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* your love is like a river *

* flowing through my veins *

* your love is the fever *

* I can't get enough *

* I'm on fire *

* we're on fire *

* our love is too much
for just one heart to take *

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Oh, yeah.

Oh.

- Hey.
- Hey.

How's the effort getting
the Linds' morning beast?

I'm not getting up.

Anthony and Vanessa and I
are committed to being poly.

And I'm in it
for the long haul.

I love being married,

and I lament that I can only
be married to you.

- Let's get in the shower.
- All right.

You look beautiful
in the morning.

Lindsey's back.

We're getting
into a groove again.

The triad feels solid again.

I feel like she's willing
to really spend that time on us.

Where did you put
the shaving cream?

You guys always use
my shaving cream.

Isn't there a girl's
shaving cream you can use?

I suppose.

People who come to me

and play
the "Wow, you're so lucky.

You're a dude with two chicks."

I say, "Come live
in my household for a week."

Why do you care so much about
your fucking gendered objects?

Because you guys use it

in extraordinary amounts.

We're twice the man
you are in here.

Our problems aren't only poly.

We have
the same problems as you.

I had a professor.

He was kind of conservative.

I didn't like him that much,

but the one thing
I took from him...

The happy family,
at least once a week

sits and reads together.

Well, I think that's true.

It was true in my family.

Reads out loud, not just each
reads their separate book.

Right, but has
a group experience.

We're getting ready
in the morning,

we're having a good time.

Lindsey's phone rings, and pow.

- Hey, Linds.
- Hi.

Where are you?

What?

I'm not sure if I can come.

I got to talk
to Anth and Ness about it

and see what we're doing,
and I'll call you right back.

All right.
Bye-bye.

You have to talk
to us about what?

That was Krystof.

And he is here in town
for work.

He only has
a couple hours free.

You saw him, like, days ago.

You have to give me
a chance to at least

explain to him that I'm going
to be backing away.

You haven't
said anything to him

about us asking you
to back off yet.

No. Not yet.

You coward.

- Vanessa.
- You coward.

I think you're way too upset
about this.

You're not even giving me
a chance.

Giving you a chance
to fucking do what?

To clue him into
the conversations

we've been having about him.

You didn't do it
'cause you're afraid,

'cause you don't want
to lose him.

Don't bullshit me about
how you haven't had a chance.

Lindsey is trying to explain
what she's doing.

She's trying to make it
rational.

And I'm not buying it.

You had a conversation
about whether or not

you should be boyfriend,
girlfriend

without even bringing it to us.

I'm really, really,
getting sick of the way

you guys are treating me.

Now you're mad at me that

I'm having
the exact same feelings

I told you I was having?

Yes.

Your attitude about it

really makes me want
to just go.

Nobody's, like, gonna stand in

the doorway
and not let you leave.

I'm going to lunch to do what
you guys asked me to do.

I'm sorry if that hurts.

What we asked you to do
is not go to lunch.

So you're basically doing not at
all what we asked you to do.

We made this agreement that
she was going to take a break.

I guess we have very different
conceptions of what a break is.

You go to this lunch
and it's just loving and cute,

and you don't tell him that
we're having this issue?

Of course
I'm gonna to tell him.

You're lying.

This conversation is that...

Krystof-I-need-to-back-off
conversation.

Of course
I'm going to tell him.

That's what...

Don't get snippy with me.

You didn't tell him.

But you're acting totally
passive-aggressive

and resentful,
and it's really hard

to feel compassion for you
when you act like that.

It is hard for me

to be backing off from Krystof.

It's a struggle.

And I'm facing it head-on.

And going to lunch with him is

to me, the best way
to face it head-on.

She's calling me a coward
when I'm trying so hard.

I just had to get out of there.

Did she actually just leave
the house?

Yes.

What the fuck?

- Hey.
- Hey, sweetie.

Our community experiment
with Jen and Tahl

has officially begun.

My hopes are that

it's not just going to be
about roommates moving in.

And that's it's going to be
all about love,

that we're really developing

a four-person adult
relationship.

I want to welcome them
with a nice little breakfast.

Yeah.

We'll make the best
of the morning.

- Is that everything?
- Yup.

Okay, cool.

Hey, cuties.

- Morning.
- Good morning.

Yeah.

Now that we live together,
it's like a honeymoon.

We can make love

as much as we want,
but the depth is also greater

because we don't
just share a bed...

We're sharing
our lives together.

Okay.

Do you want attention now?
Is that what you're saying?

- Uh-huh. Uh-huh.
- All right.

So then take the oatmeal
off the bed.

Sex with one person
becomes monotonous.

Foursomes have
their own dynamic.

It's beautiful when the four
of us are making love.

It brings us all really close,

and there's sensual intimacy
with everyone.

So everyone's kind
of touching everyone

and riding off each other's
orgasms or sexual energy.

- Mm, so beautiful.
- Mm-hmm.

I love the people
that I sleep with.

I think that's the difference
between polyamory and swinging.

When we're having a foursome,
it's either

Kamala and I are making love

or Tahl and Kamala
are making love.

I love being sensual
with people.

That's a lot easier for me
to do.

I like kissing and touching
and eye-gazing.

The eyes are the window
to the soul.

So making love with your eyes
open is saying,

"I want to make love
to all of you."

It's your dreams,
your fantasies, your thoughts.

No part of you
is not loved by me.

I do not have as much
as a sex drive

as Kamala, Michael, and Tahl.

Penetration is a big deal
for me.

I don't know why.
That's just how I'm built.

Um...

Y...

I'm done with you.

Jen and Tahl really have to work
to make poly work for them.

I look at Tahl as ready to go,

wanting to love,
go deeper, faster.

Where as Jen,
she's not quite as ready.

But when we're all doing
four-way energy,

we go as slow as the person
with the smallest legs.

- Should we do lunch?
- Yeah.

Yeah?

So we're going to do our lunch

and make our relationship
agreements,

house rules.

It'll be a working lunch.

Okay, yeah.

So thank you for doing
the shopping.

Yeah.

I'm sure there's lots of people

that see polyamory

and think,
"Wow, that's a great idea.

It's a great concept."

But thinking about poly
and doing poly

are two completely
different things.

You're going to go
to the store?

- Yeah, going to get lunch.
- Can we get some soap?

You want dish soap
and you want gum.

Ask Kamala
if she needs anything.

- All right, love you.
- I love you too.

Bye, sweetie.

Do we need to get toilet paper?

TP?
No, no, we have TP in there.

My dynamic with Jen is

I have a lot of love for her

and a lot of attraction too.

I'd like to be making love
with her more.

And I know that there's been
so much stress

with the move-in and with

everything else that's been
going on that it's...

It's been sort of hard to just
kind of sync into that.

I'd like to see more passion
here in the house.

I'm still so lit up
from this morning.

Mm.

Me too.

My relationship with Kamala
is a fiery one.

She and I definitely ignite
each other.

And I'm very sexually attracted
to her.

All right, I think I'm ready
for a little more.

I want to get up early
in the morning

and jump into bed with her.

I want to stay late at night.

And a little bit of emotion's

coming up with
Jennifer around that.

I have to admit,

it's a little bit
frustrating sometimes.

- I, um...
- Probably check in with Jen?

Yeah.

Why don't we wait and see

what's going on for her.

Like, once she's cool,
then we're cool.

But let's not rush things
'cause...

- Yeah, yeah.
- Yeah.

All right.

Hmm.

I'm going to see Krystof
to tell him

we have to spend less time
together.

And yet, I don't know if
I'm making the right decision.

And I don't know what the
repercussions are going to be.

So I'm feeling very conflicted.

Hi.

Hey.

- Hey.
- How are you?

Good.
Want to sit down?

I don't want to have
to tell him

that we have to spend
less time together,

we have to back away.

So I left in kind of a mess.

I really wanted to see you.
Vanessa didn't want me to leave.

They're pretty upset with me.

Yeah.

Because I have
been neglecting them.

The fact that Lindsey
wants to go

have lunch with Krystof

when Vanessa is so clearly upset
is really out of line.

And I really expected her

to be more sensitive to what
we were going through.

I know where Lindsey and Krystof

are going to meet because there
aren't that many places

to do it in Riverside.

Let's go get them.

I have this fear with Lindsey

that she's
not representing herself

to Krystof the same way

she's representing herself
to us.

And I just felt this need

to see what she's doing
with Krystof,

what's she's doing with us,
if the stories match up.

And I couldn't think
of another way to do it.

Hi.

Look, the whole family's here.

This is awkward.

The reason we're here
is we don't trust you

to explain it by yourself.

You know?

Why shouldn't we all
process it together?

We do everything together.

I'm shocked that Vanessa
and Anthony walk up.

I don't know if they're going
to make a scene,

if they're going to tell me
I have to break up

with Krystof
right here and now, or what.

- Hey, cutie.
- Hey, sweetie.

- Sweetie.
- Hi, honey.

Thank you.

Probably want
to start our meeting.

You guys going outside?

Yeah, we're going
to eat outside.

Now this is
the way life should be.

It's the way life is.

It's a new living situation
that we're in.

And I think it's important

that we all lay down
some new rules.

Jen and I have our rules.

Michael and Kamala
have their rules.

But now not only are

you just bringing
two couples together,

it's a four-way dynamic.

And so it makes it
more complicated.

So, chores.

I would rather give you
a blow job

than take out
the fucking trash.

- It's a deal.
- It's a deal.

It's a deal.

They're taking the trash out
every day.

The trash is always going
to be full.

Let's get specific about
sexual boundaries.

What's okay with you?

Just use condoms.
That's obviously...

All of our relationship
agreements,

I'm not worried about that.

I know how safe you guys are.

- Yeah.
- I just don't feel any concern.

- Anal sex is okay?
- You can have anal sex.

You can pee each other.
You can take showers together.

I don't care.

Between you and I, do...
Are there any boundaries

of how you don't want me
to touch you, or...

Oh, no.
No.

You not...
You don't touch me enough

as far as I'm concerned.

I agree.

When people hear polyamory,
they think, "free love."

Like, it's just, like,
"go off and be with whomever,"

when in fact,

it actually takes
a lot of different rules

to make it work.

The agreement that you guys
have that I'm aware of

is if you're upset,

he's not to have sex
with someone else.

That's right.
That's right.

- Okay.
- Mm-hmm.

So today, while you guys were
at the grocery store,

I wasn't totally sure
if we were totally cool,

so Tahl and I decided
not to have sex

while you guys were gone.

Ah.

Me not wanting Tahl
to sleep with Kamala

has nothing to do with Kamala.

It's just, I think out
of the whole group of us,

I'm probably the most jealous.

And it's really, really, really
something I want to get over.

Curfew is our second one.

- What's the curfew?
- Curfew is...

The curfew is
when Jen says the curfew is.

Basically,
it means that I just...

I want him to be home with me
to sleep,

generally, not always.

And that
I ask him to honor that.

So if I'm getting home
from dance at 1:00,

I ask him
to be home at 1:00.

Does that work for you, Tahl?

Yeah, that's... That works
for me right now.

I'm totally laid-back.

There's not too many things
that bother me.

At the same time, sometimes
it gets a little too much

where I just have to be,
like, "Fuck, Jen.

You know, just does everything
have to be your way?"

I don't want to sound so bad,

but it's just want
I need right now.

We don't date people unless
they are

enhancing our relationship.

I don't know if you guys want
to take that on.

We try to just date people
that are... That are poly.

And the reason for that
is because

if you're dating someone
who's monogamous,

they may not have the same rules
about honesty.

And the basis of poly
is honesty.

What we found through
the years is that

dating monogamous people
takes so much work

that it creates
drama and chaos.

There are exceptions.

Honey.

Surprise, surprise.

Roxanne's my favorite
girlfriend.

She's always knocking
on the door

with love letters, gifts.

It's, like,
everything about her

just makes my heart,
you know, just swell.

Hi, honey.
Mwah.

Mwah.

I'm glad you're here.

These are for the ladies
which the men can enjoy.

They're just little things.

I wanted, like,
a tangible thing to solidify

you guys are moved in.

I love underwear.

- Thank you.
- Oh, nice.

Oh, my gosh.

- Oh, wow, those are sexy.
- Those are hot.

I thank you for that too.

You're welcome.

I think Roxanne's wonderful.

I'd like to see Roxanne in
an open place within our pod.

But Kamala doesn't want
to do that.

Oh, my God.
This is dangerous.

- Is it?
- Yeah.

I like that color
on your skin tone.

I don't share her with anyone,
not even Michael.

I'm just not ready to...
To share her yet.

And I know Michael's
not happy about it,

but that's my boundary
right now.

Wow, I can't wait
till we wear these.

- I'd like to see them on you.
- Yeah.

She has excluded me
from dating Roxanne,

and that's really not okay.

Well, we're just going
to say good-bye now.

Wow.

- I'll be back.
- Okay.

Bye, you guys.

There's something
about Roxanne,

and it makes me want
to be alone with her.

It just brings up
a certain possessiveness.

It's not fair to me
that you come by

and make me...
And pull me away, honey.

Okay, give me one more kiss,
and then I'll let you go.

Okay.

I'm like
a walking contradiction.

I have this great theory,

this ideal about us
all sharing lovers,

but in practice
there's a little wounded girl

who sometimes doesn't want
to share her toys

and wants to throw
a little temper tantrum.

Well, what do you think
about Roxanne?

We haven't involved her at all
in any of the discussions.

Right, right.

Well, Roxanne, through me,
understands our relationship.

Basically, we have the rule

that we're not allowed
to see her.

And so for me, you know,

that sounds like
not a poly relationship.

'Cause that...
That sounds like mono.

Mono is you're not allowed
to see other people.

I'm not ready for you guys

to date Roxanne.

I don't really want
to date Roxanne,

and I'm fine with their
relationship.

It doesn't really affect me.

I can't tell whether Michael
really wants to date Roxanne,

or if it's just because

Kamala is saying no,
that it's a big deal to him.

I'm Roxanne's only girlfriend.

That makes me feel special,

and I get that need
met in that way.

If you dissect
what poly rules are...

Mm-hmm.

It really seems like
you're breaking those rules.

When Michael said that
I was acting monogamous,

I was, like,
"Who are you talking about?"

I'm the queen of poly.

Who are you calling mono?

And it really actually hurt.

I think what's underneath is

that you're attracted
to Roxanne.

I've always been attracted
to Roxanne.

I don't know, it does seem like

you're making some rules
for yourself that you're not

allowing others to have.

I guess, you know,
I just have to get over

the idea that, like,
she loves me so much.

And it makes me feel
so special.

And that her love
for anyone of you

isn't going to change
how special my love is.

It's like old programming,

that somehow,
her love for someone else

is going to take away
from our love.

The downside to poly is

all of the emotional
conversations

and the deep managing
of psychological drama.

It feels like you have to
have a PhD in psychology

to manage everybody's feelings.

You know, right now I hear you.

You got an attraction,

and you want to look
at this deeper.

And I... I'll...
You know, I'm open to that.

- That's all I'm saying.
- Okay.

I hear you.

But I'm just not ready to share
my girlfriend yet.

We haven't had a lot of time
alone to talk about

these new developments.

And I want us to talk
as a group.

I just want to be able to talk
to him alone first.

Look, Linds.

You were talking about being

boyfriend and girlfriend.

And it hit us out of the blue.

I feel like it's unfair
to Krystof too.

Like, he doesn't understand
how we work.

He thinks you can just

talk about this
and then come bring it to us,

like, for approval.

My understanding was that
everything had to be okay

by both of you.

And that she would get
permission

where she needed to,
but for a lot of things,

- she didn't need permission.
- I mean, it's...

She was wrong about
some of those things.

She was wrong about
some of those things.

Krystof doesn't get it,

that he's not entitled
to Lindsey,

but he will.

I think I can take
responsibility for that too.

This isn't about, like,
little rules being broken.

It's about a bigger picture
of honoring

that functioning
of the triad first.

And for her to say,

"I'm in love with somebody,
and he's my new boyfriend.

It's that okay?"

Is not honoring the functioning
of the triad first.

I understand that it sounds
crazy, but I can tell you

for a fact that
this feels very different

from any other crush-thing
in my history.

This is not the same feeling.

One of the terms we use in
polyamory is

"new relationship energy."

And it can apply to any sort
of excitement over a new person.

Just like in my relationship
with Krystof.

It's very normal to want
to be monogamous

with your new person

but that isn't
a permanent state.

The problem is that your
response to feeling differently,

was to be secretive about it,
to take it away from us.

Like, we're hurt now.

I see where you're coming from.

I also don't know how to undo
what we built.

Their solution is that

I, um, back off from you...

for a while to try
to balance things out,

to give more attention
to the triad.

I know we just showed up
and parachuted in here

and crashed her time.

As a gesture of good faith
towards you,

we're going to go home.

Finish your time, you know.

Like, have some time together.

Thank you.

Andiamo.
Andiamo, bello.

You know, this means things
are going to change.

I think I just have
to communicate a lot

with them right now.

After we talked
at the coffee shop,

Anthony and I decided to leave
Lindsey and Krystof

to talk alone
for a little while.

That could have been terrible
and it was good.

I was pretty impressed
with you.

Are you okay?

Yeah, I'm just still
processing.

I treated Krystof like
he was causing me pain.

When really,
it was the situation

and my girlfriend, Lindsey,

who is actually
causing me the pain.

I feel kind of, like,
oh... All exhausted.

But I also feel good.
I just...

There's nothing that wine can't fix.

There's nothing that
wine can't fix.

Never forget that.

I broke some rules
between the triad.

Anthony and Vanessa...

I understand why they're upset

now that we've talked about it.

How was it?

Painful.

I think you can be grateful
for this pain.

As much as it hurts me and as
much you kind of fucked it up,

what's really beautiful
about it is that

it indicates to me

that you really have
a lot of capacity

for connecting with people.

Also, don't forget
how lucky we are.

I mean, if you were
a monogamous person,

you would either
really want this person

and never get to
do anything about it.

Mm-hmm.

Or you would have to break up
with us.

- And then you would only get one.
- Well...

Yeah, don't be a brat.

I mean...

Takes a lot of courage to step
down off your high horse

and say, "All right,
you know what?

I can see
where I was wrong here."

And she did it.

No matter how tough things get,

I never doubt that polyamory
is the right choice

for me and my family.

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