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Girls, don't forget to unload the van.
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Okay, mom.
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Cheer up girls.
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It's not like it's the
first time we've moved.
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Probably not the last time either.
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It's okay with me.
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I make friends wherever I go.
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Hey Ralph, you wanted to see me?
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Yes, yes, come on in Darla.
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Just make yourself at home.
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How are you doing?
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It's been pretty rough.
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It's not easy going through a divorce.
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Can you tell us about the divorce?
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- Ralph?
- Well?
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If you feel comfortable
telling us what's been going on,
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maybe we can help.
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It's a very long story,
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but the short version of it
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is that my husband decided
after 19 years of marriage,
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that he didn't wanna be married anymore.
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And he's also told me that he
wants to explore other options
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and other life possibilities.
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Well, was there any
infidelity during your marriage?
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Not that I know of, no.
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Oh, sorry to hear that.
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So how are you responding?
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How are you taking it?
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I'm trying to let go somehow.
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You're not fighting for it?
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You're not fighting for your marriage?
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I'm not going to force myself on him,
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and I'm not gonna stay
in a loveless marriage,
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and I'm not gonna make my
young vulnerable daughters
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be around someone who
clearly does not love them
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or their mother.
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No, we understand that.
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It's just that-
What?
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Well, here at our church,
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we believe that the only
biblical reason for a divorce is,
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well it's marital unfaithfulness.
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Well, since there was no infidelity.
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Yeah, I know you mentioned
that he said he wanted
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to pursue other avenues,
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but since there wasn't any actual cheating
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and you're just willing to
go with it and not fight
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for your marriage...
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What are you saying?
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Are you trying to say that
it's my fault even partially?
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My young girls need to know
that they are valued and loved.
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And if he's not willing to do it,
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then he can be on his way.
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The Bible also says that,
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"If the wicked choose to
depart, let them depart."
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It just looks bad.
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You know very well the blow
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that the leadership team
here has had this past year
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with the youth pastor
scandal, he deceived us all,
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and now a young girl's life
will never be the same.
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We just have to make sure
that the congregation
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and the membership know
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that we're not willing to just
throw anyone into leadership,
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that we're not going to
hire child predators,
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or bums, or divorcing couples.
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What is this about, your image?
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Come on, Ralph.
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You knew about my husband.
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You knew how hard I tried for years
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to get him to come to church.
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That's not the point.
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What is the point?
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The Bible says to avoid
all appearances of evil.
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And quite frankly, we're just
not doing a good job of that.
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It's like evil is just prancing around,
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dancing all over our living
rooms for all to see.
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So you're releasing me
from the leadership team?
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We have to.
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We can't afford to have any
more rumors going around.
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What am I going to tell my girls
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who now do not have a father?
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And now, they don't even
have a leadership role
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in their own church.
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Oh, this does not affect
your girls in any way.
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They are completely fine
to stay where they are.
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Our family is broken up enough
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and I will allow no more of it, goodbye.
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Was that completely necessary?
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So I was thinking about in my new room,
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adding my bed on that one wall-
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- Is that the room I want?
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What room are you talking about?
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The room at the end of the hall.
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The one with the big window?
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I told you that's the one I wanted.
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No, that's the one I get.
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Actually guys, I wanted that one.
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No, that's the one I get.
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Do you guys actually
think you're the one
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that's getting the room?
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Yes, I do.
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I do think that.
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And why do you think that?
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Because I should get it.
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I'm the oldest.
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You shouldn't be the one who gets it.
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So, I don't care if you're the oldest.
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I would just really appreciate it
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if I was the one that got the room.
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I'm sorry, but you're the oldest
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and you always think you
get everything you want.
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I'm getting the room.
Grow up.
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Girls, I've had enough.
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Megan, go clean up.
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Kayla, go to your room.
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- What room?
- What room?
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Dear heavenly Father,
in the name of Jesus.
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I just ask you to help me.
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I have felt so rejected.
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You Lord, You are so good
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and You are so faithful Lord.
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Forgive me Lord for
letting this bitterness
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and pain seep in me.
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Just change this heart of
stone into a heart of flesh.
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And Lord, help me to forgive Bill.
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In fact, right now Lord,
I choose to forgive him.
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I forgive him for leaving us.
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And Lord, I just ask that
wherever he is right now Lord,
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that You would bless him.
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And that You would bring
people into his life Lord,
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that point to You.
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And Lord, that he would
see his deep need for You.
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And Lord, I just ask that You
would be with my daughters,
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that You would be with our daughters.
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I know Lord that You are love.
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I just ask that You help them
to see their worth in You.
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Lord, I believe that
they are gonna be okay
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because they're going to turn to You,
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that they're turning to You, Lord.
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I know Lord God that they
are turning to You right now
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in this time of hardship.
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And they are seeking You and
they are finding their worth
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in You Lord.
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I believe that Lord.
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You're saying in Your word,
that all things work for good
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for those who love You,
and we love You Lord.
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Thank You so much for
all that You do for us.
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And thank You for Your love Lord.
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We grasp that love Lord.
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You are the Lord of Lords
and the King of kings,
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and You are the way
the truth and the life.
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Thank You Lord for being there.
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I commit myself to You Lord.
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Please mold me and heal
me and transform me
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to be more like Jesus.
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In Jesus' precious name, amen.
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Let's just talk about this.
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Look, I've had enough.
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I cannot do this anymore.
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No, there's no anything!
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We gotta keep trying.
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Let's go to church together.
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Let's get some counseling.
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Listen, what'll
God for this relationship?
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He hasn't been here for 19 years!
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Please Bill,
don't give up on us!
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There is no way.
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I can't do this anymore.
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I just don't love you anymore.
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What about the girls?
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What about the girls?
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Don't you care about them?
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Are you kidding?
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Of course I care about them!
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Do not turn this on me.
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You'll pray for me God.
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Pray for this marriage that's
been doomed for 19 years.
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Don't give up on us.
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Give up on what?
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I don't love you anymore.
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Give up on what?
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But what about the girls?
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What about the girls?
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What about 'em?
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Don't you care about 'em?
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Do not do this to me,
of course I care about them!
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Oh God!
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So I think I'm enjoying
your cat decorations
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more than ever before this year.
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Oh wow, so how are you doing?
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So you've heard about
what happened at church?
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Yeah.
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So I'm sitting here
coming to the realization
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that everything that I thought
was important in 19 years
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is basically just kind of
fallen apart overnight.
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And I have to come to the
realization that I have to do it
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on my own and start over again.
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You know it doesn't
have to be like that?
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You know what,
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something about you
ever since we were kids
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is that you just can't seem
or are willing to see things
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as they really are.
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Has anyone from church
reached out to you?
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No.
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There are still some of
us who are praying for you.
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Don't say that.
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You don't know that.
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And don't believe
everything everybody says.
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Also just because someone
says they're praying for you,
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doesn't mean that they are.
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Love is action.
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That's true.
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And we can't just sweep
everything under the rug
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and act like it's not happening.
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For the first time in my life,
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I'm all on my own and I'm
doing it all by myself.
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Listen, you're gonna find another church
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and you're gonna make new friends.
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I don't think so.
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What do you want then?
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Do you wanna be alone?
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I want to be more selective
on who I allow to be close
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to me and my children.
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And I'm not looking for church
leadership for starters.
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So guys, our first day
of school is tomorrow.
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I know, do you guys think
we're gonna be popular?
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I highly doubt it Caitlyn.
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We're not jocks, movie people,
musicians, we're nobodys.
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I'm a jock.
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And I sing and play ukulele.
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You've never been on a
real cross country team
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and you are just a
beginner, we're nobodys.
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Maybe so, but I'm no quitter.
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You're just a jock and
you're just a musician.
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- Okay.
- I'm a foodie too.
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- Oh, my.
- I'm also really good
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at sewing and my kind of
music never goes out of style.
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What kind of style is that?
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Cute teen rock music.
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If you see me at school, don't
look at me, don't touch me,
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don't talk to me and especially
don't sit with me at lunch.
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So, are you new here?
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That obvious, huh?
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No, it's just
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that there aren't many
attractive girls around here
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so when one does come around,
it's pretty noticeable.
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Oh really?
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I'd say these halls are
full of attractive girls.
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So yeah, you're gonna have
to do better than that.
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Hello handsome, who's this?
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It's no one.
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I mean, she's new here.
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I'd say so.
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I didn't catch her name though.
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Kayla.
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Braiden, and this is
my girlfriend, Cami.
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So where'd you move from?
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Bakersville, it's about an
hour and a half away from here.
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I see.
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I saw you at our football game.
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Yeah, I just forgot to mention.
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00:20:16,089 --> 00:20:18,966
Oh right, yeah, that's
much more believable
261
00:20:18,967 --> 00:20:20,636
than the first reason you gave me.
262
00:20:21,970 --> 00:20:23,512
We should probably get going to class.
263
00:20:23,513 --> 00:20:25,014
It was really nice to see you.
264
00:20:25,015 --> 00:20:26,015
I'll see you around.
265
00:20:26,016 --> 00:20:27,809
Nice to meet you Carla.
266
00:20:30,062 --> 00:20:33,190
Kayla, and right back at ya.
267
00:20:34,733 --> 00:20:36,860
This is gonna be an interesting first week
268
00:20:38,028 --> 00:20:39,862
and I never went to a football game.
269
00:20:39,863 --> 00:20:41,240
This is my first day.
270
00:20:49,289 --> 00:20:52,208
So why am I here again?
271
00:20:52,209 --> 00:20:53,459
It's just school policy
272
00:20:53,460 --> 00:20:56,254
that when a student goes
through a traumatic event
273
00:20:56,255 --> 00:21:00,049
such as a death or separation
of parents in the household,
274
00:21:00,050 --> 00:21:03,135
or really any other life-changing event
275
00:21:03,136 --> 00:21:08,141
that we allow students to miss
three hours of class per week
276
00:21:08,350 --> 00:21:10,017
to give them counseling.
277
00:21:10,018 --> 00:21:13,605
Oh, sweet, well, it's well
worth it for the free coffee.
278
00:21:16,483 --> 00:21:19,151
So how are things at home?
279
00:21:19,152 --> 00:21:21,570
I mean, fine I guess.
280
00:21:21,571 --> 00:21:24,615
Making some new friends here
and getting involved in band
281
00:21:24,616 --> 00:21:27,202
so yeah, that's really cool.
282
00:21:29,079 --> 00:21:31,247
You're not having any problems at home?
283
00:21:31,248 --> 00:21:32,666
Oh, no, not at all.
284
00:21:33,625 --> 00:21:36,168
I just got a new ukulele for my birthday
285
00:21:36,169 --> 00:21:39,005
and me and my sisters
all got their own rooms
286
00:21:39,006 --> 00:21:40,506
for the first time.
287
00:21:40,507 --> 00:21:42,217
So I can't really complain.
288
00:21:43,427 --> 00:21:44,594
What about your dad?
289
00:21:47,222 --> 00:21:50,099
Well, I don't really see my dad much,
290
00:21:50,100 --> 00:21:51,893
but I'm sure he's just busy.
291
00:21:54,521 --> 00:21:56,480
This is so good.
292
00:21:56,481 --> 00:21:58,816
Do you think I could have another cup?
293
00:21:58,817 --> 00:22:02,195
I promise I'll tell you
about all my problems.
294
00:22:05,699 --> 00:22:06,867
She's in denial.
295
00:22:08,076 --> 00:22:09,618
What do you mean?
296
00:22:09,619 --> 00:22:14,040
She's suppressing all
this pain and anguish
297
00:22:14,041 --> 00:22:16,752
and not addressing the issues at home.
298
00:22:18,128 --> 00:22:22,757
That's Caitlyn, that's
how she copes with things.
299
00:22:22,758 --> 00:22:25,092
She's in her own little world.
300
00:22:25,093 --> 00:22:27,636
Yes well, I think I need to work
301
00:22:27,637 --> 00:22:28,971
with her a little bit more
302
00:22:28,972 --> 00:22:31,098
because if she doesn't
address these issues,
303
00:22:31,099 --> 00:22:33,434
they're gonna manifest themselves
304
00:22:33,435 --> 00:22:38,022
in other ways one day
when you least expect it.
305
00:22:38,023 --> 00:22:41,776
Okay, do whatever you
feel you need to do.
306
00:22:41,777 --> 00:22:43,903
Okay well, if you have
any questions or concerns,
307
00:22:43,904 --> 00:22:46,031
give me a call.
Thank you.
308
00:23:01,171 --> 00:23:02,505
Hey, are you new here?
309
00:23:02,506 --> 00:23:05,633
You're like the fifth person
today who's asked me that.
310
00:23:05,634 --> 00:23:07,051
Oh, sorry.
311
00:23:07,052 --> 00:23:08,177
It's all good.
312
00:23:08,178 --> 00:23:10,221
At least you came up and said something.
313
00:23:10,222 --> 00:23:12,848
Most, everyone just gives me looks.
314
00:23:12,849 --> 00:23:15,184
Oh well, most of us
still welcome newcomers.
315
00:23:15,185 --> 00:23:16,727
I'm just terrible with faces.
316
00:23:16,728 --> 00:23:20,064
Well, I'm the same way
with names so I get ya.
317
00:23:20,065 --> 00:23:22,066
I'm Megan.
Ashley.
318
00:23:22,067 --> 00:23:24,860
Tell me that three more
times before we leave tonight.
319
00:23:24,861 --> 00:23:25,861
Okay, deal.
320
00:23:27,531 --> 00:23:28,572
Well, why don't you just come over here?
321
00:23:28,573 --> 00:23:30,449
I'll introduce you to
the rest of the group.
322
00:23:30,450 --> 00:23:34,870
Yeah, I just got wait
on the other extensions
323
00:23:34,871 --> 00:23:36,747
of me basically.
324
00:23:36,748 --> 00:23:37,998
Oh, you're waiting for someone?
325
00:23:37,999 --> 00:23:40,126
Yeah, my two sisters.
326
00:23:40,127 --> 00:23:41,795
I don't know what's keeping them.
327
00:23:43,171 --> 00:23:44,672
Oh, there they are.
328
00:23:44,673 --> 00:23:45,798
Sorry, we're late.
329
00:23:45,799 --> 00:23:47,675
Kayla got lost in the five meter building
330
00:23:47,676 --> 00:23:49,844
and my therapy session went over
331
00:23:49,845 --> 00:23:52,471
because I was on the verge of suicide.
332
00:23:52,472 --> 00:23:55,474
Yeah, I gotta meet with
that counselor tomorrow.
333
00:23:55,475 --> 00:23:57,184
Me too.
334
00:23:57,185 --> 00:23:59,019
Well, if it wasn't for the free coffee,
335
00:23:59,020 --> 00:24:00,604
I wouldn't be there.
336
00:24:00,605 --> 00:24:03,858
Yeah well guys, this is Anna.
337
00:24:03,859 --> 00:24:08,404
- Ashley.
- Ashley, of course, sorry.
338
00:24:08,405 --> 00:24:10,906
It's okay, y'all can
just join us up here.
339
00:24:10,907 --> 00:24:11,907
Okay.
340
00:24:22,294 --> 00:24:24,336
Hey, are you busy?
341
00:24:24,337 --> 00:24:25,338
Nope, come on in.
342
00:24:27,048 --> 00:24:27,883
I just wanted to let you know
343
00:24:27,884 --> 00:24:28,924
that I ran some more numbers
344
00:24:28,925 --> 00:24:31,135
from the real estate account
like you wanted me to
345
00:24:31,136 --> 00:24:32,261
and it just so happens that
346
00:24:32,262 --> 00:24:34,513
that piece of property
right at the county line,
347
00:24:34,514 --> 00:24:37,476
all the way up to as far
as the 85 mile marker
348
00:24:39,227 --> 00:24:40,227
is up for sale.
349
00:24:41,062 --> 00:24:42,897
Okay, and I suppose you
want me to strike a deal
350
00:24:42,898 --> 00:24:44,315
with the owners?
351
00:24:44,316 --> 00:24:45,691
Absolutely, that's you and Barbara.
352
00:24:45,692 --> 00:24:46,734
That's y'all's forte.
353
00:24:46,735 --> 00:24:47,569
Y'all can handle that.
354
00:24:47,569 --> 00:24:48,403
I've nothing to do with that.
355
00:24:48,404 --> 00:24:50,696
But the reason I wanted to
tell you about it specifically
356
00:24:50,697 --> 00:24:52,324
is ironically enough,
357
00:24:54,117 --> 00:24:57,078
this piece of land is where
your old church is on.
358
00:24:58,205 --> 00:25:00,749
Okay I mean, and why
would I care about that?
359
00:25:01,666 --> 00:25:02,542
Well, I don't know.
360
00:25:02,543 --> 00:25:04,126
I just thought you might be interested.
361
00:25:04,127 --> 00:25:06,003
Ben, what is going on
362
00:25:06,004 --> 00:25:08,756
in that schemish little mind of yours?
363
00:25:08,757 --> 00:25:11,635
All right, I admit it.
364
00:25:12,719 --> 00:25:13,553
So I was just thinking
365
00:25:13,554 --> 00:25:16,472
that maybe since that
particular plot of land
366
00:25:16,473 --> 00:25:20,142
is say no longer under
government ownership.
367
00:25:20,143 --> 00:25:21,268
It isn't?
368
00:25:21,269 --> 00:25:23,896
No, it's actually been
under private ownership
369
00:25:23,897 --> 00:25:26,232
for about the last two
and a half years or so.
370
00:25:26,233 --> 00:25:27,274
The old owners basically just cashed out
371
00:25:27,275 --> 00:25:29,276
and went and got some land further West
372
00:25:29,277 --> 00:25:30,111
or whatever or whatnot.
373
00:25:30,112 --> 00:25:33,781
But anyway, the point is if in fact,
374
00:25:33,782 --> 00:25:36,992
you wanna show your old
little church people whatnot,
375
00:25:36,993 --> 00:25:40,454
once our company acquires
the ownership for that land,
376
00:25:40,455 --> 00:25:41,664
you can do whatever you wanna do with it.
377
00:25:41,665 --> 00:25:42,666
Like what?
378
00:25:44,960 --> 00:25:49,965
I don't know, sell it, burn
it to the ground.
379
00:25:53,385 --> 00:25:54,385
Catch you later.
380
00:26:08,024 --> 00:26:11,110
So girls, how was your first day?
381
00:26:11,111 --> 00:26:12,111
- Good.
- Good.
382
00:26:13,488 --> 00:26:15,614
Everyone kept staring at us
383
00:26:15,615 --> 00:26:17,951
and commenting about the way we dress.
384
00:26:18,994 --> 00:26:22,872
They kept using this one word,
like consi, consi-something.
385
00:26:27,210 --> 00:26:28,210
Conservative?
386
00:26:28,211 --> 00:26:30,171
Right, that's it, conservative.
387
00:26:31,131 --> 00:26:33,882
Caitlyn, your counselor called today.
388
00:26:33,883 --> 00:26:36,011
She said you're suppressing a lot of pain.
389
00:26:37,804 --> 00:26:41,016
I am, that coffee causes heartburn
390
00:26:45,228 --> 00:26:47,396
for me after five cups.
391
00:26:47,397 --> 00:26:49,857
No wonder you can't sleep.
392
00:26:49,858 --> 00:26:51,818
You're doped out on caffeine.
393
00:26:55,405 --> 00:26:56,405
Anybody else?
394
00:26:58,283 --> 00:27:00,285
I met a cute guy today.
395
00:27:02,120 --> 00:27:07,125
Relax, he's got a girlfriend
much hotter than me.
396
00:27:07,375 --> 00:27:08,543
I doubt that.
397
00:27:10,211 --> 00:27:11,921
That's not saying much.
398
00:27:13,590 --> 00:27:14,549
Girls?
399
00:27:14,550 --> 00:27:17,217
I bet you didn't meet a cute guy today.
400
00:27:17,218 --> 00:27:21,013
Well, I will admit you got me there,
401
00:27:21,014 --> 00:27:22,890
but I did make a new friend.
402
00:27:22,891 --> 00:27:24,934
- Oh yeah.
- Who?
403
00:27:26,186 --> 00:27:27,561
Her name's Ashley.
404
00:27:27,562 --> 00:27:30,439
She is one of the leaders
of the on-campus crusade.
405
00:27:30,440 --> 00:27:33,108
And she wants us to go to
church with her on Sunday.
406
00:27:33,109 --> 00:27:35,152
- No.
- No?
407
00:27:35,153 --> 00:27:36,945
I already told her we would.
408
00:27:36,946 --> 00:27:39,156
I thought that would be a no brainer.
409
00:27:39,157 --> 00:27:41,992
Mom, I know how you
feel about what happened,
410
00:27:41,993 --> 00:27:44,663
but you don't want us
to go to church anymore?
411
00:28:06,017 --> 00:28:08,061
Maybe you can have her over for dinner.
412
00:28:12,023 --> 00:28:13,525
I'm sure that would be fine.
413
00:28:53,606 --> 00:28:56,442
No, you just said that, right?
414
00:28:56,443 --> 00:29:00,196
You know, wait, you know
when you're leaving?
415
00:29:28,516 --> 00:29:31,143
Oh, did you do that all by yourself?
416
00:29:31,144 --> 00:29:34,062
Oh, it's only 2000 pieces.
417
00:29:34,063 --> 00:29:36,982
You start from the corners
and work your way in.
418
00:29:36,983 --> 00:29:38,067
It's no big deal.
419
00:29:38,985 --> 00:29:42,447
I see, and how are things at home?
420
00:29:44,824 --> 00:29:48,118
We're getting along despite
everything that's happened.
421
00:29:48,119 --> 00:29:50,662
Are you adjusting well to school?
422
00:29:50,663 --> 00:29:52,289
Well, it's school.
423
00:29:52,290 --> 00:29:54,209
I have to make the most of everything.
424
00:29:55,668 --> 00:29:56,919
I'm the oldest
425
00:29:56,920 --> 00:29:59,671
so my little sisters look
to me for leadership.
426
00:29:59,672 --> 00:30:02,926
If I'm okay, they can find
it in themselves to be okay.
427
00:30:09,724 --> 00:30:12,017
Are you finding school challenging?
428
00:30:12,018 --> 00:30:14,686
My life sucks, okay?
429
00:30:14,687 --> 00:30:17,064
I'm the poster child for the doped up,
430
00:30:17,065 --> 00:30:20,651
can't function, problem
teen of the new generation.
431
00:30:20,652 --> 00:30:22,778
Now, can you just pack me full of Prozac,
432
00:30:22,779 --> 00:30:24,988
or lithium, or tranquilizers,
433
00:30:24,989 --> 00:30:27,699
or canned arsenic for that matter,
434
00:30:27,700 --> 00:30:30,494
or whatever it is you guys prescribe
435
00:30:30,495 --> 00:30:32,955
and send me on my merry way.
436
00:30:32,956 --> 00:30:34,707
I'm missing gym class.
437
00:30:43,132 --> 00:30:44,717
She said what?
438
00:31:02,944 --> 00:31:04,361
Hey, you're crazy.
439
00:31:04,362 --> 00:31:06,322
I'd rather be crazy than be with you.
440
00:31:20,837 --> 00:31:22,921
Okay last night, your dogs kept me up
441
00:31:22,922 --> 00:31:25,716
for half an hour because he
was scratching in the inside
442
00:31:25,717 --> 00:31:27,467
of the gate.
Oh my God, what?
443
00:31:27,468 --> 00:31:28,802
And so, I was a little upset
444
00:31:28,803 --> 00:31:29,803
so I yelled, "Stop!"
445
00:31:32,557 --> 00:31:33,558
Oh my God.
446
00:31:35,310 --> 00:31:37,562
He listened to me and
I was like, "Fabulous."
447
00:32:24,943 --> 00:32:26,652
- Hey.
- Hey.
448
00:32:26,653 --> 00:32:29,571
So about church this Sunday.
449
00:32:29,572 --> 00:32:30,697
You can't come?
450
00:32:30,698 --> 00:32:32,741
Well, let's just say my mom wants
451
00:32:32,742 --> 00:32:34,786
to get to know you first,
452
00:32:35,912 --> 00:32:37,537
kind of know what she's
getting herself into.
453
00:32:37,538 --> 00:32:39,539
Oh yeah, of course, that's fine.
454
00:32:39,540 --> 00:32:42,042
Awesome, could you
come to dinner tonight
455
00:32:42,043 --> 00:32:43,252
or maybe tomorrow night?
456
00:32:44,462 --> 00:32:46,421
Yeah, tonight can be fine.
457
00:32:46,422 --> 00:32:48,048
Great, I'm hungry.
458
00:32:48,049 --> 00:32:49,759
My mom makes a lot.
Okay.
459
00:33:07,360 --> 00:33:09,236
This is really good, thank you.
460
00:33:09,237 --> 00:33:11,406
Oh yeah, it is isn't it?
461
00:33:14,325 --> 00:33:16,952
So Ashley, do you go
462
00:33:16,953 --> 00:33:19,121
to church around here
somewhere close do you?
463
00:33:19,122 --> 00:33:21,416
Yeah, my dad is actually
the Senior Pastor.
464
00:33:23,501 --> 00:33:26,795
And your parents aren't
divorced I suppose?
465
00:33:26,796 --> 00:33:27,630
Mom?
466
00:33:27,631 --> 00:33:29,214
Oh no, they're very much together
467
00:33:29,215 --> 00:33:30,674
and very much in love.
468
00:33:30,675 --> 00:33:32,175
In fact, I think just last week,
469
00:33:32,176 --> 00:33:35,178
my dad got my mom this really nice gift
470
00:33:35,179 --> 00:33:38,348
and we were so excited.
471
00:33:38,349 --> 00:33:40,893
My dad, oh.
472
00:33:43,104 --> 00:33:45,940
That's very nice.
473
00:33:54,699 --> 00:33:57,159
Well Ashley, we want our daughters
474
00:33:57,160 --> 00:34:01,372
to be in an environment
that's safe, very safe.
475
00:34:08,588 --> 00:34:12,591
Well yeah, our church is
definitely in a safe section
476
00:34:12,592 --> 00:34:14,676
of town for sure.
477
00:34:14,677 --> 00:34:18,806
She means friendly
environment and non-judgemental.
478
00:34:23,269 --> 00:34:28,273
Oh, oh yeah, our church is
definitely all about that.
479
00:34:28,274 --> 00:34:30,902
The culture of our church
is definitely one of grace.
480
00:34:31,819 --> 00:34:34,238
Because that's what
our last church said.
481
00:34:35,698 --> 00:34:36,741
It's okay.
482
00:34:40,161 --> 00:34:43,206
Mom wouldn't keep us from
going to church would she?
483
00:34:45,166 --> 00:34:46,625
Where are you going?
484
00:34:46,626 --> 00:34:48,294
To get a second helping.
485
00:34:49,420 --> 00:34:52,631
Grab me one more too while
you're out there please.
486
00:34:52,632 --> 00:34:54,841
You're gonna get fat.
487
00:34:54,842 --> 00:34:58,095
Nope, I have another 10
years to eat like a pig
488
00:34:58,096 --> 00:35:00,890
before my metabolism catches up with me,
489
00:35:02,975 --> 00:35:04,852
according to my science teacher.
490
00:37:08,017 --> 00:37:09,726
Oh, here comes Bradley!
491
00:37:09,727 --> 00:37:11,811
Hey there!
492
00:37:11,812 --> 00:37:13,648
What's up?
493
00:37:14,815 --> 00:37:15,815
Hey guys.
494
00:37:25,785 --> 00:37:27,452
Dude, that girl is staring you down.
495
00:37:27,453 --> 00:37:28,453
Yeah man.
496
00:39:26,781 --> 00:39:27,947
Sidney?
497
00:39:27,948 --> 00:39:28,866
Yeah, that's him, that's Sidney.
498
00:39:28,867 --> 00:39:30,242
I was almost in the cold.
499
00:39:35,956 --> 00:39:37,583
My name was almost.
500
00:39:41,253 --> 00:39:42,963
This is Chadwin's plant, Edward
501
00:39:44,757 --> 00:39:46,758
He's very handsome.
502
00:39:46,759 --> 00:39:48,968
I used to water him so much.
503
00:39:48,969 --> 00:39:49,969
I don't know why.
504
00:39:55,434 --> 00:39:57,727
All right, all right everybody.
505
00:39:57,728 --> 00:39:59,687
Thank you guys all for coming.
506
00:39:59,688 --> 00:40:00,939
For those of you who don't know me,
507
00:40:00,940 --> 00:40:02,065
I am Terrence.
508
00:40:02,066 --> 00:40:02,983
I see some new faces.
509
00:40:02,984 --> 00:40:04,692
It's very nice to have you guys.
510
00:40:04,693 --> 00:40:07,487
And this is my lovely fiance, Andrea.
511
00:40:07,488 --> 00:40:10,365
Together, we run the Young Life Program
512
00:40:10,366 --> 00:40:11,491
on Thursday evenings,
513
00:40:11,492 --> 00:40:15,245
or lead or figurehead
this little assembly,
514
00:40:15,246 --> 00:40:16,246
if you will.
515
00:40:17,039 --> 00:40:20,959
So we would like to go around
and introduce each other.
516
00:40:20,960 --> 00:40:22,419
And I know that you
guys that have been here
517
00:40:22,420 --> 00:40:24,754
for a while have done
this a million times,
518
00:40:24,755 --> 00:40:27,298
but we'd like to make
a level playing field
519
00:40:27,299 --> 00:40:29,426
for all of our newcomers.
520
00:40:29,427 --> 00:40:32,929
So if you want, state your name,
521
00:40:32,930 --> 00:40:36,182
your year in school and how
many years you've been coming
522
00:40:36,183 --> 00:40:37,767
to Living Waters.
523
00:40:37,768 --> 00:40:40,478
And of course a fun fact,
524
00:40:40,479 --> 00:40:42,689
something interesting that
you would like other people
525
00:40:42,690 --> 00:40:44,941
in the group to know about you.
526
00:40:44,942 --> 00:40:46,818
So I'll start as always.
527
00:40:46,819 --> 00:40:49,989
And then Andrea will go and
we'll go around this way.
528
00:40:51,407 --> 00:40:53,950
So again, my name is Terrence.
529
00:40:53,951 --> 00:40:57,036
I am a fourth year at NHU.
530
00:40:57,037 --> 00:41:00,498
I've been coming to Living
Waters for 12 years,
531
00:41:00,499 --> 00:41:01,499
leading for three.
532
00:41:02,334 --> 00:41:05,587
And a fun fact about myself
is that my dad is that Pastor
533
00:41:05,588 --> 00:41:07,423
that you guys all see on TV.
534
00:41:09,592 --> 00:41:11,926
Hi, I'm Andrea like Terrence said.
535
00:41:11,927 --> 00:41:14,137
I am a junior at NHU.
536
00:41:14,138 --> 00:41:15,680
I've been coming here for five years now.
537
00:41:15,681 --> 00:41:18,725
And my interesting thing is
that I've been in every country
538
00:41:18,726 --> 00:41:20,352
in Europe following the Newsboys.
539
00:41:21,896 --> 00:41:23,647
Must be nice.
540
00:41:24,648 --> 00:41:25,648
Kayla!
541
00:41:27,526 --> 00:41:29,403
Yeah, it was really an experience.
542
00:41:35,367 --> 00:41:37,494
I'm Braiden, I'm a senior
543
00:41:37,495 --> 00:41:41,080
and this is me and my
girlfriend's first time too.
544
00:41:41,081 --> 00:41:42,832
Interesting fact about me
545
00:41:42,833 --> 00:41:44,334
is that I actually won the MVP
546
00:41:44,335 --> 00:41:46,753
of our high school's football
team two years in a row.
547
00:41:46,754 --> 00:41:48,380
And here's to three.
548
00:41:50,257 --> 00:41:51,966
Oh, that's where I know you from,
549
00:41:51,967 --> 00:41:53,009
you scored that winning touchdown
550
00:41:53,010 --> 00:41:55,595
against was it Willow Creek last year?
551
00:41:55,596 --> 00:41:57,722
Yeah, I did it again
against Mountain View.
552
00:41:57,723 --> 00:41:59,057
Oh yeah, I saw that too.
553
00:41:59,058 --> 00:42:01,185
Heck yeah man, welcome.
Yeah.
554
00:42:06,607 --> 00:42:09,317
So I'm Cami, it's my first night here.
555
00:42:09,318 --> 00:42:11,069
I'm a senior at school.
556
00:42:11,070 --> 00:42:12,278
Interesting thing about me
557
00:42:12,279 --> 00:42:14,489
is that I got to interview
Reese Witherspoon
558
00:42:14,490 --> 00:42:16,157
for an article in our magazine.
559
00:42:16,158 --> 00:42:17,951
She was so awesome.
560
00:42:17,952 --> 00:42:19,370
Wow.
561
00:42:21,789 --> 00:42:23,790
Hi, I'm Ashley.
562
00:42:23,791 --> 00:42:28,419
I am a senior here at Heath
High and I've been going here
563
00:42:28,420 --> 00:42:30,339
for about four years now.
564
00:42:33,092 --> 00:42:35,677
I'd say the most
interesting thing about me
565
00:42:35,678 --> 00:42:39,138
is that I've read the Bible
four times all the way through.
566
00:42:39,139 --> 00:42:41,808
Wow, that's interesting.
567
00:42:41,809 --> 00:42:44,227
Well then, what's
your favorite book then?
568
00:42:44,228 --> 00:42:47,522
Oh golly, I don't really
have a favorite book.
569
00:42:47,523 --> 00:42:50,024
It's more like I like
the New Testament better
570
00:42:50,025 --> 00:42:51,067
than the Old Testament.
571
00:42:51,068 --> 00:42:53,611
The New Testament, what
about the Old Testament?
572
00:42:53,612 --> 00:42:56,656
The battles like the Israelites led by,
573
00:42:56,657 --> 00:42:59,451
let's see Moses and Joshua and King David?
574
00:43:00,578 --> 00:43:01,453
I'm sure your favorite
575
00:43:01,454 --> 00:43:03,746
is the Israelites
getting exiled to Babylon
576
00:43:03,747 --> 00:43:06,332
and that evil King Zedekiah
getting his eyes gouged out
577
00:43:06,333 --> 00:43:08,419
and his sons killed right in front of him.
578
00:43:09,378 --> 00:43:13,673
Yeah, no.
579
00:43:13,674 --> 00:43:16,634
Okay, hi, I'm Megan.
580
00:43:16,635 --> 00:43:18,845
I'm here tonight with my two sisters
581
00:43:18,846 --> 00:43:21,806
and I'll let them introduce themselves.
582
00:43:21,807 --> 00:43:25,476
I am new to Heath High
going into my senior year
583
00:43:25,477 --> 00:43:27,271
and this is our first night here.
584
00:43:28,480 --> 00:43:31,691
I guess my interesting thing
about me/accomplishment
585
00:43:31,692 --> 00:43:35,403
is I won state title for
individual track last year.
586
00:43:35,404 --> 00:43:39,658
- Wow.
- Wow.
587
00:43:42,995 --> 00:43:46,497
Hi, I'm Caitlyn, and like she said,
588
00:43:46,498 --> 00:43:50,710
first time here and
interesting thing about me
589
00:43:50,711 --> 00:43:54,173
is I'm awesome at everything I do.
590
00:43:55,633 --> 00:43:57,842
No, I'm just kidding.
591
00:43:57,843 --> 00:43:59,595
I'm a singer/songwriter.
592
00:44:01,388 --> 00:44:06,352
- Oh, that's cool.
- Wow.
593
00:44:12,399 --> 00:44:17,112
I'm Kayla, first time and
nothing interesting about me.
594
00:44:18,030 --> 00:44:20,573
Oh come on, I'm sure there's something.
595
00:44:20,574 --> 00:44:25,579
No, no famous dad or any
dad really for that matter.
596
00:44:25,996 --> 00:44:28,415
No track star crap, no music,
597
00:44:34,421 --> 00:44:39,050
no trophies, no state title, no football
598
00:44:39,051 --> 00:44:41,929
no "Legally blonde" actresses, no Europe.
599
00:44:51,814 --> 00:44:53,147
Well, I'm sure you've accomplished more
600
00:44:53,148 --> 00:44:54,441
than you think you have.
601
00:44:55,442 --> 00:44:57,486
She just hasn't found her niche yet.
602
00:44:58,320 --> 00:44:59,862
Well, just remember
603
00:44:59,863 --> 00:45:02,407
that you're a child of
God first and foremost.
604
00:45:02,408 --> 00:45:05,118
Hold fast to that and build from there.
605
00:45:05,119 --> 00:45:06,787
Now you sound like my mom.
606
00:45:07,663 --> 00:45:10,623
Okay, so before we turn
this into a pity party
607
00:45:10,624 --> 00:45:12,835
for whining losers, let's move on.
608
00:45:18,090 --> 00:45:19,465
Well, thanks for coming tonight guys.
609
00:45:19,466 --> 00:45:20,925
And thanks for sharing.
610
00:45:20,926 --> 00:45:22,218
Kayla is not alone.
611
00:45:22,219 --> 00:45:24,554
We understand many of you guys
are going through hard times
612
00:45:24,555 --> 00:45:26,097
that you don't wanna talk about tonight.
613
00:45:26,098 --> 00:45:28,224
And we completely understand.
614
00:45:28,225 --> 00:45:31,144
We just hope the message
tonight blesses you.
615
00:45:31,145 --> 00:45:32,729
By the way Ashley,
616
00:45:32,730 --> 00:45:35,398
I think we can all agree
that the Old Testament
617
00:45:35,399 --> 00:45:37,568
is not as good as the New Testament.
618
00:45:39,069 --> 00:45:44,074
Speaking of which, that brings
us to the topic of the night.
619
00:45:45,409 --> 00:45:50,414
So this semester, we will be
focusing on, drum roll please.
620
00:45:56,545 --> 00:45:58,838
Now, I'm going to use an old term here
621
00:45:58,839 --> 00:46:02,175
and it's something that's
very important to us.
622
00:46:02,176 --> 00:46:03,676
And it's something that
we're all called to be
623
00:46:03,677 --> 00:46:06,263
as individuals and as a church.
624
00:46:07,139 --> 00:46:09,307
And this is a little cliche,
625
00:46:09,308 --> 00:46:12,352
a little misplaced, overused ministers.
626
00:46:14,146 --> 00:46:15,980
We're called to minister or to effect,
627
00:46:15,981 --> 00:46:18,524
but a word I think better describes it
628
00:46:18,525 --> 00:46:20,778
is to impact.
629
00:46:22,070 --> 00:46:25,616
We're all called to
impact those around us.
630
00:46:26,617 --> 00:46:28,576
And it's not just our friends and the ones
631
00:46:28,577 --> 00:46:30,870
that are closest to us.
632
00:46:30,871 --> 00:46:32,705
We're called to impact even those
633
00:46:32,706 --> 00:46:34,333
that are farthest from God.
634
00:46:36,960 --> 00:46:39,879
So the question that we wanna ask tonight
635
00:46:39,880 --> 00:46:42,883
is how often have we been doing that?
636
00:46:46,678 --> 00:46:48,179
I know I'm not perfect.
637
00:46:48,180 --> 00:46:51,474
There's plenty of people that
I run into in my everyday life
638
00:46:51,475 --> 00:46:54,102
that I am frankly too busy for.
639
00:46:55,312 --> 00:46:58,731
And other times I say that I'm too busy
640
00:46:58,732 --> 00:47:01,442
even though there's a million
other things I could be doing
641
00:47:01,443 --> 00:47:02,443
at the moment.
642
00:47:04,530 --> 00:47:07,157
So with that, let's open Ephesians 4,
643
00:47:08,325 --> 00:47:12,203
and there's a verse that
I want you to go over.
644
00:47:12,204 --> 00:47:15,206
I think it speak a little
bit of truth into this.
645
00:47:15,207 --> 00:47:18,001
Start with verse 29 alrighty.
646
00:47:22,089 --> 00:47:25,842
"No foul language should
come out of your mouths,
647
00:47:25,843 --> 00:47:29,428
"but only such as is good
for needed edification
648
00:47:29,429 --> 00:47:32,224
"that it may impart
grace to those who hear."
649
00:47:34,017 --> 00:47:37,186
"And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God
650
00:47:37,187 --> 00:47:40,899
"with which you were sealed
for the day of redemption."
651
00:47:43,026 --> 00:47:47,406
"All bitterness, fury, anger, shouting,
652
00:47:48,407 --> 00:47:52,869
"inner viling must be removed
from you along with all
653
00:47:52,870 --> 00:47:53,870
"of their malice.
654
00:47:54,955 --> 00:47:59,584
"And be kind to one
another, compassionate,"
655
00:47:59,585 --> 00:48:04,172
"forgiving one another as God
has forgiven you in Christ."
656
00:48:06,758 --> 00:48:09,093
I think these are all
verses that we kind of know
657
00:48:09,094 --> 00:48:10,970
in our heads, but it's
not really something
658
00:48:10,971 --> 00:48:13,639
that we practice on a day-to-day basis,
659
00:48:13,640 --> 00:48:16,559
hasn't really penetrated our hearts.
660
00:48:16,560 --> 00:48:19,353
In our modern Western Christian culture,
661
00:48:19,354 --> 00:48:21,772
we're so focused on the
importance of our lives
662
00:48:21,773 --> 00:48:23,983
and our schedules that we're not focusing
663
00:48:23,984 --> 00:48:25,319
on what's really important,
664
00:48:28,822 --> 00:48:32,284
even if we ourselves don't
think we're important or matter.
665
00:49:03,899 --> 00:49:07,318
Hey, I just wanted to give
some words of encouragement.
666
00:49:07,319 --> 00:49:08,569
Megan told me you guys
667
00:49:08,570 --> 00:49:11,447
were kind of going through
a hard time right now.
668
00:49:11,448 --> 00:49:14,158
Yeah, she talks too much.
669
00:49:14,159 --> 00:49:15,786
Yeah, some of us do.
670
00:49:17,120 --> 00:49:18,663
I just wanted to know if you wanted
671
00:49:18,664 --> 00:49:20,748
to maybe get some coffee sometime?
672
00:49:20,749 --> 00:49:23,710
I'd love to hear your story
and see what we can do to help.
673
00:49:24,586 --> 00:49:28,214
I appreciate the gesture Miss, Europe,
674
00:49:28,215 --> 00:49:31,635
but I really don't think
that's the best idea.
675
00:49:44,189 --> 00:49:46,232
How's Saturday morning sound?
676
00:49:46,233 --> 00:49:48,318
Sounds good, I'll write down my number.
677
00:50:24,604 --> 00:50:26,397
Hey, thank you so much
for inviting me over
678
00:50:26,398 --> 00:50:27,315
to dinner the other night.
679
00:50:27,315 --> 00:50:28,150
It was so fun.
680
00:50:28,151 --> 00:50:30,151
Yeah, thanks for inviting me to this.
681
00:50:30,152 --> 00:50:31,485
I'm so glad you all came.
682
00:50:31,486 --> 00:50:33,238
Yeah, thanks for inviting us.
683
00:50:34,281 --> 00:50:39,286
Also, would you keep
Kayla in your prayers?
684
00:50:39,411 --> 00:50:41,537
Our family's been going through divorce
685
00:50:41,538 --> 00:50:43,956
and she hasn't been taking it very well.
686
00:50:43,957 --> 00:50:45,959
Oh no, yeah, absolutely.
687
00:50:48,003 --> 00:50:49,628
And about the other night, I'm so sorry.
688
00:50:49,629 --> 00:50:52,631
I did not know you guys
were going through that.
689
00:50:52,632 --> 00:50:53,883
No, it's okay.
690
00:50:53,884 --> 00:50:56,053
I'm the one that should
have said something.
691
00:50:57,220 --> 00:50:58,763
We should get together sometime.
692
00:50:58,764 --> 00:50:59,764
Yeah, we should.
693
00:50:59,765 --> 00:51:00,931
We should go to a coffee shop.
694
00:51:00,932 --> 00:51:02,476
I love coffee.
695
00:51:10,942 --> 00:51:12,277
- Hey!
- Oh, hey.
696
00:51:14,988 --> 00:51:17,698
I'm old enough to know
when it's time to skedaddle.
697
00:51:17,699 --> 00:51:19,450
Where do you think you're going?
698
00:51:19,451 --> 00:51:21,952
You two have to talk.
699
00:51:21,953 --> 00:51:23,829
You're not escaping that easily.
700
00:51:23,830 --> 00:51:27,334
Come on, you know it's new
guy, new girl, they meet.
701
00:51:28,460 --> 00:51:31,378
Quit your babbling and get over here.
702
00:51:31,379 --> 00:51:32,839
Oh, okay.
703
00:51:34,007 --> 00:51:35,883
So cool message tonight, huh?
704
00:51:35,884 --> 00:51:37,009
Yeah, for sure.
705
00:51:37,010 --> 00:51:38,010
You can never hear too much
706
00:51:38,011 --> 00:51:40,471
about loving others, huh Caitlyn?
707
00:51:40,472 --> 00:51:42,891
Yeah, love is dope.
708
00:51:44,726 --> 00:51:46,519
Well, I just wanted to let you know
709
00:51:46,520 --> 00:51:47,728
that some of us are going
to see that new movie
710
00:51:47,729 --> 00:51:49,271
at the theater downtown on Saturday
711
00:51:49,272 --> 00:51:53,692
and you're welcome to join us if you want.
712
00:51:53,693 --> 00:51:55,861
Yeah, that's so nice of you.
713
00:51:55,862 --> 00:51:58,698
I'll check my schedule
and let you know tomorrow.
714
00:52:00,367 --> 00:52:03,119
Hi, you social butterfly.
715
00:52:03,120 --> 00:52:04,370
She knows what I do.
716
00:52:04,371 --> 00:52:06,122
Yeah, you again.
717
00:52:06,123 --> 00:52:09,708
- Yes.
- I invited her
718
00:52:09,709 --> 00:52:12,128
to come to the movies with
our group on Saturday.
719
00:52:12,129 --> 00:52:14,046
Our group, what group?
720
00:52:14,047 --> 00:52:16,465
It was just supposed to be the two of us.
721
00:52:16,466 --> 00:52:18,009
Well, plans change.
722
00:52:19,052 --> 00:52:23,848
Oh, I mean, she's a very busy girl.
723
00:52:23,849 --> 00:52:26,351
She probably doesn't have
time for us on Saturday.
724
00:52:27,269 --> 00:52:30,688
You know what, that reminds me,
725
00:52:30,689 --> 00:52:34,316
I actually have a birthday gig to go to
726
00:52:34,317 --> 00:52:35,693
with my sister Saturday.
727
00:52:35,694 --> 00:52:37,611
We do?
728
00:52:37,612 --> 00:52:41,575
Oh right, Owen Sue, of course, my bad.
729
00:52:42,784 --> 00:52:44,661
So maybe next time.
730
00:52:45,996 --> 00:52:46,996
Next time.
731
00:52:49,791 --> 00:52:52,209
Great, see y'all round.
732
00:52:52,210 --> 00:52:53,211
See you next week.
733
00:52:54,171 --> 00:52:56,547
What, you'll see are next week?
734
00:52:56,548 --> 00:53:01,010
Heartbreaker, you're
gonna be a heartbreaker.
735
00:53:01,011 --> 00:53:03,053
Shut up, you're not big enough
736
00:53:03,054 --> 00:53:05,223
to where I still can't kick your butt.
737
00:54:06,618 --> 00:54:08,369
Good morning, everyone.
738
00:54:08,370 --> 00:54:10,288
It's another beautiful Sunday morning.
739
00:54:11,831 --> 00:54:12,666
With heavy hearts,
740
00:54:12,667 --> 00:54:15,793
we have an announcement
that we need to make.
741
00:54:15,794 --> 00:54:20,799
It's gonna be hard for some of
you congregation to swallow.
742
00:54:20,840 --> 00:54:23,968
It's certainly very difficult for us,
743
00:54:23,969 --> 00:54:26,179
but our church has reached a decision
744
00:54:29,474 --> 00:54:31,893
and we regret to inform everyone.
745
00:54:38,191 --> 00:54:40,109
Babe, did you see Stacy?
746
00:54:40,110 --> 00:54:41,986
I mean, she was judging me
747
00:54:41,987 --> 00:54:44,071
especially when the
offering was going around.
748
00:54:44,072 --> 00:54:46,573
She was watching how much
we were putting in there.
749
00:54:46,574 --> 00:54:48,701
Babe, I'm just feeling a
lot of judgment right now.
750
00:54:48,702 --> 00:54:51,495
Did you see the way that
Stacy looked at you?
751
00:54:51,496 --> 00:54:53,656
Yeah, I did, but I don't
think it was because of him.
752
00:54:54,291 --> 00:54:56,000
We need to talk to them about it.
753
00:54:56,001 --> 00:54:57,918
- Seriously?
- Yeah.
754
00:54:57,919 --> 00:54:59,628
Why do you have to
make everything a joke?
755
00:54:59,629 --> 00:55:00,463
It's not a joke.
756
00:55:00,463 --> 00:55:01,339
It's not funny, I'm serious.
757
00:55:01,340 --> 00:55:04,008
It's very healing to people.
758
00:55:04,009 --> 00:55:06,510
Babe, I just feel like
everyone's judging us.
759
00:55:06,511 --> 00:55:08,387
I mean, did you see Connie?
Yeah.
760
00:55:08,388 --> 00:55:09,471
The way that she looked at us.
761
00:55:09,472 --> 00:55:11,807
She smells funny today, it's weird.
762
00:55:11,808 --> 00:55:13,852
I think it's her grandmother's perfume.
763
00:55:15,103 --> 00:55:17,896
So we need to not say anything about that.
764
00:55:17,897 --> 00:55:19,524
- Hey.
- Hi!
765
00:55:24,321 --> 00:55:27,614
It's just so hard what's going in.
766
00:55:27,615 --> 00:55:29,116
I'm so sorry about all that.
767
00:55:29,117 --> 00:55:30,826
It is, yeah.
768
00:55:30,827 --> 00:55:33,872
Pastor Smith and his wife
have been here for 20 years.
769
00:55:35,040 --> 00:55:37,166
I know, it's heartbreaking.
770
00:55:37,167 --> 00:55:38,126
And we're here to support him
771
00:55:38,127 --> 00:55:39,669
and his family any way we can.
772
00:55:42,756 --> 00:55:44,506
Paul, you're on the board.
773
00:55:44,507 --> 00:55:46,425
I mean, I hate to keep
airing dirty laundry,
774
00:55:46,426 --> 00:55:49,095
but did you have anything to do with this?
775
00:55:51,431 --> 00:55:54,391
It was a business decision
that we needed to make
776
00:55:54,392 --> 00:55:57,269
and it's been staring us in
the face for a while now.
777
00:55:57,270 --> 00:55:59,188
We tried to come up with
alternate solutions,
778
00:55:59,189 --> 00:56:01,106
but let's face it, our
membership is dwindling
779
00:56:01,107 --> 00:56:04,277
and we're just not getting
the offerings that we used to.
780
00:56:06,321 --> 00:56:08,072
People wanna keep blowing
this out of proportion
781
00:56:08,073 --> 00:56:10,908
like it's a direct stab to
Pastor Smith and his family.
782
00:56:10,909 --> 00:56:13,285
It's not, it's not personal at all.
783
00:56:13,286 --> 00:56:15,705
- No.
- We don't wanna see him go,
784
00:56:17,290 --> 00:56:19,208
but it was a business decision.
785
00:56:19,209 --> 00:56:22,336
And you would have done the
same thing at your company.
786
00:56:22,337 --> 00:56:24,421
When the numbers are
down as tough as it is,
787
00:56:24,422 --> 00:56:25,298
you do layoffs.
788
00:56:25,299 --> 00:56:27,759
It's how every business in the world works
789
00:56:28,593 --> 00:56:30,762
and we gotta do what's
best for the church.
790
00:56:33,932 --> 00:56:34,932
I understand.
791
00:56:36,559 --> 00:56:39,229
Well, if you'll excuse me,
I'll go pick up the kids.
792
00:56:43,650 --> 00:56:44,650
Get up.
793
00:56:46,152 --> 00:56:48,946
So hey Ralph, we got any
of that tripping budget left
794
00:56:48,947 --> 00:56:49,947
by any chance?
795
00:56:50,740 --> 00:56:52,324
No, we're fresh out.
796
00:56:52,325 --> 00:56:54,034
Well, come on baby,
797
00:56:54,035 --> 00:56:56,913
we're probably the next
ones to get kicked out.
798
00:56:57,789 --> 00:56:59,373
Are you going to group lunch?
799
00:56:59,374 --> 00:57:02,043
Yeah, yeah.
800
00:57:03,211 --> 00:57:04,879
Okay, I'll save you a seat.
801
00:57:08,383 --> 00:57:12,010
This place has become a laughing stock.
802
00:57:12,011 --> 00:57:13,805
Hey, can I talk to you for a second?
803
00:57:16,307 --> 00:57:18,058
Why do you always have to be a joker?
804
00:57:18,059 --> 00:57:19,643
Because it's funny.
805
00:57:19,644 --> 00:57:23,440
It's not, seriously stop it, shut up.
806
00:57:25,316 --> 00:57:28,652
I just wanted to ask
you about what's going on.
807
00:57:28,653 --> 00:57:30,696
I mean, I talked to you about
what happened with my sister,
808
00:57:30,697 --> 00:57:32,906
but now Pastor Smith?
809
00:57:32,907 --> 00:57:34,908
What is happening with our church?
810
00:57:34,909 --> 00:57:39,914
I know, honestly,
I've been really praying
811
00:57:40,039 --> 00:57:42,249
about what's been going on lately.
812
00:57:42,250 --> 00:57:44,710
And especially with your sister,
813
00:57:44,711 --> 00:57:45,836
I don't even fully agree
814
00:57:45,837 --> 00:57:49,173
with the decisions being made about that.
815
00:57:49,174 --> 00:57:52,718
And I just feel like our
church panics at the first sign
816
00:57:52,719 --> 00:57:53,511
of a problem,
817
00:57:53,512 --> 00:57:57,348
and I'm just really
feeling convicted about it.
818
00:58:17,494 --> 00:58:20,663
I can't believe they did this to us.
819
00:58:22,790 --> 00:58:25,876
They can't do this to us.
820
00:58:25,877 --> 00:58:29,046
The church wouldn't even
exist without you Harold.
821
00:58:29,047 --> 00:58:32,591
Honey, technically they
can, but you have to remember,
822
00:58:32,592 --> 00:58:37,555
they're responsible for the
church's financial future.
823
00:58:37,597 --> 00:58:40,974
I mean, if tithes and
offerings aren't up to par,
824
00:58:40,975 --> 00:58:43,185
and you have to admit they
haven't been for quite a while,
825
00:58:43,186 --> 00:58:45,772
then sacrifices have to be made.
826
00:58:47,106 --> 00:58:48,106
But why us?
827
00:58:49,317 --> 00:58:51,861
We are the church.
828
00:58:52,904 --> 00:58:54,238
They wouldn't be anywhere near
829
00:58:54,239 --> 00:58:56,074
where they are today without us.
830
00:58:57,492 --> 00:59:00,619
You have to understand
that we get paid generously
831
00:59:00,620 --> 00:59:01,621
for what we do.
832
00:59:03,289 --> 00:59:07,000
Look, you have to stop looking at it
833
00:59:07,001 --> 00:59:10,003
as what they've done to us,
834
00:59:10,004 --> 00:59:13,715
rather more what God is doing through us
835
00:59:13,716 --> 00:59:15,927
in this unfortunate situation.
836
00:59:18,388 --> 00:59:21,390
Are you gonna fight it Harold?
837
00:59:21,391 --> 00:59:23,768
Don't you feel it's unjust?
838
00:59:25,436 --> 00:59:28,856
I could Amanda, but what
would I really be fighting for?
839
00:59:30,191 --> 00:59:33,068
And what kind of example
would we be leading
840
00:59:33,069 --> 00:59:36,531
especially to those who know
us at church and beyond?
841
00:59:37,824 --> 00:59:41,828
Look honey, we have to pray over this
842
00:59:42,787 --> 00:59:47,750
and see what God does in the
meantime in providing for us,
843
00:59:48,251 --> 00:59:52,005
in meeting our needs and
then what the next step is.
844
00:59:54,465 --> 00:59:56,551
You can't fool me Harold.
845
00:59:58,303 --> 01:00:00,888
You're just as worried as I am.
846
01:00:02,765 --> 01:00:04,684
We'll get through it.
847
01:00:18,781 --> 01:00:21,284
Look, I need to get
something straight with you.
848
01:00:22,243 --> 01:00:25,162
- Okay.
- Braiden's mine, okay?
849
01:00:25,163 --> 01:00:27,122
I've seen the way you've
been flirting with him.
850
01:00:27,123 --> 01:00:28,749
Flirting?
851
01:00:28,750 --> 01:00:29,791
Last week at Bible study,
852
01:00:29,792 --> 01:00:32,002
he couldn't keep his eyes
off of you all night.
853
01:00:32,003 --> 01:00:33,837
And that's my fault?
854
01:00:33,838 --> 01:00:35,672
You and your sisters
parade yourself around
855
01:00:35,673 --> 01:00:36,798
like you're something special.
856
01:00:36,799 --> 01:00:39,134
You show up at a new school
with your perfect clothes
857
01:00:39,135 --> 01:00:41,094
and your crazy hair.
858
01:00:41,095 --> 01:00:43,597
You don't keep quiet like the others.
859
01:00:43,598 --> 01:00:46,016
You just show up, guns blazing.
860
01:00:46,017 --> 01:00:49,646
Look girl, Braiden,
you can have him, okay.
861
01:00:51,064 --> 01:00:52,522
Let's just say he's not my type.
862
01:00:52,523 --> 01:00:54,275
Oh, he's not good enough for you?
863
01:00:55,360 --> 01:00:58,612
You're jealous, it's obvious.
864
01:00:58,613 --> 01:01:01,531
Oh honey, don't play with the big girls.
865
01:01:01,532 --> 01:01:05,661
You don't wanna play in
the big leagues I promise.
866
01:01:05,662 --> 01:01:08,580
You we're in way, way over your head.
867
01:01:08,581 --> 01:01:12,250
I got to go to class, but yeah,
868
01:01:12,251 --> 01:01:14,961
try to have more confidence in yourself.
869
01:01:14,962 --> 01:01:17,923
I mean, Braiden's not stalking me yet.
870
01:01:17,924 --> 01:01:20,635
He's still talking to you, right?
871
01:01:26,057 --> 01:01:30,227
Okay, you want war,
872
01:01:30,228 --> 01:01:31,228
I'll give you war.
873
01:01:32,230 --> 01:01:33,398
Two can play that game.
874
01:01:49,080 --> 01:01:51,332
So you and your family
are new to the area?
875
01:01:54,669 --> 01:01:56,795
What's left of us, yeah.
876
01:01:56,796 --> 01:01:58,588
Yeah, Ashley told me you guys
877
01:01:58,589 --> 01:02:00,049
were going through a divorce.
878
01:02:01,050 --> 01:02:02,301
Oh she did huh?
879
01:02:03,177 --> 01:02:05,637
I'm sorry, I was just trying to help.
880
01:02:05,638 --> 01:02:07,764
Not only did I go through a divorce
881
01:02:07,765 --> 01:02:08,849
when I was eight years old,
882
01:02:08,850 --> 01:02:12,394
but the man my mom was married
to wasn't even my real dad.
883
01:02:12,395 --> 01:02:15,148
I was what the church would
call an illegitimate child.
884
01:02:16,691 --> 01:02:19,776
I'm what you would call
not the brightest crown
885
01:02:19,777 --> 01:02:20,944
in the box.
886
01:02:20,945 --> 01:02:22,904
I'm sorry, what's that mean?
887
01:02:22,905 --> 01:02:27,326
Oh, I was born out of wedlock
and for the longest time,
888
01:02:29,412 --> 01:02:32,080
I really, really
struggled with my identity
889
01:02:32,081 --> 01:02:35,417
as a person and my
certainty as a child of God.
890
01:02:35,418 --> 01:02:38,545
I mean, I wasn't even supposed to exist.
891
01:02:38,546 --> 01:02:41,090
I was a result of my parents' sin
892
01:02:42,133 --> 01:02:44,676
and being in the middle of a divorce,
893
01:02:44,677 --> 01:02:47,554
it's like, how can God honestly love me
894
01:02:47,555 --> 01:02:49,097
and have a plan for me?
895
01:02:49,098 --> 01:02:50,390
I believed it for everyone else,
896
01:02:50,391 --> 01:02:52,768
but I couldn't accept it for myself.
897
01:02:52,769 --> 01:02:56,646
And I was just so afraid that
one day it would be revealed
898
01:02:56,647 --> 01:03:00,025
to me that I wouldn't inherit
the great things from God
899
01:03:00,026 --> 01:03:03,028
that my pastors and my religious people
900
01:03:03,029 --> 01:03:04,447
that I knew growing up would.
901
01:03:07,283 --> 01:03:11,328
It took me a long time to
realize that we're all here
902
01:03:11,329 --> 01:03:12,913
for a reason.
903
01:03:12,914 --> 01:03:17,125
And God loves to take people
from broken circumstances
904
01:03:17,126 --> 01:03:19,544
and make them into something wonderful,
905
01:03:19,545 --> 01:03:20,546
that's what He does.
906
01:03:21,506 --> 01:03:24,508
When I first came here,
no one ever talked to me.
907
01:03:24,509 --> 01:03:27,220
People would pass right by
me and not even say a word.
908
01:03:28,846 --> 01:03:30,139
Guys that I would talk to,
909
01:03:31,682 --> 01:03:33,643
They would just say they were too busy.
910
01:03:34,977 --> 01:03:37,522
Then the next week, they'd
be with another girl.
911
01:03:41,776 --> 01:03:43,068
It upset me to the point
912
01:03:43,069 --> 01:03:44,653
that I felt like I wasn't good enough
913
01:03:44,654 --> 01:03:47,989
to be in a relationship
with a good Christian man.
914
01:03:47,990 --> 01:03:50,451
I felt like I didn't fit in
with the Christian circle.
915
01:03:51,452 --> 01:03:53,119
If God loved me so much,
916
01:03:53,120 --> 01:03:55,706
then why did I mean so
little to His other children.
917
01:04:00,002 --> 01:04:02,547
I appreciate you all
sharing your stories with me.
918
01:04:04,382 --> 01:04:06,467
You feel similar because your dad left?
919
01:04:07,969 --> 01:04:12,097
Honestly, I'm not really
sure how I'm feeling about it.
920
01:04:12,098 --> 01:04:14,182
Were you close with your dad?
921
01:04:14,183 --> 01:04:16,893
Still am, he says him
leaving mom had nothing
922
01:04:16,894 --> 01:04:18,145
to do with us.
923
01:04:20,773 --> 01:04:22,024
You believe him, right?
924
01:04:24,527 --> 01:04:25,653
I guess.
925
01:04:27,488 --> 01:04:29,406
I guess what we're trying to say
926
01:04:29,407 --> 01:04:33,159
is that you shouldn't let this experience
927
01:04:33,160 --> 01:04:37,206
define your relationship with
God and how you view God.
928
01:04:38,708 --> 01:04:41,293
God wants us to fight for
our relationship with Him
929
01:04:41,294 --> 01:04:44,297
and our relationship with
our spouses and others.
930
01:04:47,425 --> 01:04:48,717
Thanks.
931
01:04:48,718 --> 01:04:50,969
Do you mind if we pray for you?
932
01:04:50,970 --> 01:04:51,970
Sure.
933
01:04:58,978 --> 01:05:01,980
Heavenly Father, I
pray for Kayla right now.
934
01:05:01,981 --> 01:05:03,857
Please give her a peace and a comfort
935
01:05:03,858 --> 01:05:06,151
that only You can give.
936
01:05:06,152 --> 01:05:09,237
I pray that we would
be good friends to her
937
01:05:09,238 --> 01:05:11,531
and that we would understand and help her
938
01:05:11,532 --> 01:05:12,866
and that she would understand
939
01:05:12,867 --> 01:05:15,577
that we're glorifying You.
940
01:05:15,578 --> 01:05:20,583
I pray God that You'd please
give her family comfort
941
01:05:21,292 --> 01:05:25,879
and that she'd be able to
fit in well with school,
942
01:05:25,880 --> 01:05:30,885
that You'd help her with
school and all her friends.
943
01:05:31,552 --> 01:05:33,637
I pray that she'd start
making more friends
944
01:05:33,638 --> 01:05:38,433
and that she would grow in You
and a relationship with You
945
01:05:38,434 --> 01:05:39,809
and her family.
946
01:05:39,810 --> 01:05:42,437
Please give her and her
family a peace and a comfort
947
01:05:42,438 --> 01:05:44,481
that only You can give.
948
01:05:44,482 --> 01:05:46,441
I pray that we give blessing to her
949
01:05:46,442 --> 01:05:48,234
and that we'd encourage her
950
01:05:48,235 --> 01:05:50,403
and that she would be blessed by us
951
01:05:50,404 --> 01:05:55,409
and want to turn to You
Lord for everything.
952
01:05:55,534 --> 01:05:59,079
I pray that we all would
be more dependent on You
953
01:05:59,080 --> 01:06:03,458
and rely on who Christ is
and what He has done for us
954
01:06:03,459 --> 01:06:04,543
on the cross.
955
01:06:09,465 --> 01:06:12,050
And Lord, I just pray
that you please just protect
956
01:06:12,051 --> 01:06:13,468
and guard Kayla's heart
957
01:06:13,469 --> 01:06:15,470
as she goes through these uncertain times.
958
01:06:15,471 --> 01:06:17,806
And I pray for Your hand to just be
959
01:06:17,807 --> 01:06:20,767
on her whole family right
now during these times Lord.
960
01:06:20,768 --> 01:06:22,686
And I pray that You just
help her to keep in mind
961
01:06:22,687 --> 01:06:25,814
that she's a child of God
first and foremost Lord.
962
01:06:25,815 --> 01:06:29,109
And I just pray for Your love
to just show in her life Lord.
963
01:06:29,110 --> 01:06:30,568
And thank You for these amazing times
964
01:06:30,569 --> 01:06:31,903
that we've got together.
965
01:06:31,904 --> 01:06:34,364
And all the things I ask
in Your holy name, amen.
966
01:06:34,365 --> 01:06:36,158
- Amen.
- Amen, thank you.
967
01:07:00,266 --> 01:07:01,516
Good morning.
968
01:07:01,517 --> 01:07:03,435
Hey, how are you doing?
969
01:07:03,436 --> 01:07:05,061
Moving right along, I suppose.
970
01:07:05,062 --> 01:07:06,022
And you?
971
01:07:06,023 --> 01:07:08,356
Great, I have the afternoon off work
972
01:07:08,357 --> 01:07:11,234
so I'm gonna go do a little
early Christmas shopping.
973
01:07:11,235 --> 01:07:13,528
You and the girls still
coming over on Friday?
974
01:07:13,529 --> 01:07:16,698
Of course, the girls
are excited to see you.
975
01:07:16,699 --> 01:07:18,784
Hey, I heard you found a new church.
976
01:07:21,662 --> 01:07:22,954
They're exploring other options
977
01:07:22,955 --> 01:07:24,373
with their friends at school.
978
01:07:25,332 --> 01:07:27,417
They haven't really convinced
me to come along yet.
979
01:07:27,418 --> 01:07:28,335
Well, why not?
980
01:07:28,336 --> 01:07:31,588
I figured you'd be excited
to start somewhere new?
981
01:07:31,589 --> 01:07:33,465
You know that I'm not
going to keep my daughters
982
01:07:33,466 --> 01:07:34,966
from going back to church.
983
01:07:34,967 --> 01:07:36,343
I just would never do that.
984
01:07:37,553 --> 01:07:39,679
It's just my job to protect them.
985
01:07:39,680 --> 01:07:41,598
And naturally, I'm afraid
986
01:07:41,599 --> 01:07:44,392
that they're going to be
greatly disappointed again.
987
01:07:44,393 --> 01:07:46,394
I just don't want them to
turn their backs on God
988
01:07:46,395 --> 01:07:49,065
because of the wrongs that the
church has done toward them.
989
01:07:50,107 --> 01:07:51,859
I just wish they would have waited.
990
01:07:53,486 --> 01:07:55,403
It is all part of the plan Darla.
991
01:07:55,404 --> 01:07:57,030
I want you to believe that.
992
01:07:57,031 --> 01:07:59,491
Anyway, I was calling because
I wanted to let you know
993
01:07:59,492 --> 01:08:00,950
about something that happened at church.
994
01:08:00,951 --> 01:08:02,453
It might make you feel better.
995
01:08:03,454 --> 01:08:04,746
I'm all ears.
996
01:08:04,747 --> 01:08:06,956
I need some good news about right now.
997
01:08:06,957 --> 01:08:09,334
Well, I wouldn't say
that it's good news.
998
01:08:09,335 --> 01:08:10,752
Pastor Smith got let go.
999
01:08:10,753 --> 01:08:12,671
They say due to financial reasons.
1000
01:08:13,714 --> 01:08:15,340
Really?
1001
01:08:15,341 --> 01:08:18,760
Yeah, it's made a lot of people upset,
1002
01:08:18,761 --> 01:08:22,180
but we took up a collection
for him and his wife
1003
01:08:22,181 --> 01:08:25,433
before a lot of people took off.
1004
01:08:25,434 --> 01:08:26,935
Took off?
1005
01:08:26,936 --> 01:08:28,186
Yeah, but no,
1006
01:08:28,187 --> 01:08:30,605
a bunch of people thought
this was a huge injustice
1007
01:08:30,606 --> 01:08:32,357
and they left the church.
1008
01:08:32,358 --> 01:08:34,192
Anyway, I just wanted to let you know
1009
01:08:34,193 --> 01:08:37,112
that what happened to you was not right
1010
01:08:37,113 --> 01:08:38,613
and it wasn't your fault.
1011
01:08:38,614 --> 01:08:40,990
It's just, these guys have their ideas
1012
01:08:40,991 --> 01:08:42,367
about how things should be done
1013
01:08:42,368 --> 01:08:44,536
and they don't stray from them.
1014
01:08:44,537 --> 01:08:46,831
Well, - I appreciate
you letting me know.
1015
01:08:47,790 --> 01:08:49,124
Well, to be honest,
1016
01:08:49,125 --> 01:08:51,417
we're trying to get better as
a church, but to be honest,
1017
01:08:51,418 --> 01:08:54,338
I feel like the congregation
is in its Twilight stage.
1018
01:08:59,093 --> 01:09:01,470
You may be more right than you think.
1019
01:09:02,638 --> 01:09:04,722
Well, don't wish bad things on anyone.
1020
01:09:04,723 --> 01:09:05,933
You're better than that.
1021
01:09:13,315 --> 01:09:14,399
Listen, I got to go.
1022
01:09:14,400 --> 01:09:16,402
It's time for me to start my shopping.
1023
01:09:18,904 --> 01:09:20,530
I'll see you girls on Friday.
1024
01:09:20,531 --> 01:09:21,614
You bet.
1025
01:09:21,615 --> 01:09:24,451
- All right, love you.
- Love you.
1026
01:09:25,870 --> 01:09:26,870
All right, bye.
1027
01:09:53,314 --> 01:09:54,648
I miss you guys too.
1028
01:10:02,323 --> 01:10:04,491
Can you please be quiet?
1029
01:10:58,754 --> 01:11:01,382
She's just telling me to stop.
1030
01:11:19,733 --> 01:11:23,070
Watch this, I just learned it yesterday.
1031
01:11:25,823 --> 01:11:27,157
Pretty cool huh?
1032
01:11:31,161 --> 01:11:36,166
It's so hard.
1033
01:12:29,428 --> 01:12:31,929
Hey, I'm hanging out with
some friends for a little bit.
1034
01:12:31,930 --> 01:12:33,390
On a school night?
1035
01:12:35,184 --> 01:12:36,352
I won't be out late.
1036
01:13:44,503 --> 01:13:46,087
So where do you wanna go?
1037
01:13:46,088 --> 01:13:48,132
I don't know, wherever you wanna go.
1038
01:13:49,508 --> 01:13:51,551
I know this cool place.
1039
01:13:51,552 --> 01:13:55,680
Okay, what kind of place?
1040
01:13:55,681 --> 01:13:58,142
Just somewhere where we can talk.
1041
01:14:24,543 --> 01:14:25,877
Do you know him?
1042
01:14:25,878 --> 01:14:28,754
Yeah, it's a smelly
old hobo begging again.
1043
01:14:28,755 --> 01:14:29,840
I'll take care of him.
1044
01:14:39,057 --> 01:14:40,267
Hey buddy, you hungry?
1045
01:14:41,852 --> 01:14:43,187
God bless you.
1046
01:14:55,365 --> 01:14:58,494
Bon apetit buddy.
1047
01:15:02,998 --> 01:15:04,333
God bless you.
1048
01:15:35,781 --> 01:15:36,822
Bradley!
1049
01:15:36,823 --> 01:15:38,659
Hey guys, what's up?
1050
01:15:42,496 --> 01:15:43,579
This is my girl Kayla.
1051
01:15:43,580 --> 01:15:45,832
- Oh, yes I see you.
- Okay.
1052
01:16:22,619 --> 01:16:24,204
You feeling okay?
1053
01:16:30,877 --> 01:16:32,546
What's wrong baby?
1054
01:16:42,764 --> 01:16:43,764
What the?
1055
01:17:07,581 --> 01:17:11,334
Hey, we were in the neighborhood
1056
01:17:11,335 --> 01:17:13,837
and thought we would give you a lift.
1057
01:17:15,047 --> 01:17:16,797
Seriously?
1058
01:17:16,798 --> 01:17:19,551
We're gonna get some
ice cream on the way home.
1059
01:17:23,138 --> 01:17:26,350
We only have one seat
left for one passenger.
1060
01:17:27,517 --> 01:17:29,435
We could probably squeeze.
1061
01:17:29,436 --> 01:17:34,316
Oh yep, only one seat left, sorry.
1062
01:17:38,612 --> 01:17:40,405
I'll get you for this later.
1063
01:17:49,831 --> 01:17:51,750
You'll thank me for this later.
1064
01:17:55,420 --> 01:17:56,420
I'll text you.
1065
01:18:05,430 --> 01:18:07,432
You forgot this.
1066
01:18:21,697 --> 01:18:22,947
One thing that God really put
1067
01:18:22,948 --> 01:18:24,615
on our hearts to talk about tonight
1068
01:18:24,616 --> 01:18:28,369
is division among believers,
division in the church.
1069
01:18:28,370 --> 01:18:31,038
And one thing that Paul talks
about in the New Testament
1070
01:18:31,039 --> 01:18:32,415
is that we'll be recognized
1071
01:18:32,416 --> 01:18:35,918
or identified might be a more
accurate word for our fruit,
1072
01:18:35,919 --> 01:18:37,962
our love for one another.
1073
01:18:37,963 --> 01:18:41,257
Yeah, even amongst the
strongest of Christians,
1074
01:18:41,258 --> 01:18:45,803
sin can creep in and drive a
wedge in your relationships.
1075
01:18:45,804 --> 01:18:47,221
Now, one thing God has shown me
1076
01:18:47,222 --> 01:18:52,227
is that our minds are so finite,
1077
01:18:52,811 --> 01:18:54,229
that God is so much bigger,
1078
01:18:55,230 --> 01:18:57,815
so much bigger than the
limited circumstances
1079
01:18:57,816 --> 01:19:00,777
that our minds can create
on the path in front of us.
1080
01:19:14,499 --> 01:19:16,460
Hey Andrea, can I ask you something?
1081
01:19:17,377 --> 01:19:18,627
Yeah, what's up?
1082
01:19:18,628 --> 01:19:20,713
I have something I need your advice on.
1083
01:19:20,714 --> 01:19:21,714
Okay.
1084
01:19:25,969 --> 01:19:26,887
Are you done?
1085
01:19:26,887 --> 01:19:27,887
Are you?
1086
01:19:29,181 --> 01:19:31,223
You are the one that
doesn't know what they want.
1087
01:19:31,224 --> 01:19:32,475
Are you kidding me?
1088
01:19:32,476 --> 01:19:34,351
If I was kidding, we wouldn't
be having this conversation.
1089
01:19:34,352 --> 01:19:35,645
Oh my God.
1090
01:19:42,778 --> 01:19:45,070
Of me being not participating
1091
01:19:45,071 --> 01:19:46,655
when I'm the one who called you over here
1092
01:19:46,656 --> 01:19:48,365
to actually have this conversation.
1093
01:19:48,366 --> 01:19:50,576
I honestly care about this.
1094
01:19:50,577 --> 01:19:51,660
And you're the one that kind of like,
1095
01:19:51,661 --> 01:19:54,455
you're the one that's always doing this,
1096
01:19:54,456 --> 01:19:55,664
always bringing stuff up.
1097
01:19:55,665 --> 01:19:58,335
You aren't bringing anything up.
1098
01:20:29,950 --> 01:20:30,950
Bummer.
1099
01:22:02,584 --> 01:22:04,919
Hey you, just wanted to let you know
1100
01:22:04,920 --> 01:22:06,795
that me and Cami are no more.
1101
01:22:06,796 --> 01:22:08,756
Oh, goody.
1102
01:22:08,757 --> 01:22:11,258
Yeah, she just wasn't for me.
1103
01:22:11,259 --> 01:22:14,053
And let me guess, I am?
1104
01:22:14,054 --> 01:22:18,223
- Well, I mean maybe-
- Save it.
1105
01:22:18,224 --> 01:22:20,184
I'm gonna save you from the embarrassment
1106
01:22:20,185 --> 01:22:22,061
of making a fool of yourself.
1107
01:22:22,062 --> 01:22:24,731
I'm not even remotely
interested in you at all.
1108
01:22:37,452 --> 01:22:39,328
But you don't even know me.
1109
01:22:39,329 --> 01:22:42,164
Well, I would say in a
way I know you quite well,
1110
01:22:42,165 --> 01:22:44,960
certainly better than
Cami ever did, excuse me.
1111
01:22:49,297 --> 01:22:50,297
Busted.
1112
01:23:28,253 --> 01:23:31,839
Oh, wonderful, if you're
here to gloat don't, okay.
1113
01:23:31,840 --> 01:23:34,008
Today's not the day to mess with me.
1114
01:23:34,009 --> 01:23:37,095
No, I just wanted to
come and say I'm sorry
1115
01:23:37,971 --> 01:23:40,597
and that you deserve much better.
1116
01:23:40,598 --> 01:23:41,890
Don't mess with me.
1117
01:23:41,891 --> 01:23:46,061
No seriously, think about all
the ways you've been acting,
1118
01:23:46,062 --> 01:23:50,859
trying to hold onto someone
that isn't the best for you.
1119
01:23:51,693 --> 01:23:54,778
And I think you knew it deep down inside,
1120
01:23:54,779 --> 01:23:57,031
that's why you were holding on so tight
1121
01:23:57,032 --> 01:23:59,783
and it almost made you a
whole different person.
1122
01:23:59,784 --> 01:24:02,953
You don't know anything about
me or who I am as a person.
1123
01:24:02,954 --> 01:24:05,497
I know what a head
over heels girl in love
1124
01:24:05,498 --> 01:24:07,042
with the wrong man looks like.
1125
01:24:08,376 --> 01:24:10,878
My sisters are going through it now
1126
01:24:10,879 --> 01:24:13,048
and I'm gonna be patient with them.
1127
01:24:14,007 --> 01:24:16,925
There was a time when I was so obsessed
1128
01:24:16,926 --> 01:24:18,886
with someone I wanted to be with.
1129
01:24:18,887 --> 01:24:21,263
I was so infatuated with him
1130
01:24:21,264 --> 01:24:24,099
that I couldn't see
myself not being with him,
1131
01:24:24,100 --> 01:24:26,477
but God had other plans
1132
01:24:26,478 --> 01:24:29,021
and He showed me how miserable
my life would have been
1133
01:24:29,022 --> 01:24:31,148
with someone who seemed to look good
1134
01:24:31,149 --> 01:24:33,025
and seemed to be the best for me.
1135
01:24:33,026 --> 01:24:35,444
But in reality, I just didn't have a clear
1136
01:24:35,445 --> 01:24:37,279
and raw picture of my life,
1137
01:24:37,280 --> 01:24:39,449
Just like they talked
about at Bible study.
1138
01:24:40,784 --> 01:24:42,535
I almost don't even care anymore.
1139
01:24:44,788 --> 01:24:47,956
What's an amazing Godly man
gonna wanna do with me now,
1140
01:24:47,957 --> 01:24:49,417
my sins and flaws and all?
1141
01:24:51,044 --> 01:24:54,338
Yeah, I used to think that way too.
1142
01:24:54,339 --> 01:24:57,216
I was so obsessed with what
I thought was realistic,
1143
01:24:57,217 --> 01:24:59,426
I left no room for faith.
1144
01:24:59,427 --> 01:25:03,097
I realized if you're
genuinely pursuing God,
1145
01:25:03,098 --> 01:25:04,057
then at that point,
1146
01:25:04,058 --> 01:25:06,392
you really have no
excuse to not trust Him.
1147
01:25:07,811 --> 01:25:11,522
What if God wants me to be
single for the rest of my life?
1148
01:25:11,523 --> 01:25:14,525
I may not be mature
enough to bring my 2 cents,
1149
01:25:14,526 --> 01:25:17,444
but we live in a world where
we blame everything on God,
1150
01:25:17,445 --> 01:25:20,447
our failures, the devil's schemes.
1151
01:25:20,448 --> 01:25:22,950
If you were to be single
for the rest of your life,
1152
01:25:22,951 --> 01:25:25,245
it's not because God
didn't bring you anybody.
1153
01:25:26,079 --> 01:25:27,038
In the Bible, it says,
1154
01:25:27,039 --> 01:25:29,414
"Delight yourself in the Lord
and He'll give you the desires"
1155
01:25:29,415 --> 01:25:30,666
"of your heart."
1156
01:25:30,667 --> 01:25:32,668
So if it's your desire to get married,
1157
01:25:32,669 --> 01:25:34,586
ask God and pursue it.
1158
01:25:34,587 --> 01:25:35,797
That's just my thoughts.
1159
01:25:37,048 --> 01:25:41,218
You're right, that makes
perfect sense, thank you.
1160
01:25:41,219 --> 01:25:44,138
I guess I was just so obsessed with him
1161
01:25:44,139 --> 01:25:46,182
that I lost who I was along the way.
1162
01:25:47,183 --> 01:25:48,559
It's not me.
1163
01:25:48,560 --> 01:25:51,061
Listen, I'm so sorry about the
way I've acted in the past.
1164
01:25:51,062 --> 01:25:53,147
It's not who I am.
1165
01:25:53,148 --> 01:25:53,982
I was just obsessed with him
1166
01:25:53,983 --> 01:25:56,066
that I kind of lost myself along the way.
1167
01:25:56,067 --> 01:25:58,861
I've been a completely different person.
1168
01:25:58,862 --> 01:26:02,073
- Friends?
- Friends.
1169
01:26:17,755 --> 01:26:20,757
So how has the new school been?
1170
01:26:20,758 --> 01:26:23,051
It's awesome, I get free coffee,
1171
01:26:23,052 --> 01:26:26,680
get to skip class and get to
talk about my life all day.
1172
01:26:26,681 --> 01:26:28,307
It's pretty great.
1173
01:26:28,308 --> 01:26:29,892
Wow.
1174
01:26:29,893 --> 01:26:32,561
That's coming to a close very soon.
1175
01:26:32,562 --> 01:26:33,563
For real?
1176
01:26:35,315 --> 01:26:36,315
Fine.
1177
01:26:37,233 --> 01:26:39,193
Oh, the drama.
1178
01:26:39,194 --> 01:26:41,571
It's definitely been
a wild semester so far.
1179
01:26:42,906 --> 01:26:46,700
Well, I definitely
wanna hear all about it.
1180
01:26:46,701 --> 01:26:47,535
Are you girls done?
1181
01:26:47,536 --> 01:26:48,869
You look like you're done.
1182
01:26:48,870 --> 01:26:50,787
- Yeah, I am.
- Me too.
1183
01:26:50,788 --> 01:26:53,208
I mean, I could always
go for more.
1184
01:26:54,250 --> 01:26:55,626
Pig.
1185
01:26:55,627 --> 01:26:56,960
Go ahead and enjoy some more.
1186
01:26:56,961 --> 01:26:58,378
Clean up when you're done.
1187
01:26:58,379 --> 01:26:59,839
Your aunt and I need to talk.
1188
01:27:01,216 --> 01:27:02,466
Ooh, that sounds serious.
1189
01:27:02,467 --> 01:27:03,301
Wait a second,
1190
01:27:03,302 --> 01:27:06,221
does that mean that they're
gonna clean up in my kitchen?
1191
01:27:07,263 --> 01:27:09,348
This is great.
1192
01:27:09,349 --> 01:27:12,392
You girls growing up is
definitely to my benefit.
1193
01:27:12,393 --> 01:27:13,228
Does this mean
1194
01:27:13,229 --> 01:27:15,062
I don't get them Christmas
presents this year?
1195
01:27:15,063 --> 01:27:16,230
- No, what?
- What?
1196
01:27:16,231 --> 01:27:17,398
- No, no.
- No.
1197
01:27:20,777 --> 01:27:23,278
No, no, no, no, no, no.
1198
01:27:23,279 --> 01:27:24,947
No, I'm kidding.
1199
01:27:24,948 --> 01:27:26,573
I already bought you presents.
1200
01:27:26,574 --> 01:27:27,408
Are you kidding me.
1201
01:27:27,409 --> 01:27:29,660
You gotta wait for them.
1202
01:27:29,661 --> 01:27:31,829
Okay, this is big tonight.
1203
01:27:51,849 --> 01:27:53,934
So do you always have to decorate
1204
01:27:53,935 --> 01:27:55,686
for Christmas before Thanksgiving?
1205
01:27:55,687 --> 01:27:57,896
Yes, I do always have to decorate
1206
01:27:57,897 --> 01:28:00,316
for Christmas before Thanksgiving.
1207
01:28:02,944 --> 01:28:03,778
Put your foot down.
1208
01:28:03,779 --> 01:28:05,153
Why are you all up in my business?
1209
01:28:05,154 --> 01:28:06,947
Because I'm always up in your business.
1210
01:28:06,948 --> 01:28:10,033
Oh, well, you know I'm about to get up
1211
01:28:10,034 --> 01:28:12,035
in your business too.
1212
01:28:12,036 --> 01:28:14,329
Are you gonna go to church
with the girls on Sunday?
1213
01:28:14,330 --> 01:28:16,206
I'm just still trying
1214
01:28:16,207 --> 01:28:18,042
to debate whether I should go or not.
1215
01:28:18,960 --> 01:28:20,044
So why?
1216
01:28:21,713 --> 01:28:23,088
Well, I'm glad they're going,
1217
01:28:23,089 --> 01:28:26,259
but I just feel like it's too late for me.
1218
01:28:27,802 --> 01:28:29,428
They don't need a divorced woman
1219
01:28:29,429 --> 01:28:32,056
at the church justified or unjustified.
1220
01:28:34,851 --> 01:28:39,438
I talked to Ralph and Yvette
at small group on Wednesday
1221
01:28:39,439 --> 01:28:43,025
and I feel like they're both
the starting to understand
1222
01:28:43,026 --> 01:28:44,776
and see what's happening to us.
1223
01:28:44,777 --> 01:28:46,653
I even pulled Yvette aside and I'm like,
1224
01:28:46,654 --> 01:28:47,779
"What have we become?"
1225
01:28:47,780 --> 01:28:49,573
It just seems like ever
since that incident
1226
01:28:49,574 --> 01:28:50,949
with a youth pastor,
1227
01:28:50,950 --> 01:28:54,077
we've been making more
and more rash decisions
1228
01:28:54,078 --> 01:28:54,912
in the church
1229
01:28:54,913 --> 01:28:58,081
and it is causing a lot of division.
1230
01:28:58,082 --> 01:29:00,125
And I just say all that to say, I mean,
1231
01:29:00,126 --> 01:29:03,295
God is your ultimate authority,
not the church leadership,
1232
01:29:03,296 --> 01:29:05,088
not your boss at work.
1233
01:29:05,089 --> 01:29:07,799
And if you know that
you're right with God,
1234
01:29:07,800 --> 01:29:10,469
it gives you the ability to forgive people
1235
01:29:10,470 --> 01:29:13,264
who are just being dumb humans.
1236
01:29:14,223 --> 01:29:17,434
Can only see things from
their own perspective,
1237
01:29:17,435 --> 01:29:20,313
and they're not 100% right about anything.
1238
01:29:22,231 --> 01:29:25,151
Even when I told you about what
happened with Pastor Smith,
1239
01:29:28,321 --> 01:29:29,863
whatever it is that our
church is dealing with,
1240
01:29:29,864 --> 01:29:33,158
whether it's weakened leadership
or people are overreacting
1241
01:29:33,159 --> 01:29:35,118
because of past experiences.
1242
01:29:35,119 --> 01:29:38,663
And it doesn't change God's
love or affection for you,
1243
01:29:38,664 --> 01:29:41,708
but I feel like deep down,
maybe you feel like it does.
1244
01:29:41,709 --> 01:29:43,960
But, what about what they said?
1245
01:29:43,961 --> 01:29:44,921
Like I'm not fighting
1246
01:29:44,922 --> 01:29:46,839
for my marriage like it's all my fault?
1247
01:29:48,091 --> 01:29:53,096
Well, I mean, I grew up with
you and I think we both know
1248
01:29:53,638 --> 01:29:57,182
that you are perfectly capable of fighting
1249
01:29:57,183 --> 01:29:59,101
and I don't even remember one instance
1250
01:29:59,102 --> 01:30:00,228
when you were wrong.
1251
01:30:01,354 --> 01:30:05,274
Okay, yeah, yeah.
1252
01:30:07,568 --> 01:30:09,027
And has anything ever been your fault?
1253
01:30:09,028 --> 01:30:11,406
No, nothing has ever been your fault.
1254
01:30:13,366 --> 01:30:16,743
Oh come on, I mean, you
know what I felt about Bill?
1255
01:30:16,744 --> 01:30:18,245
I mean, I know you were sick of his lies.
1256
01:30:18,246 --> 01:30:19,747
I was sick of his lies.
1257
01:30:20,623 --> 01:30:24,209
I mean, it's not fair what he
did to you, church did to you.
1258
01:30:24,210 --> 01:30:26,002
I mean, it's not fair that you have
1259
01:30:26,003 --> 01:30:28,588
to go through a divorce
without your church family,
1260
01:30:28,589 --> 01:30:31,550
or start over again in a new town,
1261
01:30:31,551 --> 01:30:34,804
a new job, the new school for the girls,
1262
01:30:37,598 --> 01:30:40,016
just all of it, single parenting.
1263
01:30:40,017 --> 01:30:42,811
But it does remind me of
what mom always used to say.
1264
01:30:42,812 --> 01:30:47,150
She said, "Pray for a
spirit of unselfishness"
1265
01:30:48,109 --> 01:30:50,611
"even if you don't feel
like you've been selfish."
1266
01:30:58,494 --> 01:31:00,328
What?
1267
01:31:00,329 --> 01:31:02,831
Well, you know about my new company,
1268
01:31:02,832 --> 01:31:05,959
how we buy, sell land, property venues?
1269
01:31:05,960 --> 01:31:07,043
Right.
1270
01:31:07,044 --> 01:31:10,046
Well, somehow our company
started to do business
1271
01:31:10,047 --> 01:31:11,756
with the owner of the plot of land
1272
01:31:11,757 --> 01:31:15,052
that owns some businesses,
including the church.
1273
01:31:16,179 --> 01:31:19,640
So I requested for that
building to be torn down
1274
01:31:20,975 --> 01:31:24,394
and the document just came in this week
1275
01:31:24,395 --> 01:31:26,731
and all it needs is my signature.
1276
01:31:29,317 --> 01:31:32,069
Okay well, please tell me
that you did not sign that.
1277
01:31:57,637 --> 01:32:02,642
No, instead I signed
a check for a donation
1278
01:32:03,100 --> 01:32:05,185
to Pastor Smith
1279
01:32:05,186 --> 01:32:06,770
and I set that document aside,
1280
01:32:06,771 --> 01:32:08,563
maybe to think about it for later.
1281
01:32:08,564 --> 01:32:11,983
Okay well, please just tell
me you're gonna tear it up
1282
01:32:11,984 --> 01:32:13,277
and throw it away.
1283
01:32:14,612 --> 01:32:18,032
- Yes I am.
- Okay, good.
1284
01:32:20,243 --> 01:32:23,078
I mean, you just have to pray
for a way to move past this.
1285
01:32:23,079 --> 01:32:24,955
I mean, the girls need you.
1286
01:32:24,956 --> 01:32:28,041
I can tell Kayla, she has
some abandonment issues.
1287
01:32:28,042 --> 01:32:29,543
I know she's getting some
help from the church,
1288
01:32:29,544 --> 01:32:31,836
but still, it's still affecting them.
1289
01:32:31,837 --> 01:32:36,466
It's affecting all of them
and you and me, mostly me.
1290
01:32:36,467 --> 01:32:38,719
- Yes.
- And that's what matters.
1291
01:32:41,389 --> 01:32:42,931
Oh yeah, that in itself is just a thing.
1292
01:32:42,932 --> 01:32:46,268
Whatever, I always forget about that.
1293
01:32:46,269 --> 01:32:48,104
I love you sis.
I love you too.
1294
01:32:49,480 --> 01:32:51,440
Thank you.
Oh, thank you.
1295
01:33:15,089 --> 01:33:17,008
Are you still talking to him?
1296
01:33:19,468 --> 01:33:20,969
What makes you think you have the right
1297
01:33:20,970 --> 01:33:23,388
to constantly be in my business?
1298
01:33:23,389 --> 01:33:26,725
I've been your best
friend all your life.
1299
01:33:26,726 --> 01:33:30,186
I've always been up in your
business and you in mine.
1300
01:33:30,187 --> 01:33:32,355
What's so different about now?
1301
01:33:32,356 --> 01:33:34,316
I just wanna make my own decisions
1302
01:33:34,317 --> 01:33:37,444
and stop being treated like
I'm some dumb little girl
1303
01:33:37,445 --> 01:33:39,322
that doesn't know what's best for her.
1304
01:33:43,701 --> 01:33:46,703
You know just as well as I do,
1305
01:33:46,704 --> 01:33:50,749
people our age don't make good
decisions without guidance.
1306
01:33:50,750 --> 01:33:52,334
Let's face it,
1307
01:33:52,335 --> 01:33:55,254
neither of us have been
the same since dad left.
1308
01:33:56,255 --> 01:33:59,759
Shoot, the only one that's
been normal is Caitlyn.
1309
01:34:02,970 --> 01:34:04,680
Caitlyn doesn't count.
1310
01:34:05,556 --> 01:34:09,851
I mean, look at her,
everything's a joke to her.
1311
01:34:09,852 --> 01:34:13,189
Just like the counselor
says, she's suppressing it.
1312
01:34:14,357 --> 01:34:18,986
Maybe she just chooses joy
over dwelling and sadness.
1313
01:34:21,697 --> 01:34:25,408
You can make the choice to let
your experiences define you.
1314
01:34:25,409 --> 01:34:28,495
You can choose to believe
that all your new friends
1315
01:34:28,496 --> 01:34:31,623
from church are gonna one day leave you
1316
01:34:31,624 --> 01:34:35,543
or you can trust that God will
bring people into your life,
1317
01:34:35,544 --> 01:34:38,713
some permanent and some for a season
1318
01:34:38,714 --> 01:34:41,050
and it's your job not to run them off.
1319
01:34:42,968 --> 01:34:45,845
You can't trust anyone to stay.
1320
01:34:45,846 --> 01:34:46,846
Yes, you can.
1321
01:34:52,770 --> 01:34:56,523
Kayla, just just know that God is there
1322
01:34:56,524 --> 01:34:58,608
even when others cannot be.
1323
01:34:58,609 --> 01:35:01,861
Just concentrate on you there for others.
1324
01:35:01,862 --> 01:35:04,823
Think about it, are you perfect?
1325
01:35:04,824 --> 01:35:06,658
Do you care for Cami at school?
1326
01:35:06,659 --> 01:35:07,951
What?
1327
01:35:07,952 --> 01:35:09,577
No way.
1328
01:35:09,578 --> 01:35:11,622
She's a friend of mine now.
1329
01:35:13,082 --> 01:35:14,458
Very much so.
1330
01:35:15,501 --> 01:35:17,711
I'll explain later.
1331
01:35:17,712 --> 01:35:18,712
What happened?
1332
01:35:21,465 --> 01:35:26,011
Braiden broke up with her
and I took the chance to...
1333
01:35:28,848 --> 01:35:31,725
- What?
- Show her compassion.
1334
01:35:31,726 --> 01:35:34,228
That's all I felt for her was compassion.
1335
01:35:35,062 --> 01:35:38,065
I prayed that God would help
me see her through His eyes.
1336
01:35:41,569 --> 01:35:42,569
Was it hard?
1337
01:35:43,446 --> 01:35:45,364
It was until I prayed that prayer.
1338
01:36:12,683 --> 01:36:16,604
Dear God, why am I doing this to myself?
1339
01:36:17,563 --> 01:36:22,568
You've always been so faithful
to me, but out of my anger,
1340
01:36:22,735 --> 01:36:24,487
I've turned my back on You.
1341
01:36:26,530 --> 01:36:29,365
I'm sorry, please forgive me
1342
01:36:29,366 --> 01:36:31,327
for all the wrong decisions I have made
1343
01:36:32,411 --> 01:36:33,788
that has led me to sin.
1344
01:36:35,289 --> 01:36:37,875
Heal my heart and help me to trust You
1345
01:36:38,959 --> 01:36:40,710
and get me back on the path that leads
1346
01:36:40,711 --> 01:36:44,548
to life, righteousness and joy
1347
01:36:45,758 --> 01:36:48,052
that I know only truly comes from You.
1348
01:36:49,595 --> 01:36:51,305
Help me to love my family
1349
01:36:54,558 --> 01:36:57,102
and thank You for my sisters and my mom.
1350
01:36:58,521 --> 01:37:01,482
And just help me to love
and appreciate them.
1351
01:37:03,442 --> 01:37:06,153
I know I haven't been the
easiest person to be around,
1352
01:37:07,154 --> 01:37:09,824
but help me to change that.
1353
01:37:11,909 --> 01:37:13,035
Heal me Lord.
1354
01:37:23,671 --> 01:37:27,591
I'm sorry I've been so rude
and impossible to deal with.
1355
01:37:29,552 --> 01:37:31,095
We knew you'd come around.
1356
01:37:32,388 --> 01:37:34,430
It's been hard on all of us.
1357
01:37:34,431 --> 01:37:35,473
We love you.
1358
01:37:35,474 --> 01:37:37,393
And you know God will see us through.
1359
01:38:34,575 --> 01:38:36,075
Whose flowers are these?
1360
01:38:36,076 --> 01:38:38,621
Girls, who got these flowers?
1361
01:38:39,830 --> 01:38:40,830
I did, mom.
1362
01:38:43,792 --> 01:38:44,918
Why?
1363
01:38:44,919 --> 01:38:48,087
They're beautiful, my
favorite, pink roses.
1364
01:38:48,088 --> 01:38:49,631
But why did you get them?
1365
01:38:49,632 --> 01:38:52,258
Because you've always been there for me.
1366
01:38:52,259 --> 01:38:53,969
You're the strongest person I know.
1367
01:38:56,138 --> 01:38:58,182
You are an awesome daughter.
1368
01:39:00,684 --> 01:39:01,684
Thank you Megan.
1369
01:39:03,312 --> 01:39:04,562
I love you.
1370
01:39:04,563 --> 01:39:05,688
I love you too.
1371
01:39:05,689 --> 01:39:07,816
And you've always been there for me too.
1372
01:39:24,458 --> 01:39:28,252
Kayla, didn't think we'd forget you
1373
01:39:28,253 --> 01:39:30,255
on your special day did you Miss. Kayla?
1374
01:39:32,424 --> 01:39:33,258
We're taking you out to dinner.
1375
01:39:33,259 --> 01:39:34,384
You can't say no.
1376
01:39:34,385 --> 01:39:36,261
Oh, I know just the place.
1377
01:39:38,639 --> 01:39:40,599
- Happy birthday.
- Thank you, wow.
1378
01:39:41,934 --> 01:39:44,018
Oh, look at that?
1379
01:39:44,019 --> 01:39:45,895
That is so sweet.
1380
01:39:45,896 --> 01:39:47,522
Do you think they'd
mind if I took a video?
1381
01:39:47,523 --> 01:39:49,232
Just the creepy aunt in the background?
1382
01:39:49,233 --> 01:39:52,276
- Not at all.
- Of the sweet moment.
1383
01:39:52,277 --> 01:39:54,404
It's so good to see Kayla happy.
1384
01:39:54,405 --> 01:39:58,242
Oh, it's precious, love it.
1385
01:40:00,494 --> 01:40:03,413
Well, I have the check
1386
01:40:03,414 --> 01:40:05,915
to give to you to give to
Pastor Smith at your church.
1387
01:40:05,916 --> 01:40:07,208
Well, you know what?
1388
01:40:07,209 --> 01:40:09,836
I am having dinner with
him and his wife tonight.
1389
01:40:09,837 --> 01:40:13,089
Do you wanna join us?
Okay, we'll be there.
1390
01:40:13,090 --> 01:40:14,133
Awesome.
1391
01:40:24,268 --> 01:40:26,310
Well, we regret not having a chance
1392
01:40:26,311 --> 01:40:29,022
to really get to know you
better while we were there,
1393
01:40:29,023 --> 01:40:32,860
but just this whole experience,
it's taken us by storm.
1394
01:40:33,736 --> 01:40:34,570
It sure has.
1395
01:40:34,571 --> 01:40:37,447
But, I accepted a new position down,
1396
01:40:37,448 --> 01:40:41,325
what, a couple of hours
South of here to a new church
1397
01:40:41,326 --> 01:40:43,786
so all is well with us.
1398
01:40:43,787 --> 01:40:48,751
Just wish God would have
chose a less dramatic way
1399
01:40:49,168 --> 01:40:50,502
of moving us on.
1400
01:40:52,171 --> 01:40:53,297
We all do.
1401
01:40:55,382 --> 01:40:59,343
But we have learned so much
through this whole experience.
1402
01:40:59,344 --> 01:41:01,054
I mean, we sure have.
1403
01:41:01,055 --> 01:41:02,806
Oh, so have we.
1404
01:41:05,100 --> 01:41:07,810
Really, tell us about it?
1405
01:41:07,811 --> 01:41:09,104
I've been through a lot.
1406
01:41:09,980 --> 01:41:12,940
When my husband left me, it crushed me.
1407
01:41:12,941 --> 01:41:14,651
I mean, really crushed me.
1408
01:41:15,569 --> 01:41:18,238
And the hardest part was
that the church didn't help.
1409
01:41:19,239 --> 01:41:21,032
I just needed someone to be there for me
1410
01:41:21,033 --> 01:41:22,117
and to encourage me.
1411
01:41:24,369 --> 01:41:26,622
I just needed to be strong for my kids.
1412
01:41:28,665 --> 01:41:30,208
Wanna know how I did it?
1413
01:41:30,209 --> 01:41:31,043
Absolutely.
1414
01:41:31,044 --> 01:41:32,795
Oh, we really wanna hear it, yes.
1415
01:41:35,047 --> 01:41:37,590
With the help of
someone very close to me
1416
01:41:37,591 --> 01:41:39,676
who helped me push past my pain.
1417
01:41:42,304 --> 01:41:44,597
I started to just abide in the Lord.
1418
01:41:44,598 --> 01:41:47,308
I started to press into the
Lord and spend time alone
1419
01:41:47,309 --> 01:41:49,185
with Him and reading His word.
1420
01:41:49,186 --> 01:41:52,980
The Lord minister to me
personally in my quiet time
1421
01:41:52,981 --> 01:41:56,359
and let me realize He was still in control
1422
01:41:56,360 --> 01:41:58,612
even in the midst of my loneliness.
1423
01:41:59,655 --> 01:42:01,447
And you know what I found out?
1424
01:42:01,448 --> 01:42:03,367
God did not forsake me.
1425
01:42:05,369 --> 01:42:08,496
When the church shunned
me, that wasn't God,
1426
01:42:08,497 --> 01:42:12,000
that was just fallen people
blinded by their own opinions.
1427
01:42:13,168 --> 01:42:17,714
But God, He accepted me, and He loved me,
1428
01:42:19,925 --> 01:42:24,929
and He forgave me and He
encouraged me to get back up again.
1429
01:42:24,930 --> 01:42:27,598
That is the power of Jesus.
1430
01:42:27,599 --> 01:42:28,767
- Amen.
- Amen.
1431
01:42:30,644 --> 01:42:34,397
I'm so sorry you went through all that.
1432
01:42:34,398 --> 01:42:36,107
We didn't realize all that was happening
1433
01:42:36,108 --> 01:42:40,027
to you at our church, but
I praise God that the Lord,
1434
01:42:40,028 --> 01:42:41,362
He's been ministering
1435
01:42:41,363 --> 01:42:44,241
to you the same way He's
been ministering to us.
1436
01:43:12,811 --> 01:43:14,812
Hey there, I'm Kyle.
1437
01:43:14,813 --> 01:43:16,440
I'm Pastor Harold's son.
1438
01:43:25,616 --> 01:43:27,867
I hear you used to go to our church.
1439
01:43:27,868 --> 01:43:30,077
How have we not met before?
1440
01:43:30,078 --> 01:43:31,078
I don't know.
1441
01:43:37,544 --> 01:43:39,378
Okay, time to go.
1442
01:43:39,379 --> 01:43:42,256
Yup, got some more gifts to open.
1443
01:43:42,257 --> 01:43:46,761
Caitlyn, Kayla where do
you think you guys are going?
1444
01:43:46,762 --> 01:43:48,388
I'm talking to you.
1445
01:43:49,765 --> 01:43:50,974
Come back here.
1446
01:43:52,017 --> 01:43:53,018
Guys, I'm serious.
1447
01:43:54,436 --> 01:43:55,770
You'll thank me later.
1448
01:43:55,771 --> 01:43:57,396
Oh my gosh.
1449
01:43:57,397 --> 01:43:59,233
Oh, no you were not.
1450
01:44:01,860 --> 01:44:03,528
Hi, I'm Megan.
1451
01:44:05,197 --> 01:44:06,197
Hi.
1452
01:44:10,661 --> 01:44:11,495
All right everybody,
1453
01:44:11,496 --> 01:44:14,289
it's time for Kayla to give
her birthday speech tonight.
1454
01:44:16,333 --> 01:44:20,044
Speech, speech, speech, speech, speech.
1455
01:44:20,045 --> 01:44:22,964
Speech,
speech, speech, speech.
1456
01:44:22,965 --> 01:44:25,550
Speech, speech, speech, speech.
1457
01:44:28,762 --> 01:44:29,762
Okay, okay, okay.
1458
01:44:31,306 --> 01:44:35,351
Well, thank you all for
coming and for the presents.
1459
01:44:35,352 --> 01:44:40,357
And thank you for just being there for me.
1460
01:44:43,944 --> 01:44:44,903
As most of you know,
1461
01:44:44,904 --> 01:44:46,738
I'm going through a really hard time.
1462
01:44:49,741 --> 01:44:51,534
I appreciate how supportive
1463
01:44:51,535 --> 01:44:53,495
and accepting you've all been to me.
1464
01:44:55,580 --> 01:44:57,249
It means more to me than you know.
1465
01:44:59,209 --> 01:45:02,337
God is healing me and He's
showing me how faithful He is.
1466
01:45:04,131 --> 01:45:06,550
This has been an amazing evening.
1467
01:45:07,551 --> 01:45:10,177
Your encouragement has showed me
1468
01:45:10,178 --> 01:45:14,308
that even when you're hurting,
God can give you hope again.
1469
01:45:20,230 --> 01:45:22,107
Now let's see some cake!
1470
01:46:57,702 --> 01:46:59,329
You can do a little turn maybe?
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