All language subtitles for PSYCHOLOGIST EPISODE 38 [VIKI]

♫ With no specter to cut off the waves ♫

♫ With no halo bestowed by heaven ♫

♫ I should admit I was born ordinary ♫

♫ But I'm not resigned
to the silence on stage ♫

♫ Break it down ♫

♫ I'm taking over now ♫

♫ Tough it out. That's what I'm all about ♫

♫ We are destined to
break through a mental wall ♫

♫ To unlock a ray of light ♫

♫ We know there will be infinite waves ♫

♫ Getting in my way ♫

♫ They will build up into roads that
enable me to climb high and see far ♫

♫ To test me, inspire me,
make me and give me courage ♫

♫ I am the master ♫

♫ Of my own destiny ♫

Episode 38

How about this one?

Fine.

Change to another one.

OK.

How about this one?

Fine.

All right?

Drink some water.

Drink some water.

Here, let me pour you a glass of water.

Here.

Drink some water.

The light is broken.

Let me apply for repair with
the property management later.

No, the property management has got off work.

Mom, we are back.

I'm off for now.

How long are you gonna keep me in the dark

if I hadn't bumped into you guys today?

It's not that I don't want
you to have a companion.

As I told you,

I hope there can be someone

other than me

staying by your side

to love you,

protect you and accommodate you.

But this man

must love you truly.

Dun, your father…

He's not my father.

He Zhaocheng

loves us truly.

How long has he been back?

It's been a while.

You were busy and I didn't
get a chance to tell you.

He's seen you only a few
times since he was back.

How can you know

whether he's true to you or not?

If he is,

why did he just leave back then?

He didn't show up for over ten years

and now he's just back when he wants to?

I admit I've been busy

these days.

I didn't have time to come
home to take care of you.

It's my fault

and I'll come home often later, OK?

Dun, I've never

blamed you for not coming home due to work…

But I'm blaming myself!

Back then, in order to pay my tuition fees,

you ate only instant noodles for three meals

and had only a few hours of sleep every day.

You used to work at a public school.

In order to earn money,

you switched to a private school.

If you were

still with the public school now,

you'd have been

a special-class teacher since five years ago.

I think I blame myself.

But apart from blaming myself,

I also hate him!

I hate him

for having been nowhere
to be found all these years.

Does he know how much
suffering you've gone through?

Mom,

I've grown up now.

I can give you a good life.

I want you

to be happy every day.

I don't want you

to suffer anymore.

I don't want to hear this from you.

Let me tell you, Dun.

Remember

all the sufferings I went through

for you before,

I did that willingly.

I've never regretted it.

I even felt very happy,

do you know?

All this has nothing

to do with He Zhaocheng, do you know?

I know

He Zhaocheng has hurt you before

and you refuse to forgive him.

But what you don't know is

now he wants to patch things up with us,

to make up with you and me.

After all, he is…

He is Jun's father.

Why can't you forgive him?

No!

I don't hate him for having hurt me.

I hate him for having hurt you!

Mom, mom…

Dun, Dun…

Dun, Dun…

Dun!

Uncle.

Hello.

My name is Qian Kaiyi.

I'm He Dun's boyfriend.

Hello.

He Dun has told me

what happened when she was a child.

I intended to hold out on
her for as long as I can.

Will you…

Will you guys blame me?

I'm not in a position to blame you.

But I hope

He Dun can get over it one day.

So the crux

still lies with you.

It was my fault.

After all is said and done,

it is me who let her and her mother down.

So

No matter how much He Dun hates me,

I won't blame her.

He Dun

has been a child of few words.

When something comes up,

she just bottles it up without
getting it off her chest.

The fact that she can tell you

such a secret of hers

shows she trusts you a lot.

After all these years of absence

until both my parents died,

I've come to understand that

if I were Xiping back then,

I wouldn't be able to make a choice either.

I've lost Jun.

I can't lose Xiping

and He Dun anymore.

I'll try hard.

Uncle,

I know

you want to make up for

their loss in the past,

but there are things

that can't be changed

overnight

once they happen.

So you have to

get over the hurdle first.

What He Dun wants

is a future where you don't choose to escape

when others don't understand you.

Thank you.

All right. Goodbye.

Take care of your health.

Dun! Dun.

Dun.

Dun.

Dun…Dun…

He Dun!

He Dun.

Dun.

Dun.

Breathe, He Dun.

Inhale.

Breathe.

He Dun, I'm here.

Exhale, inhale.

Breathe.

Take your time.

Mom…

Auntie.

Mom!

Mom is here.

Cheng Weizi

Cheng Weizi
Video Interview Connecting

Hello, I'm Cheng Weizi.

Hello, Weizi.

I've read your resume.

What is

your most satisfying part of the resume?

Could you share it with me?

OK.

During my sophomore year of college,

I wrote articles for the college radio station.

I organized my writings

and sent them to the Rainforest magazine.

Actually, I enjoy

reading magazines a lot since I was a child.

So I didn't expect

one of my articles

would really be chosen for publication.

Its content

was about a social survey.

Back then, in order to

interview more practitioners,

I visited more than a dozen factories

in the neighboring city.

Well done.

Actually, this job

has a very high demand

for your ability to work under pressure.

So next,

I'm going to give two
questions at the same time

for you to work out.

OK.

You scared me.

You are still watching?

How long do you think Li has been here?

How time flies!

Do you remember

she was a green hand

when she first came here?

Now she can take complete charge of things.

What about the content of the job?

Do you usually listen to

the Night Talk to Your Heart show?

It is one of

my favorite shows.

Actually, I've been following you guys

on Weibo (China's equivalent of Twitter).

So when you

posted the recruitment ad,

I just applied as soon as I could.

Well, sis,

are you the operator of the Weibo account?

Yes, I've been operating it these days.

Really, sis?

You are my idol.

The letter-mailing column

is really full of thoughts and feelings.

"Carriages and horses were slower in the past.

Letters were sent far away.

You need your lifetime
to love the right person."

I'm sure you can dig

stories of lasting appeal out of pen and paper.

You've followed

our recent selected topic?

Uh.

I think it's great.

Do you have any ideas

on the model of letter mailing?

Feel free to share with me.

Anything is fine.

OK.

It is very convenient

to have a projector in the meeting room.

Shall we get one for our garden house?

Forget it.

At this extraordinary time,

we'd better save money

for Qian.

Whether it's convenient or not,

let's just put up with it.

Hello.

Qian, where are you?

I'm at my mother-in-law's place.

I'm staying by the bedside.

What happened?

He Dun is a bit unwell.

Is she all right?

She's fine for the time being.

How are you getting on with the interviews?

Are they going well?

They are done.

One candidate is quite good.

I'll ask Li

to send you the record later.

If you think the candidate is good,

just keep them first.

Well,

did Wang Zhuo give you a hard time?

We are doing our job.

How dare he say no?

Don't worry.

Should anything happen,

I'll be there to see to it.

OK. I'll see you at the garden house later.

OK.

Has Dun woke up?

I suppose so.

Dun,

do you want to eat something?

No. I've got things to do
at my counseling office.

Take me there.

Auntie,

I'll escort her back then.

OK. Give this to her.

Jujube and lotus seed soup.

Let her have some on the way.

OK.

Make sure to be slow.

Ride slowly.

I'll let you know we are safe when we get home.

OK. OK.

I'm off.

Dad.

You are back.

I heard from the housemaid
that you've caught a cold.

I'm back to check in on you.

I made you a glass of medicine.

When did you

get to know your father?

A line from the book, a line from the book.

It's getting late.

Go to bed early.

By the way,

I'm not coming back for dinner

tomorrow evening.

If there's anything you like to eat,

ask the housemaid to cook it for you.

Dad.

Are you still keeping

the letter my mother wrote?

Yes.

Give it to me.

Has Dun left?

I didn't expect the child

would have such a strong reaction.

It's me to blame, me to blame.

I should have been more careful.

We…

What's wrong?

We'd better separate.

Separate…

It might be…

Be better for Dun.

Well, I haven't packed up yet.

I've packed up for you.

Give it to me.

Xiping,

in the coming days we…

There are no coming days.

Let's stop here.

All right.

Take care.

Go back.

Go back. Close the door.

Please have a look at this form.

If everything is OK,

you can

sign your names on there.

Everything is OK. It's your call.

Watch out.

I'm sorry.

I'm a bit nervous since it's
my first counseling session.

It doesn't matter.

Take your time.

Hello, guys.

I know you are here this time

to smooth out

your spousal relationship.

I entrusted Chang Maomao

with a questionnaire for both of you before.

I wonder if

you've brought it here today.

Yes.

Maomao sent it on WeChat.

I had it printed out for me.

I think our marriage is on the rock.

Strongly Disagree Disagree Agree Strongly Agree

What's your problem again?

What's my problem?

Let me ask you.

Do you want a divorce?

I want to divorce you indeed.

So what?

Drop, drop, drop. Strike, strike.

Strike, strike.

Drop the glass, drop the glass.

Ms. Wu.

The counseling office is
not a place for altercations.

Could you please calm down?

Here, give me the glass.

Both of you can

calm yourselves down first.

It doesn't matter.

We can take our time.

May I call you Ms. Wu?

You can call me Dafang.

Well,

how should I address you?

Song.

Song, hello.

I know you guys

came to this counseling office today

at your son's request.

But since you've decided to come,

you must have your own ideas.

Now please

put both your hands

on your knees.

Well done.

Next, let's talk about

why you want to come here.

OK, OK.

I'll do what you say.

No problem.

OK.

OK, OK, OK.

Who were you talking to on the phone?

China Mobile called.

Marketing.

Does a call from China
Mobile have to take that long?

It says it's going to rain tonight.

They've changed the venue.

Who informed you?

The one who occasionally rides in my car

going the same way.

I knew.

What do you know again?

I knew you two

must have an affair.

Otherwise why didn't you
edit the contact with her name

instead of 10086?

No wonder I couldn't catch her.

You must have tipped her off.

Do you even have the nerve to say so?

You went there and made a scene,

and hit the wrong person.

She should count herself lucky.

If I get to catch her,

I'm gonna break her legs

so that she can only dance in
her dreams for the rest of her life.

Just wait.

I'm gonna call her now.

When a couple becomes
increasingly familiar with each other,

they tend to simplify

their expressions and
explanations of their behaviors

to each other.

This helps them

to understand each other quickly,

but meanwhile also limits

the possibility of finding out more truths.

Give my cellphone to me.

I'm going dancing.

Why?

Are you going to see that young widow again?

Why do you

say such awful things?

I say awful things?

Not as awful as the things you did.

Wu Shufang,

do you have to talk like this?

Nothing happened between me and her,

a clean sheet.

A lot of friends who were dancing there

were watching.

If you don't believe me,

go with me to have a look.

I'm not going.

Dafang,

you have

a lot of complaints

about many of Song's lifestyles, right?

I have too many complaints.

I don't even know

how I manage to live through all these years.

I keep telling myself

it doesn't matter

if a man has some peccadilloes,

as long as he is faithful enough to you.

But

he doesn't know you are doing
everything you can to be good to him

and takes others' small favors

as painstaking efforts.

Why did you think of buying a tablecloth?

It looks nice.

A member of the dancing team

picked up something from others for me.

I picked a gift to return her favor

and thought the tablecloth was nice,

so I bought one for our home.

That young willow again?

She then went there to hit people.

Miss He,

don't you think this is outrageous?

Just tell me, was that outfit

a gift from her?

Miss He,

over all these years,

he only bought

one or two sets of new
clothes for the Spring Festival.

But ever since he got to know

that young widow,

he's been buying clothes so frequently.

Some of them are a gift from others.

It's a kind of reciprocity.

I cook for you,

do the laundry and wait on you every day.

Why didn't you think of

reciprocating me?

Then you shouldn't have gone so far

as to hit people indiscriminately

because of my fault.

You admit it's your fault?

I tell you what,

don't let me catch her,

or I'll break her legs!

Miss He,

please judge who's right and who's wrong.

Dafang, Song,

we've just simulated

the process of your daily interactions.

But this is not a court

and I'm not a judge.

I can't judge

who's right and who's wrong.

But during

the process of your altercations just now,

I've found

a pattern of your interactions.

A pattern?

What pattern?

A pursuit-evasion pattern.

Presence of divorce intention\Pattern
of Interaction\Pursue-evasion Pattern

Actually, such a pattern

is quite commonplace among couples.

One side pursues desperately

while the other side

tries desperately to avoid and evade.

Song, just now I found

there were actually quite a few times

when you wanted to

leave your house

and leave Dafang for a short period of time.

When you face conflicts,

the first thing that comes to your mind

is to stay away from her

to avoid the conflicts between you.

Who were you talking to on the phone?

China Mobile called.

I just want to

give myself

some time to cool down

and not to fuss about it.

I see.

Maybe your way of coping

works in the short term

by enabling you to avoid the conflicts.

But in the long term,

it can't improve

any of your problems.

You are just putting off current problems

to the future to be solved.

You mean

the past problems are not solved

and put off until now,

leading to an outburst?

Yes.

Your evasion

is one part of the problem,

and the other part

is your pursuit.

Do you mean

I can't just go and ask him

once a problem occurs, right?

Actually, in the pursuit-evasion pattern,

the pursuit side wants

the other side to give you

a very strong response.

And such a response

is what you need

and what you expect.

Once the response you get from the other side

goes against your expectations,

your negative emotions

will be very strong

and your pursuing mentality

will be even stronger.

In the pattern of evasion-pursuit

and pursuit-evasion,

neither of you is happy with

your relationship.

But over time,

this has become

a fixed pattern.

If you want to

change this pattern,

one side may need to show restraint.

Maybe to you guys,

this is a kind of risk.

But what you'll get in return

is restraint on the part of the other side.

As long as you pursue one step less,

the other side will evade one step less.

When you evade one step less,

the other side will pursue one step less.

As to the evading side,

you need to understand that

the pursuing side

uses every means

to get a response from you

because she cares a lot about you.

As to the pursuing side,

all you have to do is show restraint.

Do you mean

our relationship

can be salvaged, right?

Sure.

In the following two consultations,

I'll counsel with both of you separately.

I'll collect your information

and give feedback to both of you

to solve the problems

we are going to solve next.

In fact,

I've got a preliminary understanding

of your relationship.

I hope both of you will calm down

and think about

what your objectives are

after the counseling

and tell me about it,

OK?

I hope she can understand

I will not cheat on her.

Surely

in the following counseling,

you will trust each other more

and get to know each other more.

Please believe me.

I was thinking

if I could turn the clock back,

I wouldn't marry him hastily

just because his honesty and docility

struck my fancy.

Don't you think

it is because

I was so easy to get

that he

holds me cheap?

I've gone through

so many hard years with him.

Now at this age,

he's even had a mistress behind my back!

I agree.

I hold you cheap.

I do have a mistress if you say so.

You are right.

Everything you say is right.

Now you are happy?

Sorry, Miss He.

I have nothing to say.

I'm off for now.

You…

I'm sorry, Song.

I don't have the right to stop you.

But what I'd like to say is

what you are doing now

is also a kind of evasion.

Did you see that?

He's just like that.

He's always doing that.

It's really intolerable.

You've come.

How did you know I was coming?

Because I'm

waiting for you to come every day.

This is a bouquet of flowers for you.

Thanks.

Do you like it?

It smells so good.

Our sanatorium

gives out snacks every day.

I haven't eaten any

since your last visit

and have been keeping them for you.

Try some.

Let me help you.

Thanks.

It's very nice, sweet and sour.

Nice.

I'm here toady

to ask you about something.

Have a look at this first.

Letter from Jicheng

I'd like to know

how you feel

when you read this letter.

"You have once

played many roles in my life.

My older brother,

my friend

and my husband."

"In these relationships,

I've been on the receiving end."

"I dropped everything and left.

This is a mistake I have to bear

for the rest of my life."

"I left the child to you

because you had always loved him

and I hope you could go on protecting him

and give him a stable life.

I'll come to terms with my illness

in my own way.

Promise me

not to look for me.

For the sake of me,

also for the sake of yourself."

"If you love me,

please give me freedom.

Promise me

not to

put a query to irrelevant people.

He knows nothing.

The child's surname is Ye.

He's your son forever."

This is impossible.

How could there be a mother

who doesn't love her child?

A family letter is worth ten thousand in gold.

Why is that?

Just because

it contains love, longing

and solicitude.

That's the value of a family letter.

But what is this?

Valueless.

But…

But you…

What is your question?

My question is:

If you were the writer of the letter,

how would you write it?

I would say

"My dear child,

mom loves you so much.

If I

were granted a wish,

I hope

I could hold you in my arms every day.

But much to my regret,

I can only be an underdog

in face of the illness."

I would say

"My dear child,

be a healthy man.

Have a job you like.

Be an ordinary happy man."

Is the wind coming outside?

I really want to go out.

They don't let me go out.

How nice it is outside!

How nice!

There are seas,

mountains

and a lot of people outside.

But I can only stay here.

Can you take me out?

Yes.

I'll pick you up tomorrow.

It's too windy.

If you keep the window open,

you'll get a headache after a while.

To enjoy the current moment,

it's OK to get a headache.

Are you thirsty?

I've got some beverages with me.

OK.

You haven't told me

where you are going.

I can't

keep on driving like this.

Let's go for a spin first.

I haven't figured out where to go yet.

What's wrong?

Why do you keep looking at me?

I've figured out where to go.

Where?

I want…

I want to cook a meal for you.

OK.

Let's go to my place then.

You've finally managed to come out,

and you just want to cook
a meal before you go back?

I'm not just cooking a meal.

Food is the first necessity of people.

I'm providing a necessity.

OK.

It's not far from my place anyway.

If you are sleepy,

take a nap first

and we'll be there soon.

No rush.

It's good to keep on driving

like this.

Here we are.

We've got home.

Have we?

Right here.

This is…

I saw you were asleep just now,

so I went to the market to
do some grocery shopping.

I didn't know what you like to eat,

so I bought a little bit of everything.

They are all my favorite.

Come on in.

Take a seat first.

I haven't been back for a long time.

It's a bit dusty.

Can I take a look around first?

Sure.

Personality Psychology.

Prescription Medicine.

Do you like medicine a lot?

I majored in clinical medicine at college.

I later went abroad

to study psychiatry.

You have a steady personality

which is fit for studying medicine.

I don't study for academic research.

I study to protect

the person I want to protect.

The person under your protection

must be very happy.

From now on,

I'll be your private doctor.

I can't afford

the medical expenses.

No need to pay medical expenses.

Just cook a meal for me.

OK.

Lili.

What are you doing here?

I'd like to use your kitchen

to cook a meal.

Edible oil and condiments

are all here.

There are also

some fresh vegetables in the fridge

which you can use in case you need some.

Remember to

turn off the gas valve when you are done.

Lili.

You haven't eaten, have you?

Would you like to join us?

Yes.

Two people are too few.

It's not easy to cook for two.

Let's eat together.

Thank you, auntie.

But I've got some work to do.

Please be my guest.

Give me a shout if you need anything

and I'll come down.

Thanks.

Anything I can help you with?

No need.

Didn't you say

you'd do the laundry yesterday?

Why did you leave out

this shirt of mine?

I remember

I specially put it in the washing machine.

I didn't leave it out.

I took it out on purpose.

It's gaudy

and of poor quality.

What if it loses color

and dyes

my good clothes?

If you didn't wash it,

you should at least tell me.

I intended to wear it today.

Why?

It delays your dancing, right?

Wash it yourself if you need it urgently.

You are not doing any housework

while being so ready to find fault.

I didn't say I was going dancing.

Why do you

insist on wearing this shirt?

If you are not going dancing,

are you going on a date with that young widow?

Why do you drag her into it again?

It's OK you didn't wash it.

Don't go.

Let me ask you.

Did she

buy this shirt for you?

The quality is so poor

and the taste so vulgar.

She had the nerve to give

and you also had the nerve to take?

Chang Song,

whatever you are doing outside,

it's OK if I can't see it.

Now you've even brought these rags

back home!

It's just a shirt.

Why does it become so filthy

when it comes out of your mouth?

Today you brought this,

what about tomorrow?

Are you gonna bring your mistress

back home tomorrow?

Are we gonna keep this family running or not?

Wu Shufang,

is it you who doesn't want to keep it running

or me?

It's OK

you show me no respect at home day by day.

You've been doing it

in front of outsiders as well!

In front of the counselor the other day,

you blamed me in every way you could.

Is it because

I was so easy to get

that he holds me cheap?

I've gone through

so many hard years with him.

Now at this age,

he's even had a mistress behind my back!

Do you think you are super awesome

riding your high horse?

From beginning to end,

I've been a cow dung

to set off the beauty of a flower like you!

But when you take me as a cow dung,

it doesn't mean everybody thinks

I'm really a lump of cow dung.

I tell you what,

while you don't think highly of me,

there are plenty of people who do!

You've finally said the words from your heart,

haven't you?

You've long since taken me as an eyesore,

haven't you?

Yes!

I have a long list of complaints!

Anyway, since we are talking turkey,

I have nothing to fear.

You see,

you only do a bit of housework every day

and you can keep nagging me the whole day.

Do you know what she says to me?

She says she's willing

to be my housemaid.

Housemaid?

I've been with you

for so many long, hard years.

What do you take me for?

All right!

Try to live with her.

See how long she can put up with you!

It's simply impossible to reason with you!

Where are you going?

Going to hell!

Go to hell!

Don't come back again if
you've got any spunk in you!

♫ Each dawn blooms with a word of flowers ♫

♫ Here is an aroma of coffee and you ♫

♫ Whether the haze turns into a rain
or the weather suddenly clears up ♫

♫ I wish to be with you ♫

♫ A shower of rain gently
floats far out of the sky ♫

♫ Taking with it my blue and cloudy memories ♫

♫ I bloom a scenery as clear as a song ♫

♫ I see your eyes as bright as a star ♫

♫ They warm my smile
and listen to my true voice ♫

♫ Giving me the gentlest response ♫

♫ I see the sudden arrival ♫

♫ Of beautiful love ♫

♫ Holding you hand, I can feel your heart ♫

♫ Holding you hand, I can feel your heart ♫