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LIFE AFTER DEATH

You're not going to take that off now, are you?

That is, before it's all over.
- It's all over now.

You can't do that
After the funeral?

Well, now they are left!
The rings, her fingers.

Aren't they going to be recovered?

This has probably happened before.
- How?

That they...
that someone has forgotten them.

We didn't forget anything.
You told me to leave them.

We couldn't take rings
from mother while she was still alive.

No, but now they are there
and lost forever.

Were there any options? Would it have been taken
those from mom while she was lying in it?

As if to say:
"You'll be alone the rest of the way."

That's how it is.
- What?

Alone.

But you don't have to do it yourself
lonelier than it is.

When the fingers swell,
the rings have to be taken off by force.

Pull them out.
- Yes, they have their ways.

Let's call them
and we will drive there tomorrow.

Tomorrow?
- Yes, to the hospital.

Back to Helsinki?
- Yes.

We just can't drive there like that.
We have a lot of work to do.

Funeral home, burial site.
The car is damn dirty too.

It won't take all day.

Not a moment's peace
before it's all over.

Elsa.
- My condolences.

How did you get here?
- Oh Nisse, for you of course.

I am with my little brother in the moment of sadness.

But how did you get from the station?
- Walking.

You should have called.
You should have been picked up.

You have your own busy schedule.

I'm used to being alone.

How did he know?
- I called him from the hospital.

When are you going to Sweden?

After a couple of weeks.
I have to clear the room first.

Someone has always taken care of Nisse.

First our mother and then yours.

What is that?
- A lamp.

Where is the chandelier?
- It hasn't been there in a while.

Dad's chandelier. It has been.
- Not my father's death.

And you've asked before, a hundred times.

Have you gone mad?

Don't treat me
like your patients in a mental hospital.

"In a psychiatric hospital."
And I don't work there anymore.

If I made it through this year,
I can handle it now.

Don't I know what sadness is?

I took care of dad when he was sick.
- I haven't claimed anything else.

I can say it wasn't easy.
- Don't bother. Not now.

That's what this is about.

Now that your father is alone, he can
behave as you please.

Can't I straighten my legs?
on the table in my own home?

In your home.

Think of Stefan, if not me.

You don't understand because you have to
to only take care of yourself.

Dad, not now.
- Think about Stefan.

He is so decent and still not
mind if i take sometime. Take it too.

Am I not decent then?
- I did not say that!

I do what I want in my own home.
- You scream.

Now it's not in Helsinki, where
everything is fine. I would go crazy.

Not everyone can choose how they live.

If I hadn't taken care of the house
after dad, it would already be in ruins.

I have not claimed otherwise.
- What would you do if the pan broke?

I would call someone.
- That's right.

That's what the Hessians think
everything is handled by calling someone.

Believe me, it doesn't work like that.
- When did you call?

I decided to come here myself.
- Always worried that I'll be okay.

Whatever you do,
it's never enough.

I'm going back home
if you keep yelling.

What are you doing?
- Turn off the light!

Gingerbread man?

Damn pet.

We're coming, we're coming.

Damn pet!
- Oh, that squirrel.

Gotta get it before the birds nest.
- Are they now?

It's just a matter of time.

You can find them in the selection
spruce, aspen and birch.

Pine. It's fine, thanks.

Thank you.
- All right.

You can also get it processed.
White or black.

Alright, fine, we'll take it.
- What?

What what?
- White or black?

White.
- White. Painted or upholstered?

So, white or black fabric?

It's ready here
on Saturday at noon.

You can go through the details,
when the priest makes a home visit.

On a home visit?

We just want to
ordinary funeral -

no more,
and as soon as possible.

This is not a long time.
It can take a month in cities.

Two weeks! How human
getting to the grave takes so long?

I can't figure it out. In that time
the whole world will hear about this.

They'll hear it sooner or later.
- Later, please.

I don't want any people here,
which I don't know. Just you and me.

Gingerbread man!
- And him, of course.

Phone!
- And Brita's grandma.

Nisse on the phone.

Yep, the number is the same. I'm not
changed, you never know.

Yes, that's right.
Oh, have you heard?

Is that so,
let's see what day it falls on.

I guess we'll keep in touch then.

Yes, thank you. Bye!

Mother-in-law of Satan!
- Who was it?

Some cousin of Leila. I do not know.
- What he said?

What about him? Took part in the grief.

Why are you angry with him?
- Not for him!

But for Brita! For your grandma!

Hittolainen,
he talks about this to everyone.

How does he even know about it?
- From grandma, you said so.

Yeah, but how does grandma know?

oh god
did you have time to tell him too?

Nothing goes as it should.

If he didn't care
when Leila was sick -

he gets permission to stay away even now.

Brita is mother's mother.
- It is.

Now that Leila is gone,
we can get rid of him too.

You can't say Brita didn't care.

Oh, Johan, he cared.

"I beat cancer with a positive
with thoughts" and "you can as you think".

This is the kind of crap Brita brought here!
When the other made death!

When was that...

Display of the deceased.
After the weekend, on Monday.

Do I have to wait until Monday?
Tomorrow is a weekday.

That time was given to us.
- Change it.

What?
- Yes.

Would you call me once
a useful call.

What did they say?
- Can I come like this?

What?
- For the funeral.

What did they say?
- Yeah, of course.

What did they say?
- They'll get back to it.

When?
- Let's just wait now.

Shall we wait? It's expected here.

Call them yourself.

Does this fit?

If you're looking for coffee,
it is in its usual place.

I don't think it has been in a while.
- Yeah, not like that.

I know I haven't been
welcome here.

But I thought the situation had changed.

You remember the past.
You just think you weren't welcome.

You didn't get along with Leila,
but you have yourself to blame for that.

He was trying to be friendly.
- Was he kind.

But you can see it,
when not welcome.

You only say that because he did
this is a home for myself and me.

And then you won't start moving
nothing while i'm gone!

No one answers?

Do not answer!
- Stefan Nurmi.

It's so tiring
when people invade.

And they remind us of everything in the past.

That's why I thought
change the order a bit.

To forget the past, you would leave
them behind you and you would look ahead.

It's tomorrow then.

Screening of the deceased, tomorrow.

I have to admit,
that I am positively surprised.

He's absolutely right.
- Grandma Brita?

No, Elsa! You have to let go of the past
and looking ahead.

This needs to be taken care of first
than he causes more harm.

Elsa?

No, Grandma Brita! Before he talks to everyone.

Yes, next Saturday.

What the hell is he doing here?
- Grandma.

Twelve o'clock.

That's where they are.

Stefan and Nisse.
I'll put you on the list.

Alright, yes. Welcome.

Greetings from Els and Bob, they...

They share in the grief.

What? Rose?
- Yes.

Usually we put cloves.

Did Nisse choose the rose?
- No, it's me.

Is he just going to sit there?
Won't he come in?

We'll see.

And that...

That you have to count here -

where the evil was.

I'm going in now.
- Yeah yeah.

Just in.

Is it ready?

Well, what did he say?

Your grandma, what did she say?
- Said and said. He was crying.

I guess he said something.

He wondered,
why didn't you come along

Deuce!

He always gets involved in everything.
What is this to him?

What else did he say?
- Well, she cried.

He said...

That when he last saw
mother, he wanted to hug, to comfort-

and say that everything is fine.

Yeah right. Brita didn't understand
that it was serious, or didn't want to.

He must have known.

I could see right away how it would turn out.

Not me.

Hey!
- Hey!

Here. Some flowers.

Thank you.
- Bye!

Listen, listen.

Do you hear?

Just a matter of time, like I said.

Well, how did it go?
- I bought a rose. The white one.

What about your grandma?
- He had a carnation.

Oh, cloves?

Isn't that pretty corny?
- Damn banal.

That's what he wanted now.

It's been ringing all the time, but I haven't answered.
- Why not?

I didn't want to get involved.
- What is this?

Listen, this is what I wanted to talk about.

Leila's clothes. What I am
said about stealing my things?

Nissenasse -

you have to decide
do you want to keep them -

or look ahead.

Looking for a picture for a funeral?

Something new is needed,
but here are only school pictures.

These have a terrible light.

Can't you make the light softer?
and more formative?

You realize they're in a hurry right?
- Is this a good light for you?

What? That's terrible.

Mom is too young, but the light is good.
- Whenever I shoot.

Not in this picture.
- I only took that in passing.

You are only a few hours old.

Your mother didn't want the picture.
He was so particular about his hair.

Should have been fine.

Well yeah.

In spring, the light is always like that.
It's better in autumn.

The light is warmer and it doesn't come
directly from above, like in summer.

In the summer, you can get good pictures against the backlight.

They say lightning is good
against the light. The face stands out.

Is that about you?
- The face will stand out if you know how to do it.

Lightning is the last enemy.
- Exactly. Always natural light.

Nissenasse!
- Now wait a minute!

Lots of pictures of mom when she was young,
but then they run out.

The picture is not just for funerals.

I want to remember what mom looked like.

Are you coming?

Helkari... Stefan!

What's wrong with Nisse?

The priest is coming. Are you coming to say hello?

I can't look like this!

Stefan, priest!
- Isn't he a little early?

Damn early!

Hey. More flowers.

See you.
- Thank you.

You would have returned them.
- Who are Gunilla and Thorolf?

What do we do with these? Nilla and Rofa?

Are they related?
- Colleagues from school maybe?

I do not know.
I don't know half of them.

Now put them in the water.

Good day.

Are you Nisse?
- I am.

My condolences.
- Aha.

This is how we meet
before the funeral, among other reasons -

that I could hear
how do you want to remember Leila?

What would you like
that he is remembered?

Leila... Leila was a teacher.

A very popular teacher, I guess.
- Exactly.

Very liked.

He attracted people.

Until he got sick.
Then he didn't want to meet anyone.

Not even his mother,
but this happened anyway.

But before that,
when he still had strength -

people brought him
gifts and flowers.

They smashed together.
- Many certainly want to remember him.

Will the funeral be big?
- No, just us.

And a few others.

A close relative.
- That is, in silence.

He would have wanted those.

A kind of last wish.
- Right, last wish.

Do you think he knew
wouldn't it get better?

Yeah.
- No.

It was obvious.
But he didn't talk about it.

If my end were near,
I would like him to know everything.

You don't even smell
from this house. What if the pan breaks?

I should call...
- On Christmas Eve? To whom?

What? For Santa Claus?
- Leila maybe knew.

Few say anything, even if they are afraid
the worst. Not to worry others.

Maybe you were worried though?

These are not ours.
They were brought here.

It is understandable to look for easy ones
answers to difficult problems.

You can't get rid of cancer by will.
The same goes for grief.

Grief is like a big load of sand.
Everything must be taken away.

And it doesn't take a bucket loader,
with which everything leaves at once.

We have to get rid of this
one shovel at a time, by hand.

Bye.

"One shovel at a time, by hand."

Will we hear about that?
even at a funeral?

Well?

What's the rush now? Isn't this
have time to take care after the funeral?

So much talk about
how long does everything take?

When that one also says that this will take a year.

Believe it or not, I already had my year.

But I have done my sorrowful work,
thank you!

People who cry and know how
I miss the least.

Hi grandma.

Well, we're busy.

So. Is that so.

Oh, that's what you thought? Clear.

He...
He wanted to talk about the funeral.

I thought we were serving sandwiches -

but he wanted a sandwich cake.
- Sandwich cake?

Leila couldn't stand it! He does not
would ever serve a sandwich cake.

Greasy and disgusting.
- Right, a bit banal, maybe.

Damn banal!

Leila offered sandwiches
Even on their 50th birthday.

I told grandma
but he will not be filled with them.

Didn't even suggest porridge,
that all may be filled?

Is that the purpose of the funeral?
That it would be filled?

What else did he have?
- He has invited quite a lot of people.

I said the funeral in silence!
- I don't think it will work.

20, 30 including co-workers.

A brisk 50 when you count the family.

And then grandma's list.
- List?

It keeps getting longer.
- What list?

Why does he invite anyone?
It doesn't belong to him!

He can call everyone and cancel.

Either he organizes them or we do.

If he calls even one person,
let the whole funeral be arranged.

Porridges, sandwich cakes and everything.
I don't do anything.

What?
- Nothing.

You weren't with Leila the whole time.
I was.

Gingerbread man!
- Don't invite them!

Say the funeral in silence.

Then you're on my side.

Hello?

Well hi. Thank you.

Yes, exactly...

I regret to ask,
that you wouldn't come.

He wished for a funeral in silence.

You must take your desk
elsewhere. I don't have room for that.

Call the next one and repeat the same thing.

And don't look at me like that.
Who were those flowers from?

From Nilla and Rofa.
- All right, start with them.

What is their last name?
- I do not know.

Then find out!

I meant I don't know
Can I do that.

But for your grandma
you will have time to call one.

You made this happen.
Let go now!

Go, go! Go on.

You're not ready yet.
Just to call about it.

I tried to please you.

But that I would deny
people from grieving mother...

I can't do that.

But you must.

Bye.

Wait. Hey!

Is this what you hope for?

What are you doing?
- You scared me.

What are you doing?
- Listen -

I haven't slept here
since I was a child.

When we were

You slept there and I...
- The room is Stefan's!

Yeah, but he's not here.
- He'll be back.

I would not be so sure.
- Of course he will, at least for the funeral.

He didn't tell me that.

He is young. You can change your mind.

I'm here, I'll help you.

Just tell me what you want me to do.

Shall we have cognacs?
- No.

Do I call people and Peru invites?

Would you like it?

I can call them.

I do not know.
- Just tell me who to call.

So I don't know who they are,
I don't know them.

But Stefan...

...or that Brita grandma would know.

Brita invited them all.

You deaf devil too, are you at home?

You're not a very strange watchdog.

May you be deaf,
where exactly are you going?

What are you doing?
What do you have in your hand?

What the hell are you doing here?

What do you call people yourself
to the funeral without asking me?

Without asking you?
It's my daughter's funeral.

Family, all lifelong friends...
- Don't you start.

...that he has always known,
but whose names you don't even know.

They mourn Leila and ask me,
why don't you answer their calls.

People he liked and who
liked him, are shocked.

Because he's gone...

You should have warned them.

You saw it yourself when you brought them
your books like any retailer.

Instead of seeing him!
- What?

You gave him hope after all
hope was gone. Everything!

What did you do for him?
- I was there.

I was there every day,
I saw him get weaker -

I heard breathing
heavier, I saw her...

Shrinking.
- You shrunk him!

You didn't say anything nice to him.

You just sat there like you were dead.

Me anyway
I did something for him.

You gave false hope.

I take this.

What are you doing?
- Jeez, Are you trying to kill me?

Turn on the light.

Oh, are you here?

I'll get some coffee milk.
- I drink black.

Do you remember when dad bought it?
From the auction.

Dad liked auctions.

He was good at haggling
and get their way through.

Look, I've been thinking a bit.

Now that Stefan is going to Sweden...
- For a while. He will come back.

He is young,
and the mind can still change.

I could move here.

At least for a while,
that you start to feel better.

Would you move here?
- Yes.

What's so weird about that?
- That we would live together?

Here, yes.
After all, this is my house too.

You got to stay here and live,
because you had a family.

Now you don't have, so...
- I have.

Nissenasse.

We said,
that it is time to look forward.

But Stefan...
- So is his!

If he even comes back from Sweden -

it's high time the boy was found
something of your own and look forward.

The coffee seems to be ready.

Gingerbread man! What are you doing?

This lamp is mine and Leila's.

He chose it,
and it belongs downstairs.

Nissenasse...
- Don't make fun of me!

I put everything aside
then when you feel like it.

We already told you to mourn.

"We"? Not us
haven't said anything like that.

Would you move here?
What would become of that?

This would be it all the time.
I would go crazy.

Nisse, you're yelling again.

I told you I'm not your patient!

If you're going to continue like this...
- So you go. Yep, heard.

Call your cancellation yourself.

Hi, Nisse here.
- Hello, Nisse.

Leilan Nisse, from Finland.
About Leila's funeral.

Brit's playing brought sadness to us too.

Thank you. Right,
Brita told you. I knew it.

But he didn't tell
that Leila's last wish -

had a silent funeral.

In the family circle.

Only close relatives.

We weren't coming.

Oh, weren't you?

Alright, yes, and the journey is long too.
Thanks though, hey.

Hi, Nisse here.
About Leila's funeral...

What? Is Leila dead?

Is is.

I'm calling about that Saturday funeral.

We wouldn't know without Brita's call.

Unfortunately, I would ask you not to come.

Shouldn't I come to Leila's funeral?
- Yes, that was Leila's wish.

That I wouldn't come?
- No, it doesn't exactly concern you.

No, it's not about you.

My friend, I didn't mean...

Elsa, hey, don't be like that.

Elsa! What's wrong with you?

God!
Have you tied the knot for good?

Elsa, get in the car and we'll talk.

Get in the car and we'll talk.

Where are you going?
I can give you a ride.

I'll take that in the car, then yours
no need to carry. Give it here!

What are you doing with this?
- You have taken enough from me!

You took home, memories,
but you won't take this away from me!

Elsa...

I am all for you
tried to do. It's over now.

That's where you stand, family
alone, without Stefan and me.

Arrange your own funeral.

And don't come to my funeral!

Let's start with that.

Is your phone ringing, Stefan?

Or are you here?

You're not paying for this, are you?

Are your friends coming?

Or what?

I cleared space at home.
If you want to bring that there.

Whoa, is it that damn big?
- Can it fit here.

You didn't make anyone carry this, did you?
- There was nothing in it.

I get to live with them. No need
to come home before leaving for Sweden.

Of course you come home.

You don't want me there.

You won't let me or anyone else grieve.

You've done your mourning.
I get it now.

You didn't become a widow when
mother died, and you took the ring away.

Right now,
when we heard about the illness -

you isolated yourself.

You decided that mom would die.

And you left him alone.

I was there every day.
- Not mentally.

Because I was afraid.

I was afraid that I would be alone.

you said
that he would get better, but...

I was there every day.

I was afraid of losing him
and I'll be alone.

Am I going to lose you too now?

I will come home.
I won't stay there.

What about before the funeral?

Do you want it?

When did you get these?

On the screen of the deceased.

Isn't Elsa here?

He went back home.

Can't we make it...

If these run out,
grandma's sandwich cake is served.

Right.

He'll definitely bring one.
- Two!

And if that's not enough...
- Let's cook porridge!

He liked languages.
- Mum?

That should have been told to the priest,
when he asked about mom.

It didn't occur to me at the time.

It's good.

Should have been
right from the first night.

Okay, sure. Right. Yeah, bye.

Well?
- It was Elsa. He will come though.

We have to pick him up from the station.
- And not...

He said,
that you can't walk in that dress.

How the hell are we going to catch up?

Out, out, out.

If I'm going to survive this day,
you will be allowed to drive.

Are you sure?
- Don't make any numbers out of this, just drive!