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♫With no specter to cut off the waves♫

♫With no halo bestowed by heaven♫

♫I should admit I was born ordinary♫

♫But I'm not resigned to the silence on stage♫

♫Break it down♫

♫I'm taking over now♫

♫Tough it out. That's what I'm all about.♫

♫We are destined to break through a mental wall♫

♫To unlock a ray of light♫

♫We know there will be infinite waves♫

♫Getting in my way♫

♫They will build up into roads that enable me to climb high and see far♫

♫To test me, inspire me, make me and give me courage♫

♫I am the master♫

♫Of my own destiny♫

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Episode 4

You Na Mrs. You Mr. You Friends & Colleagues

You Na Mrs. You Mr. You Friends & Colleagues

You Na Mrs. You Mr. You Friends & Colleagues

You Na Mrs. You Mr. You Friends & Colleagues

You Na Mrs. You Mr. You Friends & Colleagues

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Zhao Okay.

Don't be angry. I will try to find other ways.

I will find other ways. Don't shut me out.

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Mr. You,

why were you at the airport

before you hurried to the police station?

Why are you packing?

You Shanhua,

what on earth do you want to do?

I'm tired.

I can't bear it any more.

We agreed that

neither of us would move away

before Na finishes her college entrance exam.

If you move away now,

how can I explain it to Na?

You can.

You were quick on the trigger

every time you found fault with me.

That won't be hard for you.

Dad,

where are you going?

I'm going to Beijing for a business trip.

I left my recording pen at school.

Dad, mom, I have to go to school.

Na!

That's not right.

She hadn't been out at all.

If she had returned home from school

and would go back to school,

she would say

"I have to go back to school."

but what she said was

"Dad, mom, I have to go to school."

Oh gosh!

What should I do? What should I do?

We agreed that

neither of us would move away

before You Na finishes

her college entrance exam.

If you move away now,

how can I explain it to her?

Dad,

where are you going?

I'm going to Beijing for a business trip.

I left my recording pen at school.

Dad, mom, I have to go to school.

Na!

So that is the first time

you have planned to live apart.

Have you lived apart since then?

I, I planned to.

Planned to?

I wanted to take business trips as an excuse

to live out for a few days.

So you never implemented

the separation plan, right?

Can I know

the reason that

hindered your plan?

Dad, look at this...

Dad,

I'll cut a kiwi for you.

It's your

favorite fruit.

Na,

I'll be on business for a couple of days.

-Na! -What's wrong?

Na.

Na?

I have to go now.

Are you not feeling well?

Na?

Na?

Dad, when will you come back?

Does it hurt, sweetheart?

I'll catch

the earliest flight to come back.

Okay, I'll wait for you!

I thought

she wouldn't get hurt

as long as we kept it from her.

The intimacy between

you two

has had a fundamental change.

Even if you didn't say anything,

your child could still notice it.

You're feeling self-condemned

and guilty, right?

In fact, it's okay.

The senior year is indeed

a special period.

It is common that

a marital conflict

escalates into family conflicts.

You mean

ours is a common case?

Yes.

The senior year is a period

when a child is leaving his or her family

and becoming independent.

Therefore, his or her family relationship

will turn into the one that

consists of only parents.

If the parents' relationship

is not so good during this period,

the child will worry that

the parents' relationship

will not be sustained

after he or she leaves.

So during this period,

the child tends to show

various behavior problems.

The motivation behind all these

different behaviors is the same,

which is to sustain his or her family relationship.

You mean,

she did these in order to

keep us together?

I think you've

already known the answer.

There is still some time left.

Let's do a test.

In this box of matches,

red ones represent You Na,

yellow represents Mrs. You,

blue represents Mr. You,

green represents a friend or a colleague

and white represents a relative.

I'd like to ask you to recall

the reasons of and people related to

the five most unforgettable quarrels

you two had

in the past two years.

Mrs. You first.

Na was to study science or arts.

Na skipped school

for a singing contest.

Na wanted a smartphone.

My mom.

My mom secretly bought a smartphone

for Na.

Na wanted to study broadcasting and hosting.

Very good.

Now let's do

the test again.

This time, you will make choices separately.

Please think it over.

Among these

5 quarrels,

which one

made you feel

very upset

or hurt you badly?

And whom was it related to? Okay?

Mrs. You,

when you mentioned why you

did not support You Na to study arts,

I sensed

your dissatisfaction with Mr. You.

When You Na

chose to study arts

in spite of your objection,

you felt

very sad,

lonely

and even had a sense of

abandonment and isolation.

There is a big problem with

the intimacy between you two.

Perhaps Mrs. You wanted to communicate

but found

the way was inappropriate

while Mr. You wanted to make efforts

but felt

the communications were frustrating

and wanted to escape.

Have you found that

the only same goal you two have

in your subconscious mind

is You Na?

Therefore, You Na was always actively

or passively

involved into your conflicts.

As a result,

she is uncertain about

her self-value.

She thinks it is she

who gave rise to the failure of your marriage.

She mistakenly believes that

you two will stay together

and make concerted efforts

only when

she has troubles.

I'm sorry. I, I,

I didn't expect

I would cause

so much damage to Na.

I'm sorry.

Finally,

I'd like to ask you two to

light these five red matches

in sequence.

That's the counseling

for today.

♫When a bird has no wings, who can fly in its stead?♫

♫When there's no fragrance of flowers in the air, who can bloom?♫

♫Real dream is to have the courage to wander♫

♫But my most extravagant hope is to have you by my side♫

♫My tears can't stop falling♫

♫Because I almost forget what my home is like♫

♫My sadness urges me to grow♫

♫But one can easily go astray♫

♫My impression of childhood is rising corners of the mouth♫

♫Is a little boat floating and a candy reward♫

♫My tears can't stop falling♫

♫I'm flustered now out of longing for love♫

♫Because I still have yearning and aspire to meet your eyes♫

Dad,

I'll cut a kiwi for you.

It's your

favorite fruit.

Na, I'll be on business for a couple of days.

I'm leaving for the airport to pick up someone.

She thought it was the only way

to keep Mr. You

and keep her family complete.

Professor.

It is so unexpected.

Where is it?

Over there. Go upstairs.

What a good match!

That's it!

After seeing her manuscript, I knew that

a psychological counseling office

was more than

a counseling office.

It also has a music relaxation room,

a release room

and a psychological assessment room.

I thought it over.

Instead of leaving this platform

exposed to the weather,

we'd better turn it into

another working area

which can be used as

a sandbox room and a group activity room,

right?

Now I know why He Dun

doesn't have a boyfriend.

Why?

You've done everything

a man should do.

You don't leave

any chance to men.

Mr. Qian,

do you think I asked you to come over

only for a visit?

What else?

To leave you a chance.

This is a very typical

pursuer-distancer pattern .

Pursuer-distancer pattern.

One side complains and has demands

while the other side avoids and refuses.

One side has intense emotions

while the other side shows indifference.

Many marital relationships

are possible to be in

the pursuer-distancer pattern.

This husband's avoidance

is very typical.

His wife's aggressiveness

made him feel

very incompetent.

So he thought

his avoidance could ease the conflicts

and bring peace in return.

But it has never occurred to him that

his avoidance

further irritated his wife.

And the worst part of

this family is that

their daughter

has been involved in their conflicts.

The triangulation

obscured the focus of

the conflicts between

the couple.

At the same time,

the daughter showed

her willingness to follow her father.

So the wife felt

a strong sense of betrayal

and supposed her daughter

would perhaps keep away from her

just like her husband.

Therefore, she attacked

her husband more violently

in order to strike a balance.

What method did you adopt?

I did a match test

and basically the couple has restructured

their perceptions.

How about the child?

This child's core fear

is her family relationship.

If her family relationship

is improved,

her defense mechanism

will naturally collapse.

Of course,

that's the best result.

But anyway,

in the end, I will

bring my focus back to

the child's individual therapy.

An individual therapy together with

a family therapy,

plus an imagery method.

Every solution is well targeted.

Very good.

It all owes to your instructions.

You told me

not to rigidly adhere to only one school.

I'm following your words.

Little girl, you know

so well about making me happy.

Tell me, what do you want for lunch?

I won't stay here for lunch.

I have to go back.

I have just relocated.

Tang Lili is waiting for me at home.

If I don't go back, she'll be stressed.

Just in time.

I've prepared all you need.

They are all your favorites.

I have free meals here every day

and now even get

these vegetables before I leave.

How inappropriate!

Well, I'll leave them to myself.

I was just being polite.

Watch your back.

Handle it with care.

No hurry.

I've sorted

and labeled these shelves.

You just need to put those

on the shelves.

Models!

I love models.

Three thousand.

Well, see you.

Where are you going?

Beauty salon.

You can do it.

How carefree you are, hands-off manager!

I'm flattered.

Huh?

Why is here still a truck of things?

Which building are you from?

This one.

We work for the next building,

not yours.

Did you leave

something behind again?

Teacher.

Well,

He Dun's studio

is just on the right track.

As her senior,

you can give her a lot of

useful advice.

Don't worry.

What you said is all about He Dun.

I think

you're more biased towards her.

Working as a psychologist,

you rely on spirituality.

I am worried

He Dun relies on strength.

I always worry that she will

hurt herself for using too much strength.

Go up the stair.

No hurry.

What are you doing?

Well, one, two, three, lift your foot.

Don't open your eyes

until I say one, two, three.

One, two, three.

Do you like it?

What's wrong?

Unsatisfied?

I did it according to your drawings.

Lili,

I don't know how to repay you.

The only way is to marry you.

It's a little early to say that, honey.

Actually, it's...

I take back what I just said.

Even if you want to marry me,

I don't necessarily agree with it.

She somewhat targets me.

Why does she always have

such a strong grudge against me?

It's fate, perhaps.

I'll leave the room to you two.

Huh, you.

I've been working on them all this afternoon

but you don't even thank me.

Thank you.

Actually it's not a big deal.

Lili arranged all these.

I'm just an assistant.

I

don't like to owe others favors.

Tell me again about the radio program

you mentioned before.

But I have to make it clear first.

I will not necessarily join

but I will do everything I can

to help you.

Okay.

The program I want you to join

is called Nighttime Talk Show.

It was the first and the most popular

emotional program in China

at that time.

In those days when psychological counseling

was not recognized by the public,

it became an emotional pillar

for countless people

and helped many who felt lost

in cities find themselves.

I spent one year

re-planning this program

and convincing my station

to repackage

Nighttime Talk Show.

In this day and age,

there is too much information and things change so fast.

So I think

the voice of a professional

is needed more than ever

to help people

tackle with their inner confusion.

So you plan to?

Invite a psychologist

to join us

and work with me to

help people in cities today

with different stress

and confusion

to relieve their depression.

We will use voices to accompany them

through their difficult times

and also share

their heartwarming emotional stories.

What's wrong? Do you still think

I have conspiracies?

No.

I just have a question.

As the program was so popular

back then,

why did you spend one year

convincing your station?

Teacher,

can you do me a favor?

My students will

never come if they have nothing to ask for.

Be frank.

Just say it.

I transferred

an F file

to He Dun earlier.

I want to know

if I can transfer

that case back

and take it over.

You said you wanted to

change the direction of your research

so I transferred the file

to He Dun.

Why?

Is there any problem with your new selection?

No, there isn't.

I just worry

He Dun is too busy with her studio.

I think I should share her burden.

I think you'd better

finish the selection you're working on first.

Well, that case...

Let's talk about it later.

I'll ask He Dun about it.

I don't know

her opinion.

Okay.

Radio programs

are not as popular as they used to be.

People today listen to radio programs

only for traffic conditions and news

when they are in their cars.

People no longer listen to

programs under their quilts.

Indeed,

it's not

a sunrise industry worth expecting.

That's why

I was ready to

be refused by you

long time ago.

Do you know

how my mom uses WeChat?

As long as WeChat is updated,

I will rewrite one for her.

In every era,

every city,

every group,

there are always people running fast,

walking slowly

and even falling behind.

"Falling behind" is not an appropriate phrase

to describe them.

It's better to say that

those people prefer to live

in the past,

to stay in yesterday's happiness

but miss today's brilliance.

But it's often

those people's plight

and ideas

that are easily ignored

and can't get concerned.

In fact, if what you said

is true,

I'm willing to accept your invitation.

I don't care

if it is a sunrise industry.

My only concern is

how much help and influence my expertise

can offer and have

in a field that I am not

familiar with.

I'm sorry, Miss He.

Actually, I can swim.

No need to say sorry to me.

In fact, you have done a very good job.

If I had been you,

I wouldn't have known what to do.

I mean it.

It's very difficult to

silently bear all these

at your age.

Miss He,

will my parents make up?

To be honest,

I don't know. It depends.

Have you heard of transplanting vegetable seedlings?

In brief,

it's to uproot a vegetable seedling

right after it has

three or four leaves

and then plant it on another piece of land.

As to the little seedling that

leaves its original piece of land

and is planted on another one,

you believe

it will die, right?

But in fact, it's quite the opposite.

In real life,

many people choose transplantation

because both the yield

and the growth rate

will be one third higher

than before.

There is

no perfect family

on this planet.

Every family has

its own problems.

Sooner or later, we

have to come out from the shell that

protects us.

We may encounter

violent storms.

We may be afraid.

But we can also

grow stronger just like

that little vegetable seedling.

You need to trust yourself.

You are not the only case.

You are not alone.

Yes. Please wait for a second.

Coming. Coming. Coming.

Feel free to order. Feel free to order.

This is the place

where Zhe's mother works.

Zhe's father died in an accident

and left Mrs. Zhou to

support the family alone.

She has to work very late here every day.

Mrs. Zhou's father

helped your family when your father

was laid off.

That's why

your father tried so hard

to help them.

Okay, okay, okay.

Coming.

Scan the code. Scan the code.

Okay. Please wait for a second.

Zhe!

Zhe!

Oh gosh.

Where are you hurrying to?

My mom's barbecue stand.

She has many customers today. I'm to help her.

I saw You Na at your mother's

barbecue stand.

What's she doing there?

Coming. Coming. Coming.

Leave it to me.

She seemed to

help Mrs. Zhou there.

She was diligent

and attracted many customers.

I heard that the misunderstanding between her and her parents

has been cleared up.

After this incident,

our school opened

a professional psychological counseling office.

If we students have conflicts

in the future,

psychologists will communicate with us and guide us.

I know she wants to

say sorry to you

but perhaps she still needs time.

Take it.

This is what You Na asked me

to give you.

Hello?

I've decided.

Let's make it

a good program.

I'm sorry.

I'd like to know

if you know any renovation team.

I just moved to the next door.

Are you that...

That night at the...

He Dun?

I've been looking for you for a long time.

Come in please.

Sorry,

I didn't wear glasses.

It is too dark outside

so I didn't recognize you.

Never mind.

I'm Ye Jiahui.

Just call me Jiahui.

Jiahui.

These are?

I just moved in

and haven't had time to tidy up.

May I help you?

Thank you.

What a coincidence!

I didn't expect you would be my neighbor.

Yes.

Have a seat.

Actually, I've been looking for you for a long time.

I went to the address you gave me

on your business card.

But they told me you had resigned.

You didn't leave your phone number on the card

so I couldn't contact you.

Sorry,

I was too busy that day.

It doesn't matter.

Doesn't this indicate

we are predestined?

Thank you.

I saw the medicines you took.

Do you see a psychologist on a regular basis?

Actually, I've been taking medicines for a while

and controlling my matter quite well.

I just arrived in City H

on the day you ran into me.

My friends said

they wanted to treat me on arriving.

I was happy so I drank too much.

You should pay

more attention to it in the future.

Right.

I really want to thank you for that day.

Without you,

I would die.

Never mind.

I worked at

Suicide Intervention Center

and saved people every day. I'm used to that.

By the way,

how about continuing your psychotherapy

in City H? .

I can recommend

a psychological counselor to you.

I don't need one.

It's just my suggestion.

Why don't you

recommend yourself?

I just took psychological counseling as my job,

but if you need

-I think I can... -No, I needn't.

It's not because you're not qualified.

It's me who don't

want you to be my psychological counselor

because

a psychological counselor

can't have a relationship with

her visitor.

Qian Kaiyi?

What brings you here in the middle of the night?

Agreed.

Really?

What did I say?

You would get what you deserve

for the hard work.

Michelin meal.

I think I'm the one

who should take credit for it.

You ungrateful boy!

Li, Li, don't do it.

A big meal. I promise.

It is a piece of cake to me.

Where's He Dun?

I called her but she hung up.

She has some business to do

and will come back later.

Come in and have a drink.

Thank you, Jiahui.

-I'll see myself out. -It doesn't matter.

Qian Kaiyi? What brings you here?

Jiahui, this is the other person

who saved you at the bar that day.

Nice to meet you. I'm Ye Jiahui.

Thank you for saving me that day.

That's not a big deal. Never mind.

Was he kicked by a donkey on the head?

Excuse me,

I have to go in and see what's wrong with him.

Good night.

Nice to meet you. Good night.

Are you having an epilepsy?

Distinctive.

So distinctive.

If the decoration on your table

is too distinctive,

your visitor will

have a stereotype of

your inner vulnerability.

I've always wanted to give it to you

as a gift

but I couldn't get in touch with you.

Today I finally got the chance

to give it to you.

Did you make it yourself?

Do you think it is childish?

Not at all! I like it very much!

The sound from a music box

has an alpha wave that

matches a wave at 528 hertz

in our brain.

So it can make people feel

very peaceful.

Its function

is to calm people down.

Do you think I calm down?

Unfortunately, my brain waves

are at 857 hertz.

Miss He, I advise you

not to listen to other people's nonsense.

Qian Kaiyi,

have you got shit in your head?

I just want to check the music.

Why are you so sarcastic?

What do you want to do?

What do I want to do?

Why don't you ask

what that guy wants to do?

You went to his apartment in the middle of the night

and even hung up my phone.

I know,

you're jealous, right?

I, I'm jealous?

Why am I jealous?

Am I jealous?

What about you? Why did you come to

my apartment in the middle of the night?

Why did I come to your apartment?

For business.

What business?

The contract.

Go to the station at 9 tomorrow morning

and sign the contract.

It's a paid job.

Good. Good.

I never thought I would get paid.

Don't think too much.

This contract

is the same as

the counseling mechanism.

It's to discipline you

and spur me on.

Bye bye.

I have business to do tomorrow.

Wear sunglasses at night.

Isn't he afraid of being knocked down by a car?

Perhaps he is afraid of being beaten.

He,

I found when

you two quarreled,

you looked somewhat like a couple.

What nonsense are you talking about?

It's true.

He is so annoying. Am I the same as him?

Yes.

Qian Kai...

Qian...

It is said abroad that

the sound from a music box

matches a wave at 528 hertz

in our brain.

Its function

is to calm people down.

A darn music box.

What's the big deal?

Hello. What a coincidence.

Hi.

These are...

There is still some luggage

left behind.

The moving company just carried them here.

I'm tidying them up.

The movers working for you last time

are quite professional.

Where did you find them?

On 58 home.

Just download the app

if you have any need.

They are on call.

I'll download it later.

Let me help you.

No thanks.

I'll do it myself.

It's okay.

-No, thanks. -It won't bother me.

I have nothing to do now.

I was not being polite.

I'm sorry.

My luggage is too heavy.

Let me do it myself.

It's okay.

I... Excuse me.

I'm taking out the trash.

Bye bye.

I know.

I know.

I've tried them all.

But the problem is that

I can't get

that file from her

in a short time.

Don't worry, okay?

I will try my best.

Honey!

Honey!

Honey!

I'm coming!

Ms. Tang

Mr. Cao can't attend

the shareholders meeting at 10:00.

He said he would do it another day.

Have you followed up on

Mr. Cao's physical condition?

He said he was fine.

So I didn't ask anything further.

♫Each dawn blooms with a word of flowers♫

♫Here is an aroma of coffee and you♫

♫Whether the haze turns into a rain or the weather suddenly clears up♫

♫I wish to be with you♫

♫A shower of rain gently floats far out of the sky♫

♫Taking with it my blue and cloudy memories♫

♫I bloom a scenery as clear as a song♫

♫I see your eyes as bright as a star♫

♫They warm my smile and listen to my true voice♫

♫Giving me the gentlest response♫

♫I see the sudden arrival♫

♫Of beautiful love♫

♫Holding you hand, I can feel your heart♫

♫Holding you hand, I can feel your heart♫