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* your love is like a river *

* flowing through my veins *

* your love is the fever *

* I can't get enough *

* I'm on fire *

* we're on fire *

* our love is too much
for just one heart to take *

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Come in.

Hey, honey.

Hey, Kamala.

We've been living together
for a little while now,

and Jen and I have
been at each other.

- So you gonna take a shower?
- I'm gonna take a shower.

Can I take one with you?

Yeah, can I brush
my teeth first?

If you must.

I felt like taking a shower
with the warm water

would help us relax, help us,
you know, connect again.

What?

Since I've moved in,

we haven't had as much fun
together.

It's been more about business
and getting the house ready

and rules.

Girl, you have sexy salsa legs.

So it was a nice change
to have her come in

and wanna be flirtatious
and friendly

and get in the shower.

I think we should have a party

to celebrate you're here.

We've been having poly potlucks
for six years

every single month.

And, you know, it had been
a month since she moved in.

I thought the one way
she would really feel welcomed

is if we did
a housewarming party.

I think it's a great idea.

Are we gonna let just
random people show up?

We can talk about
the invitation list.

- Okay.
- Love you.

- I love you too.
- Okay.

I think a housewarming party

is a good start to get me
to feel at home here.

I think she was really trying
to get me to feel like

this is my house too.

I'm creating an invitation,

and I usually send it out
to various lists,

but this one's
gonna be special.

It's just gonna be
for Southern California,

polyamorous people only.

And I hope that
some new people come.

You know, I just wanted
to brainstorm with everybody.

And I thought I'd do
a combination potluck

and housewarming

and really make it like

a big community welcome
for you guys

'cause I think everyone
thinks...

- Cool.
- of it as our house.

And I want them to know,
you know,

to think of it
as our pod's house.

So...
- Awesome. Well, thank you.

That sounds fun.

So Michael, Tahl, Jen,

- and then Roxanne, obviously.
- Yeah, obviously.

Oh, shocker.

Michael wants Roxanne
to show up.

Roxanne is
my favorite girlfriend,

and Michael wants me
to share her.

And I can't blame him,
but, like...

You know, could he
be a little more obvious?

What's the deal with Roxanne?

Can I... How far can I
go with Roxanne?

- At the party?
- This is a poly potluck.

- It's not a sex party.
- Absolutely.

- So...
- Yeah.

Let's do what's
appropriate for the setting.

- Cool, cool.
- Yay.

Okay, can I make out with her?

Um... Yeah.
I'll be there.

- So, you know...
- Wow. Really?

- Can I?
- If I'm there.

Hey, Tahl.

Kamala has given me permission
to make out with Roxanne.

And making out would be
deep kissing,

not just a peck on the lips.

We're talking French kissing

and whatever the heck
we want, you know,

as long as it involves tongues.

We should invite some
of our lovers

from around
Southern California,

like Cheri.

'Cause, uh, you know,
Cheri's...

- Part of the pod.
- Part of the pod.

Honestly, I'm not...

I'm not that comfortable
with Cheri coming.

Cheri is Michael
and Kamala's lover.

Cheri and Tahl used to date,

and Tahl has made
mistakes with her.

He lied a couple times.

And in polyamory, honesty
is the most important thing.

We're not getting along.
We're not getting along at all.

I want her to come anyhow.

I think, at this point,
you kind of need

to take responsibility
for your emotions on this issue

and understand that I would
like her there.

We don't exclude people

because there's somebody there
that doesn't want them to come.

Typically,
in a monogamous breakup,

couples stop talking,

and sometimes they
don't even see each other.

But in polyamory, we don't
even call it breakup.

We call it "transition."

Jen needs to learn
how to transition

into friendship with Cheri.

Cheri's not going anywhere.

She's gonna have to get used to
her being part of our life.

If it was my house,
I wouldn't invite Cheri.

I wouldn't... Or I wouldn't
want her to come

- until I had a conversation...
- Except... except

it's my house too,

and, you know,
I stopped seeing her

because you wanted me to stop
having sex with her.

This is my house as well.

And... But you also have to take
some fucking responsibility

around... You know,
the stupid shit

that you did when
you were with her.

- Yeah.
- And that it's really painful

for me every time I see her

because she wants
to pretend...

- So let me get...
- Like jealous...

Let me fuckin' finish.
Like jealousy doesn't exist.

- And... it's hard for me.
- So... Okay.

So you're telling me
I can't be friends with her.

Is that what you're saying?

I'm not telling you
you can't be friends... No.

You are, you're saying
she can't come over to my house.

No, what I said...
Let me...

What I said was, "I feel
uncomfortable with her here,"

because she and I haven't
had a conversation yet.

Which means you don't
want her here.

You know what?

This is where
I'm drawing the line.

This is all our house.

And I'm not gonna be told
who I can and can't have

over at my house
if they're a friend.

- I'm totally... You know what?
- And you know what?

I'm totally willing to be
flexible with the sex part.

I'm not willing to be told

who I can and can't
be friends with.

All right, stop.
All right, just stop.

No.

My email box is so pressive.

You and your email box.

I look at it, and I think

I'm gonna have
an anxiety attack.

All the unread messages.

And mine has zero
unread messages.

How do we relate to each other?

Lindsey and I
have been successful

at finding a lot
of alone time lately,

and Vanessa's very respectful
of that.

- Are you showering with me?
- Yeah.

Cool.

Whoo ha ha! Whoo!

Whoo! Whoo!

One of my favorite things
about Lindsey

is that we've been together
ten years.

Even if I was having sex
with 100 other people.

Sex with Lindsey would be
totally special

and unique and profound.

I really cherish the moments
that Anthony and I have.

When we get in the shower
together,

it feels sacred.

- Hey, Linds!
- Yeah?

Can you come here?

What's going on?

I'm looking at poly websites.

You know, meet-ups
and that kind of stuff.

- Which one?
- Uh, the San Diego one.

Why are we even on these lists?

I personally need
to talk to other poly people

not just out of curiosity,
but, for, like,

advice and solidarity.

I signed up for some poly
groups, email lists

because a lot of people
are in the closet

about being poly,
and therefore,

you kind of have to go
online to find them.

Anyway, what is it?

"Friends and lovers,
this is a special invitation

to our monthly poly potluck.

No meat, drugs, or alcohol.

Open to all
experience levels."

Wait, what experience level
are we? Yeah.

I'm not sure
what they mean by "levels,"

but I'm hoping that there will
be people at this party

that are at higher levels
than we are.

Okay, I'm saying yes.

Yes.

It'll be our first
formal invite

as the engaged triad.

That's... I love that.

Vanessa's working tonight,
right?

Yeah, she's working tonight.

Let's go see her.

Now that we're engaged,
we can go to this party,

hopeful that we'll be able
to find like-minded people

and have a community.

I'm excited.

No. Look, no, we're clearing
this. Can you hold one...

No, let's put some mediation
into it

'cause it's going... It's kind of
spiraling down right now.

- It is spiraling down.
- She just...

It doesn't have to go this way.

- Okay. All right.
- Okay. So thank you.

It's disturbing to see
Jen and Tahl fighting.

Kamala and I have had
our fights

in the beginning
of our relationship,

but we've really worked on
how to communicate

in a way that we're not
yelling at each other.

I'm hoping that Jen and Tahl,

when they fight individually,

uh, that we can sort of
be the mediators.

I love living here,

it just doesn't feel
like it's my house.

It feels like it's your rules,
your house,

and if I make a mistake,
I'm gonna get punish...

I almost feel like
I'm living with my parents.

What's a little
frustrating is...

Because I'm not in my own house
where I can say,

"hey, I'm gonna do whatever
the fuck I want."

The bottom line is, what do
you need to be comfortable

and to make the most
of the party,

even if you don't say anything
to her all night?

Just know that I'm just
gonna be a little bit

uncomfortable with it,
and if she's here,

I probably won't talk to her.

Are you okay with that, then?

I'm okay. But, you know,
please invite Cheri.

- I'll deal with my own reaction.
- Nice. Thank you.

That's... that's really
big of you.

Thank you.

- Mm.
- All right, thank you.

I just... I think I just
need some space.

I just need a minute.
I just wanna go to my room.

I understand.

Doesn't look like this
has been resolved at all.

Can we... Can we just
talk about this for a second?

This whole... I guess
my main point is that

I know I'm jealous, and I know
it's hard for you to take.

But when I'm upset,
I just would like you

to be a little bit
nicer about it.

Right.

I do like living here,
but if...

If living here is gonna
mess up our relationship,

then...
Then I don't want to stay.

* Why *

* do all my friends *

* want a piece of my pie? *

I'm a bikini dancer.

I absolutely love my job.

I've been dancing for 12 years.

I've had multiple jobs
since then,

and I have never liked
any of those crap jobs.

Dancing's the best one ever.

I choose to do it.

Oh, my God.

She is unreasonably sexy.

That's our fiancee.

It is super fun
to see Vanessa dance.

She loves it... She's always
smiling, which I love.

'Cause a lot of the other
dancers, you know,

have this... look
the whole time.

Vanessa's is like...

I have no idea what to do.

I want to touch you,
and I'm not allowed to.

This is a ridiculous situation.

What are you guys doing here?

We have to remind ourselves
every once in a while

that you're
the sexiest woman ever,

so we come here.

I'm glad it's not that busy,

so I can actually sit with you.

We also are going to invite you

to a poly potluck
that we found online.

Don't talk until you hear me
explain it.

A what?

A poly potluck.

Seriously, what are you
talking about?

- They're in San Diego.
- They're in San Diego.

And they look like
interesting people.

Yeah.

They have cool names
like Kamala.

And Tahl.

Why do you seem so hesitant?

Just because this is
a poly party

doesn't mean that we're gonna
have a lot in common

with these people.

Think about how absurd
it would be

if every time I met
a monogamous person,

I was like,
"hey, you know what?

"I have
another monogamous friend.

You guys would probably
really get along."

Sometimes, being poly

is the only thing
we have in common.

I just...
Because...

I mean, we've gone to try
to meet poly people in L.A.,

and it's been...
not great.

It's so hard to me people
who are actually

going through
anything similar, and...

You're right. Let's go
to a monogamous meet-up anyway.

That'll be a better chance
of meeting people.

That is a good point.

- All right.
- I love you.

Thanks for trying to find us
some poly friends.

Hopefully, we won't
like them too much,

and we won't have to drive
out to San Diego...

all the time.

I was on board
with going to this party

'cause I feel like
we're entering a new phase

of our relationship,
and I really want to be able

to have a community
to support that.

I really want to talk
to these people

- about how they do poly.
- Yeah.

It's gonna be totally
different from us, I think.

What do you mean?
How? Totally different how?

I mean, I just wonder if
they've come out to everybody.

If they have jobs
where it's okay to be poly,

and their families
still invite them over

for Christmas and Thanksgiving.

I'm done with hiding.

I'm done, I don't ever wanna be

in a room with people
that claim to love me,

that don't know who I love.

I'm the only one in the triad

that is not out
to my immediate family,

and I'm really hoping to have
some conversations about that

at this party.

It's sad, actually,
that we have to go online,

find a group,
just to get some answers

that everyone else can get
about relationships.

Maybe I'll bring a guitar
to this party

and do a whole set where I take
standard love songs

and make them poly.

That'd be awesome.

"You are the ones for me."

"I just called to say
I love you guys."

"All I want is you and you."

"And you."

"And you."

Hey, honey.
Morning.

Good morning.

Is there anything
I can help with?

Yeah, um, you feeling better
about your housewarming party?

- I'm a little more excited.
- Are you?

- Yeah, a little bit.
- Good, good, good.

Today's the party.

I feel a little bit
like the party's a farce.

Like, "oh, yay,
we're celebrating

Jen and Tahl's being here,"

but Jen's not happy here.

Hey, can you do me a favor?

I know you hate washing dishes,

but if you're gonna eat
pea soup, can you at least

- put water in the cup?
- Right.

Because it makes it,
like, ten times harder

for me to clean it.

Yeah, leave it kind of soaking?

Soak it, I know,
if washing is too much.

I'll soak my pea soup for you.

Is that okay?
Yeah, all right.

It's their house, and I think
it's probably harder for them

to adapt
to other people's rules.

But the more people you have
in a relationship,

the more differences of opinion
you're gonna have, period.

I'm exhausted.

Hey, Tahl, are you gonna
come vacuum?

Okay.

He said okay.

Michael and I don't yell
at each other.

I didn't yell at him,
I yelled towards him.

But if you have
to raise your voice

- to speak to someone...
- Oh.

Like if I were out there,

and you raised your voice
to speak to me,

I probably would be like,
"she's yelling at me."

But I hear you yell from
the other room all the time.

- That's not why I hate you.
- Okay.

What dress are you gonna wear?

I don't know.
What do you think?

Buttons done or undone?

Please stop asking me that.

Um, how are you feeling
about cheri?

The cheri thing?

Feeling... I'm not even
thinking about it right now.

It's fine.
I mean, I still don't

necessarily want you
to have sex with her,

but I understand that
you're gonna talk to her.

There's still a little bit
of discomfort about Cheri.

I'd really just like
to get over my shit.

I'm ready.
Let's go.

Hello!

People are here?

Mmm.

- My name's Tahl.
- Sonja.

Nice to meet you.

- Hey, gorgeous.
- Hi!

- Ohh. Mwah.
- You look...

Thanks.

That's for me?

Thank you.

Thank you, cheri.

Cheri arrives to the party,

and she brings me some flowers.

Why don't we put that
on the mantle?

It made me uncomfortable.

So gorgeous.

Uh, mostly.

That is so pretty.

I didn't want to get
into any deep conversations.

I'm just trying to avoid
some pain, is all.

And, honestly,
I was too distracted

by the people I really wanted
to see to worry about cheri.

I just didn't even think about
it after the first few minutes.

Hey, we're all wearing green!

We are all wearing green!
I love it!

That is a good omen.

- It is a good omen.
- Oh, mwah.

Oh, hey, beautiful.

- That's really funny.
- Hey.

You look spectacular.

Thank you.

When Roxanne walked
into the room,

it was like a breath
of sunshine coming in.

She had this beautiful,
bright green dress,

and I think everybody
was looking at her,

including me.

Is your boyfriend coming?

I don't know.
He's supposed to be coming.

I don't know where he's at.

Roxanne has a boyfriend,

so making out is gonna require
some negotiation.

See, that's just mean.

You're kissing her
in front of Michael.

Would I... Would I
have the pleasure

of being able to kiss you?

As of right now,
our agreement is

I'd need to talk to him first.

Okay, perfect.

- So...
- Perfect.

- Good, I'm glad, I'm glad.
- But it's a grand idea.

It's a great concept.

I did the typical man thing

and just went in for the kiss,

and... and flubbed it
all up.

She was like, "but wait."

I think the permission
still stands,

and Roxanne and I will
work that out at some point.

Were you just eating chocolate?

Yeah, here...
Oh, oh.

Give it to Roger.
Give it to Roger.

- Did you want some?
- There you go.

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

She doesn't normally
eat chocolate, but...

This is why you bring
chocolate to a party.

Right?
The party is awesome.

All these beautiful people
I know and love.

Lots of kisses,
lots of chocolate.

- Mmm.
- That is part of the fun.

Wait, a...

I'm like, "that doesn't
look like Michael."

Yeah.

- I grew a beard.
- Yeah.

You know, Tahl is Tahl,
and he does just love

to make out with everybody.

That was delicious.

That may have been some of the
best chocolate I've ever had.

That's the only way to eat
chocolate. It's the only way.

And so now we have a rule

that he's got to wash
his mouth out

before he comes and kisses me.

Really, Tahl, does it
have to be everybody?

They've got the best house
on the block.

Oh, wow.
Look how beautiful it is.

Poly play land!

Look at these flags out front.

We walk up,
and we love the flags.

The house already looks better

than the other houses
on the block.

Worst-case scenario

is the people all
do poly in a way

that we don't relate to at all.

And then we go home deflated,
thinking,

"shit, we were looking
for community and solidarity,

and all we got
was more alienation."

"Please lose the shoes."

- Ahh... man.
- Oh, it's one of those.

But I'm wearing
my coolest boots ever.

I'm wearing boring shoes.
I could give a shit.

Come in!

I'm just gonna open it.

- Hello!
- Hi!

- Welcome.
- Hi! Hi.

- Hi. Mwah.
- Hi.

- I'm Vanessa.
- Vanessa, Kamala Devi.

Thank you.
Thank you.

In L.A.,

people try to figure out,
do they know you?

And if they don't know you,

are you somebody
they need to know?

That is not
what's happening here.

We open the door,
and it's like, "hello!"

- And this?
- Uh, this is, "women...

Mighty force
for revolution."

- Oh, yeah.
- Hi.

- Vanessa. Yeah.
- Yeah?

When a new person
comes to our party,

we actually like to ask,
"can I hug you?" First

so that they have choice,

but I suppose I probably
just threw myself around them.

They were really attractive,
so why not?

- Vanessa.
- Vanessa. Hi, how you doing?

- Good.
- They come right in.

The first thing I'm thinking,
like, "whoa, fresh meat."

- I'm Anthony.
- Anthony, Michael.

- May I hug you?
- Yeah.

I don't think
it's a poly practice,

this hugging thing because,

well, everyone was hugging me.

They're like, "can I hug you?
Can I hug you?

Can I hug you?"

I was like, "yeah,
I'll hug everybody."

Anthony was saying you guys
came all the way down

from L.A. or riverside?

Yeah. Riverside
is L.A.-ish, I guess.

Yeah.

Oh, my God, I was totally
attracted to all of them.

And I'm a straight guy,

but I even thought Anthony
was cool.

Now that we're all here,

you guys wanna join me
for a big circle?

Typically, we have
an opening circle.

I just want everyone to get
to know each other.

One of the things that we
could talk about tonight,

different love styles.

Uh, I have no idea
what that means.

'Cause I came for a party.

Well, I ha... I just
want to say, like,

I'm a little intimidated
'cause I don't know

what love style actually means,

and I don't know what the levels
of poly are.

And I actually don't know
the terms at all.

Are we going
to have sex or not?

I meant, like,
beginners are welcome,

or if you have
lots of experience,

then you're welcome as well.

Okay.

Typically, when we do
the opening circle,

there's no crosstalk.

Since they're new, they didn't
really get the etiquette.

That might have been
considered rude.

Lindsey, you had
one more question.

There's no drugs or alcohol,

and I'm just wondering what
the thinking is behind that.

I don't want to create a space

where we're all redefining, um,

relationships radically,

and then when we wake up
the next day, hung over,

going, "what the fuck
did we redefine?"

I really want to do something

that comes from a place
of purity and clarity.

Just because it's an alcohol
and drug-free party,

does not mean that we're
recovering addicts.

It's as if they had never
met other poly people,

and they wanted
to interrogate us.

I just had to say,
"okay, you know, they're new."

So, yeah.

I was just wondering
if most people here are out?

I've been, like, sad about
how few people are out

because I feel like that hurts

our ability to be accepted.

Raise your hand
if you're out to your family.

It was really inspiring to me

that these people
have come out.

This I a great conversation.

I want it all to continue

as you eat, mingle,
meet people,

and... enjoy.

If any one of us is going
to have a lover

outside of the triad,

there's a permissions thing
that happens.

- Like, poly...
- Courteous.

Poly-courteous!

I definitely felt some relief

once I got to just talk
to people by themselves.

Whatever discomfort or problems
I was having,

they really dissipated for me.

I really liked
the people there.

I felt welcome.
It was very friendly

and comfortable,
and I was fascinated by them.

Is Roxanne a part
of your pod too?

By association with me,
yes, but she's not...

And we have tea and chats,
you know.

And they're allowed
to have tea and chats.

Baby steps.

So it's like you weren't
out to your parents.

Yeah.
What about you?

Yeah, no, I'm not out
to my parents, either.

They're... they're
a little bit conservative.

My mom's very attached
to the Jewish identity,

and marriage has to be between
one man and one woman.

Now, how 'bout you?

You on good terms
with your parents or...

It's been a struggle
to get them to accept Anthony

- in the first place.
- Mm.

In a traditional,
monogamous marriage...

- Right.
- Because he is...

not rich, not Jewish,

so to then come out also,
"we have a girlfriend,"

- and that's...
- I could imagine.

I feel like

I can't go on much longer
without coming out.

I-I have to tell them.

Oh, that kind of makes
my stomach turn a bit.

After speaking with Lindsey,
I think I'm ready.

I think it's
the right thing to do.

The fact is, I've moved in
with Michael and Kamala.

It's like, you know,
it's only a matter of time

until my parents want
to come over to my house.

We just had our
three-year anniversary, so...

Three-year anniversary
with the three of you.

- With the triad.
- Beautiful.

- And she proposed to us.
- Aw.

We want to have a ceremony
before the big ceremony.

A poly ceremony,
like an engagement

or a commitment?

This ceremony is actually
marking our commitment

to get married.

It's just gonna be
the three of us.

We want some sort
of ritual to do.

Oh, my God, I love
commitment ceremonies.

If you need any help,
I've got, like, mad skills

around, you know, symbolism
and ceremony and...

No, don't worry,
we'll just consult

normal bridesmaid magazines.

Exactly.

Good housekeeping, yeah.

But seriously, like,
I'd love to support you guys

with your ritual.

Her wedding was, like...

How many of your poly lovers
were there?

We had the most
amazing ceremony.

Instead of exchanging rings,

I actually presented him
with his lovers.

Our ceremony
involved consummating

during the ceremony.

Wow!

- So we had sex...
- Whoa!

Right there.

We are so... prude.

They had sex
in front of everyone.

I mean, I was, like,
simultaneously

kind of scandalized by it

and also really excited by it.

Can we invite you to help us
with this ceremony

to be a part of making it?

I'd be honored.
Congratulations.

I'm the queen of rituals.
I love ceremony.

And I just feel like
they're really serious.

And this is such
a rich opportunity

to make a ceremony
that means something,

you know, new.
It's pioneering.

We're gonna head out.
Thank you so much.

Thank you.
Mwah.

- Good luck with coming out.
- Yay.

I think this party
was revelational for the triad.

I don't think they've ever
been to anything like this,

and it opened their eyes
to what's possible,

even in their own community.

I look forward to getting
to know them.

Oh, my God.

It's really different from what
I thought it was gonna be.

How's that?

Um, well...

I really expected it to be
more of a sex party.

- I really did.
- Wow, I did not.

I expected people
to take off their clothes.

That was interesting.

Where's our car?

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