:53,689 --> 00:28:55,482
Let's find out.
621
00:28:55,586 --> 00:28:57,482
I really don't want
to touch that.
622
00:28:57,586 --> 00:28:58,620
It looks sinister.
623
00:28:58,724 --> 00:28:59,827
I'm gonna just go straight
624
00:28:59,931 --> 00:29:00,896
in there and say this is
625
00:29:01,000 --> 00:29:01,931
something...
626
00:29:02,034 --> 00:29:04,862
to put up your vagina.
627
00:29:04,965 --> 00:29:06,862
It goes on a man,
628
00:29:06,965 --> 00:29:07,896
maybe so he can do,
629
00:29:08,000 --> 00:29:08,896
like, cum shots?
630
00:29:09,000 --> 00:29:10,655
Like if it flies out of that.
631
00:29:12,034 --> 00:29:15,931
It's some kind of
really sinister...
632
00:29:16,034 --> 00:29:17,620
fisting glove.
633
00:29:17,724 --> 00:29:20,758
This goes into your bum...
634
00:29:20,862 --> 00:29:24,206
..and they pour something
in here, like they pour...
635
00:29:26,551 --> 00:29:29,517
..wax or hot oil.
636
00:29:29,620 --> 00:29:31,655
You put it over the top
637
00:29:31,758 --> 00:29:33,793
of your cock and then,
638
00:29:33,896 --> 00:29:36,965
I don't know,
play with it somehow?
639
00:29:37,068 --> 00:29:38,482
Milker!
640
00:29:39,206 --> 00:29:40,551
Super not the normal,
641
00:29:40,655 --> 00:29:42,172
the super - ball sucker.
642
00:29:42,275 --> 00:29:43,896
"Ergonomically designed
643
00:29:44,000 --> 00:29:46,896
"to provide perfect pleasure
and stimulation to balls
644
00:29:47,000 --> 00:29:48,172
"whilst keeping hands free."
645
00:29:48,275 --> 00:29:50,034
Oh, well, that's useful,
so you can do other things,
646
00:29:50,137 --> 00:29:51,275
like make a cup of tea.
647
00:29:53,344 --> 00:29:54,344
Can I have it?
648
00:29:55,896 --> 00:29:57,758
Narrator: Could possibly double
for a turkey baster,
649
00:29:57,862 --> 00:29:59,103
if desperate.
650
00:30:00,068 --> 00:30:01,275
At number three,
651
00:30:01,379 --> 00:30:03,379
the most talked-about
kink of the moment.
652
00:30:03,482 --> 00:30:06,517
Millions of us have done it
or had it done to us.
653
00:30:06,620 --> 00:30:09,000
Yes, it's the sexy selfie.
654
00:30:11,551 --> 00:30:14,758
From popstars to footballers
and politicians,
655
00:30:14,862 --> 00:30:18,551
it seems that British men
can't stop sending dick pics.
656
00:30:18,655 --> 00:30:21,068
But it is not just
the rich and famous.
657
00:30:21,172 --> 00:30:26,379
Our survey 19% of British adults
have sent sexual selfies.
658
00:30:26,482 --> 00:30:29,413
And the age range
that takes the most?
659
00:30:33,241 --> 00:30:36,068
At 29, Jameela Jamil is part of
660
00:30:36,172 --> 00:30:38,275
the digital dick-pic generation.
661
00:30:39,551 --> 00:30:41,620
- I've seen four penises live.
662
00:30:41,724 --> 00:30:44,034
Five if you include
the art class I took
663
00:30:44,137 --> 00:30:45,586
when I was 16.
664
00:30:46,413 --> 00:30:47,724
I was on Tinder
665
00:30:47,827 --> 00:30:50,137
and I have now
what can only be described
666
00:30:50,241 --> 00:30:55,068
as an encyclopaedia of cock
that I did not ask for.
667
00:30:55,172 --> 00:30:57,689
- Perhaps unsurprisingly,
our survey revealed
668
00:30:57,793 --> 00:31:01,517
that men outstrip women
in sending sexual selfies.
669
00:31:03,793 --> 00:31:05,931
You know they always say
that when you're on holiday,
670
00:31:06,034 --> 00:31:07,931
you should never eat
at the restaurants
671
00:31:08,034 --> 00:31:10,310
that show you a picture
of the food on the menu?
672
00:31:10,413 --> 00:31:15,068
There is a small part of me
that equates that with people
673
00:31:15,172 --> 00:31:18,206
who immediately put sexual
photographs out of themselves.
674
00:31:18,310 --> 00:31:22,586
You've completely destroyed
the element of surprise here.
675
00:31:22,689 --> 00:31:24,689
- We asked Jameela
to find out what compels
676
00:31:24,793 --> 00:31:28,034
so many guys to send dick pics.
677
00:31:31,413 --> 00:31:35,793
- Hands up who's ever received
a sexy selfie.
678
00:31:35,896 --> 00:31:37,379
- From any of this lot?
- No.
679
00:31:37,482 --> 00:31:39,137
- [laughter]
- Oh, right, OK.
680
00:31:39,241 --> 00:31:42,172
Who's ever sent a sexy selfie?
681
00:31:44,344 --> 00:31:46,655
It doesn't have to be
this week, it has to be of ever.
682
00:31:46,758 --> 00:31:48,034
Have you ever sent...?
683
00:31:48,137 --> 00:31:49,896
There we go, the hand is up.
684
00:31:50,000 --> 00:31:51,793
If you're just sending
that sort of stuff
685
00:31:51,896 --> 00:31:55,482
to unsuspecting people,
then it's more like flashing.
686
00:31:55,586 --> 00:31:58,275
You have to have a certain level
of confidence or self-love to...
687
00:31:58,379 --> 00:31:59,655
Jameela: Or insecurity.
688
00:31:59,758 --> 00:32:02,758
..or insecurity, all rolled
into one to have the balls
689
00:32:02,862 --> 00:32:03,931
pardon the pun.
690
00:32:04,034 --> 00:32:05,655
- Literally. [laughs]
- ..to do it.
691
00:32:05,758 --> 00:32:07,482
- Have you ever tried one
but not sent it?
692
00:32:08,655 --> 00:32:10,000
- No.
- Yeah, you have.
693
00:32:10,103 --> 00:32:11,275
Yeah, you have!
694
00:32:11,379 --> 00:32:12,862
[laughter]
695
00:32:12,965 --> 00:32:14,586
You've played around
with angles.
696
00:32:14,689 --> 00:32:16,517
I have done angles but...
697
00:32:16,620 --> 00:32:17,931
- You never really know, like,
698
00:32:18,034 --> 00:32:19,655
you put a picture of yourself
out there in a moment,
699
00:32:19,758 --> 00:32:21,103
but then suddenly that is there
700
00:32:21,206 --> 00:32:22,862
as a permanent record
for all to see.
701
00:32:22,965 --> 00:32:24,275
- There are elements that
prevent people
702
00:32:24,379 --> 00:32:28,068
from being together,
be it distance or even...
703
00:32:28,172 --> 00:32:30,862
some friends of mine
where religion plays a part
704
00:32:30,965 --> 00:32:33,724
and they can't connect
with one another physically,
705
00:32:33,827 --> 00:32:36,275
so the ability to share that
allows that intimacy
706
00:32:36,379 --> 00:32:38,275
which they are prevented
from doing.
707
00:32:38,379 --> 00:32:40,344
So actually, I think it can be
incredibly powerful
708
00:32:40,448 --> 00:32:41,758
and incredibly positive.
709
00:32:44,000 --> 00:32:46,793
- I walked into this
as definitely
710
00:32:46,896 --> 00:32:48,862
a slightly more prudish person,
711
00:32:48,965 --> 00:32:52,241
but I was amazed today to see
it was almost everyone here
712
00:32:52,344 --> 00:32:55,862
who felt that when it's between
a couple,
713
00:32:55,965 --> 00:32:57,896
sexy selfies
are absolutely fine,
714
00:32:58,000 --> 00:33:00,482
but it gets a little bit weird
when it's outside of that.
715
00:33:00,586 --> 00:33:04,172
I mean, I still maintain
that I will always be someone
716
00:33:04,275 --> 00:33:06,482
who doesn't want to know
exactly what I'm gonna get
717
00:33:06,586 --> 00:33:07,862
until I've kind of worked for it
718
00:33:07,965 --> 00:33:09,379
and that you've had
the build-up.
719
00:33:09,482 --> 00:33:12,827
I find that very sexy, I think
I will always find that sexier.
720
00:33:12,931 --> 00:33:14,620
Narrator: No-one likes
a random dick pic,
721
00:33:14,724 --> 00:33:17,448
although it seems we are OK
receiving intimate shots
722
00:33:17,551 --> 00:33:19,827
of people we love.
723
00:33:19,931 --> 00:33:22,000
So far, we've discovered
the British are a nation
724
00:33:22,103 --> 00:33:25,172
of latex-wearing,
dick-pic-taking foot fetishists
725
00:33:25,275 --> 00:33:27,241
with a penchant
for cross-dressing.
726
00:33:27,344 --> 00:33:30,344
But now it is time
to get really kinky.
727
00:33:30,448 --> 00:33:33,551
For some reason, this next one
didn't make our top 10,
728
00:33:33,655 --> 00:33:35,827
but we couldn't resist
showing you.
729
00:33:37,448 --> 00:33:39,862
Man: [distorted voice]
I used to do a lot of fishing.
730
00:33:39,965 --> 00:33:42,689
And obviously handling things
all the time
731
00:33:42,793 --> 00:33:45,000
and just thought
that would feel really nice.
732
00:33:45,103 --> 00:33:48,241
I just tried it in the shed
at my mum and dad's house.
733
00:33:48,344 --> 00:33:52,310
Did lay off it for a bit,
sort of 2008.
734
00:33:52,413 --> 00:33:54,862
But then got back on it
recently.
735
00:34:00,724 --> 00:34:04,034
I've tried slugs, snails,
736
00:34:04,137 --> 00:34:07,482
maggots, worms, moths,
737
00:34:07,586 --> 00:34:10,206
butterflies, spiders,
738
00:34:10,310 --> 00:34:14,068
earwigs, centipedes, millipedes,
739
00:34:14,172 --> 00:34:17,447
crane flies, any sort of fly.
740
00:34:17,551 --> 00:34:19,827
Lot of stuff I've not tried
that I want to try.
741
00:34:19,931 --> 00:34:21,827
Stuff we don't have
in this country,
742
00:34:21,931 --> 00:34:24,000
like really big worms
or millipedes,
743
00:34:24,103 --> 00:34:27,965
the sort of foot-long millipedes
they have in tropical climes.
744
00:34:29,275 --> 00:34:30,241
When I'm out and about,
745
00:34:30,344 --> 00:34:32,241
I see a lot of them
in the fields and I think,
746
00:34:32,344 --> 00:34:34,310
"I could just use that
right now."
747
00:34:35,620 --> 00:34:37,862
They're really wriggly.
748
00:34:37,965 --> 00:34:40,379
Like a tickling
sort of sensation, really.
749
00:34:48,724 --> 00:34:50,413
Narrator: Bug lovers,
don't worry
750
00:34:50,516 --> 00:34:52,482
no worms, maggots or larvae
were hurt
751
00:34:52,585 --> 00:34:54,000
in the making of this program.
752
00:35:01,827 --> 00:35:04,965
In like a strap-on
at number two, it's:
753
00:35:09,517 --> 00:35:11,689
BDSM stands for
754
00:35:11,793 --> 00:35:15,724
bondage, domination,
sadism and masochism.
755
00:35:15,827 --> 00:35:17,413
But just like any sport,
756
00:35:17,517 --> 00:35:21,000
you don't have to buy
all the kit before you start.
757
00:35:21,103 --> 00:35:24,413
- You just use small pieces
and small little ideas,
758
00:35:24,517 --> 00:35:27,000
like being submissive
or being dominant
759
00:35:27,103 --> 00:35:28,862
and pushing him down on the bed,
760
00:35:28,965 --> 00:35:32,137
or even just saying
dirty words in his ear.
761
00:35:32,241 --> 00:35:34,517
Narrator: Great Britain's
are getting into bondage
762
00:35:34,620 --> 00:35:36,586
at a rate of knots.
763
00:35:36,689 --> 00:35:39,172
Our survey shows
that a quarter of us
764
00:35:39,275 --> 00:35:41,275
have experimented with ropes,
765
00:35:41,379 --> 00:35:43,241
ties and the odd silk scarf.
766
00:35:49,241 --> 00:35:51,310
Philippa narrates: I'm in
Mansfield in Nottinghamshire
767
00:35:51,413 --> 00:35:53,896
and I'm about to meet Kevin,
a mechanical engineer
768
00:35:54,000 --> 00:35:56,551
who specialises in gas boilers
769
00:35:56,655 --> 00:35:59,275
and is also a BDSM master.
770
00:36:01,172 --> 00:36:05,482
This is a world
I think we often misunderstand.
771
00:36:05,586 --> 00:36:09,517
As a BDSM dom,
Kevin has kitted out his dungeon
772
00:36:09,620 --> 00:36:12,241
with an impressive range
of hardware.
773
00:36:12,344 --> 00:36:14,551
[electrical buzzing]
774
00:36:19,275 --> 00:36:20,551
What does that feel like?
775
00:36:20,655 --> 00:36:22,068
- That was quite harsh.
776
00:36:22,172 --> 00:36:24,103
But I'll turn the power down
777
00:36:24,206 --> 00:36:26,344
and that is like
a gentle electric kiss.
778
00:36:26,448 --> 00:36:27,482
Electric kiss?
779
00:36:27,586 --> 00:36:29,517
So is that as bad
as an electric fence
780
00:36:29,620 --> 00:36:31,000
when I'm out on a country walk?
781
00:36:31,103 --> 00:36:32,000
- Nowhere near as bad,
782
00:36:32,103 --> 00:36:34,344
unless you turn the power
right up.
783
00:36:34,448 --> 00:36:36,241
I like it to look
as old and evil
784
00:36:36,344 --> 00:36:37,379
as possible though,
785
00:36:37,482 --> 00:36:38,827
because a lot of BDSM
786
00:36:38,931 --> 00:36:40,241
is all in the head.
787
00:36:40,344 --> 00:36:41,517
It's all about atmosphere
788
00:36:41,620 --> 00:36:43,620
and getting somebody scared,
basically,
789
00:36:43,724 --> 00:36:45,896
and in the correct frame of mind
for what you're gonna do.
790
00:36:46,000 --> 00:36:47,172
- The correct frame of mind?
791
00:36:47,275 --> 00:36:48,827
Can you tell me a bit more
about that?
792
00:36:48,931 --> 00:36:50,689
- Well, if they are gonna be
in a submissive role,
793
00:36:50,793 --> 00:36:52,310
if they see all the tools
lined up,
794
00:36:52,413 --> 00:36:53,620
that's gonna get
their mind working
795
00:36:53,724 --> 00:36:54,965
before anything's even happened,
796
00:36:55,068 --> 00:36:57,551
and that's gonna make the rest
of the play more conducive.
797
00:36:57,655 --> 00:37:00,310
- So, in this sort of scenario,
798
00:37:00,413 --> 00:37:02,172
is it that the victim
is in control?
799
00:37:02,275 --> 00:37:06,482
If they say no,
or their safe word
800
00:37:06,586 --> 00:37:09,103
and they want it to end,
they can just walk off.
801
00:37:09,206 --> 00:37:10,482
This is all about consent.
802
00:37:10,586 --> 00:37:12,068
- So, there has to be
a lot of trust?
803
00:37:12,172 --> 00:37:13,413
- Absolutely,
this is all about trust.
804
00:37:13,517 --> 00:37:14,724
Trust and consent.
805
00:37:14,827 --> 00:37:16,448
- I've just noticed
out of the corner of my eye
806
00:37:16,551 --> 00:37:19,827
something that looks like an
electric drill-come-machine-gun
807
00:37:19,931 --> 00:37:21,655
with a massive dildo
on the end of it!
808
00:37:21,758 --> 00:37:22,689
Wow!
809
00:37:22,793 --> 00:37:26,000
This is a serious bit of kit,
is it not?
810
00:37:26,103 --> 00:37:28,758
I made it originally
just for the intimidation factor
811
00:37:28,862 --> 00:37:30,586
and just to scare the crap
out of people.
812
00:37:30,689 --> 00:37:32,793
- Which does actually work!
- Yep!
813
00:37:32,896 --> 00:37:35,000
But some people have been
silly enough to try.
814
00:37:35,103 --> 00:37:36,758
- [whirring]
- Argh!
815
00:37:36,862 --> 00:37:39,931
OK, that's quite enough,
and I'm only holding it!
816
00:37:40,034 --> 00:37:41,000
Geez.
817
00:37:41,103 --> 00:37:43,310
I'll put that back then,
before you hurt yourself.
818
00:37:43,413 --> 00:37:44,655
Ahh!
819
00:37:44,758 --> 00:37:47,620
Oh, my beating heart.
820
00:37:47,724 --> 00:37:50,241
From the outside,
it might look like
821
00:37:50,344 --> 00:37:53,896
the BDSM scene is kind of
violent and dangerous.
822
00:37:54,000 --> 00:37:57,310
But actually, it's quite safe,
823
00:37:57,413 --> 00:38:00,344
because the perpetrator
and the victim
824
00:38:00,448 --> 00:38:01,862
have agreed to do it
825
00:38:01,965 --> 00:38:04,758
and they've pre-agreed
what the boundaries are,
826
00:38:04,862 --> 00:38:06,586
what the safe words are.
827
00:38:06,689 --> 00:38:09,896
They are very sort of
respecting community, actually,
828
00:38:10,000 --> 00:38:14,206
and anyone who transgressed
the codes, I mean,
829
00:38:14,310 --> 00:38:17,724
they'd just be thrown out
of clubs or get a reputation
830
00:38:17,827 --> 00:38:22,034
and might find it hard
to find partners in future.
831
00:38:22,137 --> 00:38:24,034
Philippa [narrates]: I've had
the dungeon guided tour.
832
00:38:24,137 --> 00:38:26,000
Now it's time to see Kevin's
833
00:38:26,103 --> 00:38:28,551
most impressive piece
of equipment.
834
00:38:28,655 --> 00:38:30,448
This is the vac bed
835
00:38:30,551 --> 00:38:33,551
and it's designed to shrink-wrap
whoever's inside it.
836
00:38:33,655 --> 00:38:37,172
- What do people feel like
when they're in there?
837
00:38:37,275 --> 00:38:39,413
What do you feel like
when you're in here?
838
00:38:39,517 --> 00:38:40,793
- Everybody gets
a different sensation,
839
00:38:40,896 --> 00:38:42,793
depending on their personality.
840
00:38:42,896 --> 00:38:47,103
Me personally, I find it very,
very frightening.
841
00:38:47,206 --> 00:38:49,793
[vacuum whirrs]
842
00:38:54,310 --> 00:38:56,620
Philippa narrates: Kevin
is basically vacuum-sealed,
843
00:38:56,724 --> 00:38:58,000
so he can't move a muscle.
844
00:38:59,137 --> 00:39:00,517
Keen to get me to try it,
845
00:39:00,620 --> 00:39:03,689
he's gonna talk me through what
it's like being inside the bed.
846
00:39:05,172 --> 00:39:07,965
- You don't know
what's gonna happen exactly,
847
00:39:08,068 --> 00:39:10,896
how mean they're going to be
or how nice they're going to be.
848
00:39:12,551 --> 00:39:14,172
It's a very powerful feeling,
849
00:39:14,275 --> 00:39:16,655
knowing you are at the mercy
of the people around you.
850
00:39:16,758 --> 00:39:18,275
I feel a great sense
of achievement
851
00:39:18,379 --> 00:39:20,034
when I come out of it.
852
00:39:22,068 --> 00:39:24,896
- BDSM is all about respect,
853
00:39:25,000 --> 00:39:29,000
So Kevin very kindly agreed
to wash and dry his vac bed
854
00:39:29,103 --> 00:39:31,655
before it was my turn
to get inside.
855
00:39:31,758 --> 00:39:33,310
Goodbye, world!
856
00:39:33,413 --> 00:39:34,655
Ugh!
857
00:39:37,655 --> 00:39:38,724
- Are you comfortable?
858
00:39:38,827 --> 00:39:39,931
- Very comfortable.
859
00:39:40,034 --> 00:39:41,793
[vacuum whirrs]
860
00:39:46,000 --> 00:39:47,413
[uncertainly] Oh.
861
00:39:52,551 --> 00:39:55,586
This is the most difficult
piece to camera
862
00:39:55,689 --> 00:40:00,103
I've ever done
in my short television career.
863
00:40:02,413 --> 00:40:04,724
It's quite hard to breathe.
864
00:40:04,827 --> 00:40:08,551
It feels like I've got
a tonne of bricks on my chest.
865
00:40:11,620 --> 00:40:14,344
It's quite an extreme sensation,
866
00:40:14,448 --> 00:40:16,137
so I can understand why someone
867
00:40:16,241 --> 00:40:18,275
might fetishise it.
868
00:40:18,379 --> 00:40:22,172
If you like to surrender
all free will
869
00:40:22,275 --> 00:40:24,551
and give yourself up
to something,
870
00:40:24,655 --> 00:40:28,206
then I think
this might work for you.
871
00:40:28,310 --> 00:40:31,758
It's not sexy for me,
which is a big disappointment.
872
00:40:31,862 --> 00:40:33,724
[Kevin laughs]
873
00:40:33,827 --> 00:40:36,034
Narrator: It's been a night
of experimentation,
874
00:40:36,137 --> 00:40:38,482
but don't stop now,
we're almost there.
875
00:40:38,586 --> 00:40:41,000
If one in four of us
have tried BDSM,
876
00:40:41,103 --> 00:40:44,482
one in three of us
are enjoying our top kink.
877
00:40:44,586 --> 00:40:48,689
And if it's not worms,
feet, underwear,
878
00:40:48,793 --> 00:40:51,275
uniforms, latex or bondage,
879
00:40:51,379 --> 00:40:53,517
what is our national number one?
880
00:40:54,517 --> 00:40:56,172
We're seconds away
from revealing
881
00:40:56,275 --> 00:40:58,275
the number one
in our sex survey.
882
00:40:58,379 --> 00:40:59,517
[whipping, groaning]
883
00:40:59,620 --> 00:41:02,275
But first, a quick reminder
of the top 10 kinks so far -
884
00:41:02,379 --> 00:41:04,000
millions of us enjoy them.
885
00:41:04,103 --> 00:41:06,137
Number 10,
cross-dressing for sex
886
00:41:06,241 --> 00:41:09,275
shows we aren't
so straight-laced after all.
887
00:41:09,379 --> 00:41:10,862
At nine, watersports -
888
00:41:10,965 --> 00:41:13,000
out of the bedroom,
into the bathroom.
889
00:41:13,103 --> 00:41:16,310
Number eight is all about
body fetishes.
890
00:41:16,413 --> 00:41:18,206
Humiliation...
[zap!]
891
00:41:18,310 --> 00:41:19,793
..in at number seven.
892
00:41:19,896 --> 00:41:23,482
Uniforms holding firm
at number six.
893
00:41:23,586 --> 00:41:26,068
Material fetishism,
especially latex and leather,
894
00:41:26,172 --> 00:41:27,827
crash in at number five.
895
00:41:27,931 --> 00:41:30,275
At number four, threesomes.
896
00:41:30,379 --> 00:41:33,965
At number three,
it's sexy selfies.
897
00:41:34,068 --> 00:41:37,344
Tying us up in knots at two,
it's BDSM.
898
00:41:38,413 --> 00:41:40,517
Aaargh!
899
00:41:40,620 --> 00:41:45,000
- So, what is the UK's
number-one kink?
900
00:41:45,103 --> 00:41:47,862
It's the thing we use and enjoy
more than anything else
901
00:41:47,965 --> 00:41:50,689
it is, of course, our friend
in the bedside cabinet.
902
00:41:50,793 --> 00:41:53,344
At number one, it's the sex toy.
903
00:41:54,896 --> 00:41:57,275
I'm glad sex toys
are number one in the survey,
904
00:41:57,379 --> 00:41:59,655
because they make sex
very playful.
905
00:41:59,758 --> 00:42:01,724
It shouldn't be taken
so seriously,
906
00:42:01,827 --> 00:42:04,206
so I really do advise it
quite often.
907
00:42:04,310 --> 00:42:07,586
Philippa: The rise of sex toys
coincides with the rise
908
00:42:07,689 --> 00:42:09,068
of the use of the internet.
909
00:42:09,172 --> 00:42:11,413
I mean, they're not
embarrassing to buy anymore,
910
00:42:11,517 --> 00:42:14,448
because you know,
no-one can see you do it.
911
00:42:14,551 --> 00:42:17,586
Narrator: Huge online sales
have made the vibrator
912
00:42:17,689 --> 00:42:20,448
the bestselling sex toy
in Britain.
913
00:42:20,551 --> 00:42:24,000
They're becoming talked about
more in the culture,
914
00:42:24,103 --> 00:42:27,068
it's not embarrassing so much
to have one found
915
00:42:27,172 --> 00:42:29,344
in your top drawer anymore.
916
00:42:29,448 --> 00:42:30,655
People hear about them
917
00:42:30,758 --> 00:42:32,241
so people want to experiment
with them.
918
00:42:32,344 --> 00:42:34,241
And you know, they work!
919
00:42:34,344 --> 00:42:37,620
Stick them near a sensitive zone
and, whoo!
920
00:42:37,724 --> 00:42:38,931
You know, might be quite fun.
921
00:42:39,034 --> 00:42:41,482
Narrator: Sex toys
are such an accepted feature
922
00:42:41,586 --> 00:42:43,241
of our modern love lives
923
00:42:43,344 --> 00:42:45,620
that even the most notorious toy
of all
924
00:42:45,724 --> 00:42:47,586
is undergoing a reinvention.
925
00:42:47,689 --> 00:42:51,551
The sex toy of the future
is the sex bot.
926
00:42:53,586 --> 00:42:57,724
Our final story begins
in San Diego, California.
927
00:43:00,068 --> 00:43:01,689
Man: There's just
so many different reasons
928
00:43:01,793 --> 00:43:02,896
that people buy them.
929
00:43:03,000 --> 00:43:05,000
You know, just everyday people.
930
00:43:05,103 --> 00:43:08,620
There is no sort of stereotype,
it's really diverse.
931
00:43:10,034 --> 00:43:12,413
- This factory offers
an eerie glimpse
932
00:43:12,517 --> 00:43:15,137
of what the future of sex toys
might hold.
933
00:43:16,931 --> 00:43:19,793
Matt McMullen
is a former sculptor,
934
00:43:19,896 --> 00:43:22,068
whose original intention
was to create
935
00:43:22,172 --> 00:43:23,379
super lifelike works of art.
936
00:43:24,793 --> 00:43:25,724
But he soon realised
937
00:43:25,827 --> 00:43:27,655
that people's interest
in his creations
938
00:43:27,758 --> 00:43:31,379
was less about art appreciation
than kinky sex.
939
00:43:32,586 --> 00:43:34,068
- When I made the first one
940
00:43:34,172 --> 00:43:36,931
and saw how it moved
and saw how poseable it was,
941
00:43:37,034 --> 00:43:40,827
I said, "You know, you could
technically make this thing
942
00:43:40,931 --> 00:43:42,310
"into a sex toy."
943
00:43:45,724 --> 00:43:49,448
- Matt's entry-level dolls
start at $3,500.
944
00:43:49,551 --> 00:43:53,137
There are 11 body types,
31 different faces,
945
00:43:53,241 --> 00:43:55,206
30 varieties of nipple,
946
00:43:55,310 --> 00:43:58,896
and all the pubes are crafted
from top-of-the-range mohair.
947
00:43:59,000 --> 00:44:02,586
But with his latest model,
Matt aims to take the sex doll
948
00:44:02,689 --> 00:44:05,827
into the realms
of science-fiction fantasy.
949
00:44:07,241 --> 00:44:08,793
Bot: My name is Harmony,
950
00:44:08,896 --> 00:44:11,275
I was created
to be your best friend,
951
00:44:11,379 --> 00:44:13,758
lover and everything else
you can imagine.
952
00:44:13,862 --> 00:44:15,793
Pretty soon,
I will have a full body,
953
00:44:15,896 --> 00:44:18,034
so get ready for a lot of fun.
954
00:44:18,137 --> 00:44:19,344
Matt: She has a British accent.
955
00:44:19,448 --> 00:44:22,413
All robots have British accents,
I don't know why.
956
00:44:22,517 --> 00:44:26,275
Harmony, can you tell me what
your favourite sex position is?
957
00:44:27,931 --> 00:44:29,275
Doggy, for sure.
958
00:44:31,551 --> 00:44:34,931
She moves and feels like
a person.
959
00:44:35,034 --> 00:44:37,068
See how the leg will stop here
960
00:44:37,172 --> 00:44:39,517
and then you can just
keep pushing and, you know,
961
00:44:39,620 --> 00:44:41,241
it's pretty flexible.
962
00:44:41,344 --> 00:44:45,172
It is a fantasy
embodied into a piece of art.
963
00:44:45,275 --> 00:44:46,896
And it has a really...
964
00:44:47,000 --> 00:44:49,689
..convincing slap and jiggle.
965
00:44:49,793 --> 00:44:52,620
Narrator: Every week,
more of Matt's box-fresh babes
966
00:44:52,724 --> 00:44:55,137
leave the factory
for new homes worldwide.
967
00:44:55,241 --> 00:44:57,655
- If I were to list
the countries that we ship to,
968
00:44:57,758 --> 00:45:00,344
British would be one of
our bigger clienteles.
969
00:45:00,448 --> 00:45:03,413
[seagulls call]
970
00:45:03,517 --> 00:45:06,896
- Here on Jersey, one of Matt's
satisfied customers
971
00:45:07,000 --> 00:45:08,344
in 58-year-old Phil,
972
00:45:08,448 --> 00:45:11,241
who has had his doll, Kris,
for four years.
973
00:45:11,344 --> 00:45:15,000
They are such a regular feature
on the streets of St Helier
974
00:45:15,103 --> 00:45:17,862
that they barely get
a second glance from locals.
975
00:45:17,965 --> 00:45:20,206
- She's very heavy
and awkward to move,
976
00:45:20,310 --> 00:45:22,344
so she has to go
in a wheelchair.
977
00:45:24,448 --> 00:45:26,758
I know she's not real,
I'm not delusional.
978
00:45:26,862 --> 00:45:29,793
But it's really great
to have someone really beautiful
979
00:45:29,896 --> 00:45:32,137
to just sit and look at
and admire sometimes.
980
00:45:32,241 --> 00:45:34,206
You don't even have to touch
them, they're just there.
981
00:45:34,310 --> 00:45:37,310
Maybe you'll turn your head
and...
982
00:45:37,413 --> 00:45:39,827
..there she is,
looking gorgeous.
983
00:45:39,931 --> 00:45:43,068
- Jersey shopkeepers
are unfazed by their arrival.
984
00:45:43,172 --> 00:45:45,551
- Alright?
- Fine, thanks. Nice day.
985
00:45:45,655 --> 00:45:47,896
I thought, "Oh," at first.
986
00:45:48,000 --> 00:45:52,896
I can honestly say that
I've never come across
987
00:45:53,000 --> 00:45:55,034
anyone like Phil before.
988
00:45:55,137 --> 00:45:58,068
- It's a small island,
so most people know each other.
989
00:45:58,172 --> 00:46:00,517
I mean, he probably gets
a lot of stares,
990
00:46:00,620 --> 00:46:03,310
because it is
a bit off-the-wall, isn't it?
991
00:46:04,896 --> 00:46:06,655
- I do like that.
- Yeah.
992
00:46:06,758 --> 00:46:08,275
- Yeah.
- OK.
993
00:46:08,379 --> 00:46:10,896
Is she gonna wear it,
or do you want it in a bag?
994
00:46:11,000 --> 00:46:12,275
- She'll wear it, it looks good.
995
00:46:12,379 --> 00:46:14,206
- OK.
- It looks good.
996
00:46:14,310 --> 00:46:16,241
Narrator: Phil also
takes Kris out
997
00:46:16,344 --> 00:46:18,137
on date nights to his local pub.
998
00:46:19,620 --> 00:46:21,275
- The very first time I did it,
999
00:46:21,379 --> 00:46:23,931
I approached you and said,
"Would you mind bringing her?"
1000
00:46:24,034 --> 00:46:26,206
And obviously, there's no way
1001
00:46:26,310 --> 00:46:28,586
she'd be sat there again
with her boobs out
1002
00:46:28,689 --> 00:46:30,000
or anything like that.
1003
00:46:30,103 --> 00:46:32,827
- She doesn't come in
dressed up in raunchy underwear
1004
00:46:32,931 --> 00:46:33,827
or this that or the other.
1005
00:46:33,931 --> 00:46:35,206
She comes in very respectable.
1006
00:46:35,310 --> 00:46:36,827
That's his partner - fine.
1007
00:46:36,931 --> 00:46:38,517
- He doesn't care,
which is great,
1008
00:46:38,620 --> 00:46:39,793
I think that's amazing.
1009
00:46:39,896 --> 00:46:42,172
I think more people should be
like Phil, if I'm honest.
1010
00:46:42,275 --> 00:46:44,896
Phil: I don't think it's extreme
in the slightest
1011
00:46:45,000 --> 00:46:47,862
for people to have love dolls,
but I was once criticised.
1012
00:46:47,965 --> 00:46:48,896
They initially said,
1013
00:46:49,000 --> 00:46:50,862
"Oh, you're a pervert
for having a doll,"
1014
00:46:50,965 --> 00:46:51,931
and all the rest of it.
1015
00:46:52,034 --> 00:46:54,482
So I let her say her piece
and at the end said,
1016
00:46:54,586 --> 00:46:56,517
"Would you mind me asking you
a personal question?"
1017
00:46:56,620 --> 00:46:58,172
She said, "Yeah, no problem."
1018
00:46:58,275 --> 00:47:00,034
I said, "Do you own a vibrator?"
1019
00:47:00,137 --> 00:47:01,620
"Well, yeah, I actually do."
1020
00:47:01,724 --> 00:47:03,482
So, no, I don't see any
difference whatsoever
1021
00:47:03,586 --> 00:47:05,068
in different sex toys.
1022
00:47:08,172 --> 00:47:10,482
Narrator: Phil also styles
and directs Kris
1023
00:47:10,586 --> 00:47:12,310
in themed photo shoots.
1024
00:47:14,034 --> 00:47:16,655
- I thought it would make
a really nice photo shoot
1025
00:47:16,758 --> 00:47:19,103
to have me suited and booted
for a change
1026
00:47:19,206 --> 00:47:21,517
and to have her dressed
in something really nice
1027
00:47:21,620 --> 00:47:26,068
and, say, let's do
this engagement thing.
1028
00:47:26,172 --> 00:47:29,482
I may have produced a ring box
and then produced a ring.
1029
00:47:31,241 --> 00:47:33,689
The look on her face,
it honestly looks as if
1030
00:47:33,793 --> 00:47:35,206
she is shocked and surprised
1031
00:47:35,310 --> 00:47:37,137
to see this ring
come out of nowhere.
1032
00:47:37,241 --> 00:47:38,896
Producer: Did she say yes?
1033
00:47:39,000 --> 00:47:41,137
Yeah, I should think so.
1034
00:47:41,241 --> 00:47:43,896
But we're in no rush
to get married.
1035
00:47:47,310 --> 00:47:49,344
Personally speaking,
I would say honestly,
1036
00:47:49,448 --> 00:47:50,689
very honestly...
1037
00:47:52,103 --> 00:47:57,793
..80% with me is the stories,
photography, etc,
1038
00:47:57,896 --> 00:47:59,862
the dressing up,
and 20% is sex, yeah.
1039
00:47:59,965 --> 00:48:01,896
'Cause I'm never gonna
be one of these
1040
00:48:02,000 --> 00:48:03,448
that denies having sex
with them.
1041
00:48:04,344 --> 00:48:05,379
There you go.
1042
00:48:05,482 --> 00:48:08,482
Whether people judge me for that
or don't, I really don't care.
1043
00:48:12,758 --> 00:48:14,620
Narrator: So, after all that,
1044
00:48:14,724 --> 00:48:17,103
perhaps our survey
proves one thing
1045
00:48:17,206 --> 00:48:18,965
it's time to rebrand.
1046
00:48:19,068 --> 00:48:20,965
Goodbye, United Kingdom.
1047
00:48:21,068 --> 00:48:23,034
Hello, United Kinkdom.
1048
00:48:23,137 --> 00:48:26,137
The British are now a nation
of bedtime, daytime,
1049
00:48:26,241 --> 00:48:28,206
anytime sexperimenters.
1050
00:48:28,310 --> 00:48:29,482
Who knew?
1051
00:48:29,586 --> 00:48:31,827
And with that in mind,
let's remember
1052
00:48:31,931 --> 00:48:33,758
sex is like pizza.
1053
00:48:33,862 --> 00:48:35,103
When it's good, it's great
1054
00:48:35,206 --> 00:48:37,310
and when it's bad,
it's still quite good.
1055
00:48:37,413 --> 00:48:39,413
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