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I need you to dig fucking deep
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and bring me everything you've got
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because every single point will
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matter in this game.
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Let's get this fucking one in the
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first half. Let's put some points on
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in the second half. Big effort
please gentlemen.
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Big effort.
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Steelers on three.
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3, 2, 1. Steelers!
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SIMON: Rugby is a really
welcoming sport.
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It's just that those of us
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who are gay
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we're still like, we just
peering out the door
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We're like, are you sure it's safe
to come out?
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Are you sure?
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NIC: We pigeonhole people and we
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keep on, you know, perpetuating
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those cycles of male
hegemony that says
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that we have to be heterosexual.
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We have to act in this way.
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This is what a sportsman looks like.
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And actually, no.
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This is not what a
sportsman looks like.
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DREW: There's this element of
being a rugby player
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even as a gay rugby player
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that there's a certain
masculinity that you need
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to maintain.
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To me, that's bollocks.
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You know, I will be tough and brutal
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and kick your arse on the pitch.
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When I'm off the pitch
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I will be as flagrant
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and as flamboyant as I want.
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EAMMON: This is me.
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Twelve years old.
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Joining my first rugby
club in Australia.
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And this is me now.
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I'm a reporter and a cameraman
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so I'm used to telling stories
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but I've never told one
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this personal.
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For me, this isn't just a story
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about being gay.
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It's not even a story about playing
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rugby.
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It's a story about struggle,
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acceptance
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searching for happiness
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and finding a place to belong.
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Around the time this
photo was taken
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I guess I started to realise
that I was gay
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and for me, it was a struggle.
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It was also the same time that the
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kids at school figured it out.
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Poofta, faggot, fudge packer.
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These were the names I was
pretty much called
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on a daily basis.
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The bullying was unrelenting.
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That was 20 years ago now, but I can
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still remember the shame
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that I carried on my shoulders.
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The fear and the anxiety
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that my family would find out.
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In fact, this rugby club was the only
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place where I wasn't getting bullied.
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Here I wasn't the gay kid.
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Here, I was the total second-rower
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who was good at scoring tries.
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It was the mid 90s.
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Around that very same time something
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was happening on the other side of
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the world in London that would
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drastically change my life
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and the lives of thousands of others.
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A group of friends were
having a drink in a pub
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in London's King's Cross
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and they came up with what was
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at the time a radical idea
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to start the world's first
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gay rugby club.
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And that's how the Kings Cross
Steelers was born.
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MATT: You know, the Steelers were
the first gay rugby team
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in the world.
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We've been in this tournament
many times.
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We've got as far as we have now
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but we've never won it.
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So to be part of the team that
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is the first team from the Steelers
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to win the Bingham Cup
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would be incredible.
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EAMMON: In their first season the
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boys were trying to line up fixtures
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against straight teams across England.
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They sent out 130 invitations.
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But would you believe
only 20 came back.
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It was a different world back then.
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As for straight rugby players, well,
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they were worried about catching
HIV on the pitch.
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But the boys didn't give up.
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And without knowing it
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they had started something big.
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Flash forward two decades from
that single team
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there are now 60 gay clubs around the world
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and every two years they meet
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for the Bingham Cup.
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And this year it's in Amsterdam.
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NIC: We can do this.
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But if we do this
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it'll be against all the odds.
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EAMMON: It's the World Cup
of gay rugby
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and over the next three days
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that's where this story takes place.
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NIC: Okay, so listen up.
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A couple of things that I want us to
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think about now
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is that we really switched on and we're a squad.
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EAMMON: And even though the Steelers
were the first gay rugby club
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they've never won this tournament.
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And these boys are their biggest
competition this week:
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The Sydney Convicts.
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Player: I could feel their trepidation.
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I could feel their eyes like
darting from player to player
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Thinking: Oh, shit. Oh, shit.
Oh, shit. Oh, shit ...
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I could feel it, you know.
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Rob: So it's just putting some
pressure on them
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and hopefully breaking them down.
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But everything is on them.
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There's no pressure on us whatsoever.
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Steelers. Steelers.
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NIC: Well, tomorrow
we've got the Convicts
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and they're pretty much
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what this team feel are
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one of the main competitors and
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that's our first game up.
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So we have to have our heads on
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first thing.
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EAMMON: So in this story, there are
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three people I want you to meet:
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Simon
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Drew
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and Nic, the head coach.
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NIC: When something goes wrong,
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you're just going to POG it.
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So you're going to 'Play Our Game'.
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Do you like that?
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I've thought about that for a while.
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EAMMON: Nic's been the
Director of Rugby
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for 3 years at the Steelers.
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NIC: So go and tell that person
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about something they did really good
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None of this banter about putting
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each other down right now, OK?
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I have a lot of secret nerves that I
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try to keep as far
away from the boys.
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I feel like I'm there with them.
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So I pick up all of those player nerves.
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So I get that sicky tummy.
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I get all those kind of feelings as
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if I'm about to walk on the pitch.
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EAMMON: And after this tournament,
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Nic is stepping down
as the head coach.
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NIC: That's kind of the end
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of my journey,
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really, is to watch them
play their best.
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EAMMON: Bit emotional?
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NIC: Yeah.
EAMMON: How come?
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NIC: Because...
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I've been with them for three years.
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And some of the boys ...
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been on that journey
for three years.
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And we were rubbish.
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I mean
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we got tonked.
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We had ...
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we, we had
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70, 80 points put on us when I first
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came to the club
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and, um
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I've watched players
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grow.
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So ...
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And what I found was
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my first year, not so much now,
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but in my first year,
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I found that I had these
really great players
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who had a real lack of self belief.
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It's like:
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'I can be a really confident
gay person,
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and I can be really confident
in the club,
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and I can be really confident
with my friends,
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and I'm a brilliant person
in the workplace,
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and I'm a super successful businessman.
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But on the sport's pitch
that doesn't belong to me.
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This is not my home.
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Can I stop you here?
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Every single one of you
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have put a 'but' into
your conversation.
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Cut that out now because
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we're here to look at our positives
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because actually we want
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to work on our really good stuff.
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SIMON: If we get that right here
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that will take us a long way.
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We started to get it going.
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Player: Simon?
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NIC: So I think I spent my
first year really
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just confirming
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to them that
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they do belong
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that they're sportsmen,
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that they are entitled to their
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place on the pitch.
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So I feel emotional because
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I've seen that growth
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in these human beings.
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And I love my sport.
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And I think it's done so many
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brilliant things for me
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so to see
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it do brilliant things for them
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just makes me really happy.
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Happy?!
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Told you I'd cry, ay?
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Getting it out in front of you,
not in front
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of the players.
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Kept my cool earlier in
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the team talk.
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ROB: One last thing. Bingham
tradition
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for the Steelers.
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Get your toes out boys.
Toes now a painting.
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EAMMON: So before the
tournament kicks off
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first thing's first.
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ROB: No excuses.
Blue and green. No excuses.
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(upbeat music)
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NIC: I would even allow
you to do mine.
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Awesome.
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(laughter)
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EAMMON: So I never wore
nail polish as a kid
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but I loved dressing up
in my mom's clothes
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and I always wore pink.
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So the signs were definitely there.
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But the happy kid that I
see in these photos
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didn't stay happy for long.
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So here I am editing this documentary
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and I don't have any pictures
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to go over the next bit.
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One of my first gay experiences
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happened when I was 16.
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It was with a boy from one of
my sports classes
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He invited me for a sleepover.
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We drank.
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We ended up messing around.
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And without me knowing it
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he set up a camera in the corner of the
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room and was filming it.
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I remember what happened
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pretty vividly.
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It was a Friday afternoon at school.
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I'd just finished class and I was
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walking back to the dorm in
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my boarding school
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and it was like a scene from a movie.
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People were looking at me,
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whispering, sniggering.
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Someone yelled out this boy's
surname at me
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and was laughing.
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The blood started rushing to my face.
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My world was spinning.
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It was almost like I was floating
outside my body
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having this kind of
out of body experience.
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This was the moment
I was going to be outed.
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I went into the room in my
boarding house
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and I tried to stay calm.
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And finally someone told me
what had happened.
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This boy had come to school
with the videotape
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and shown it.
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And this was probably one of
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the worst moments in my life
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being outed at an all boys school.
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I was so desperate for help that
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I called my dad and said
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that we were drunk and messing around.
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He went down to the boy's parent's
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house and destroyed the tape.
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And I'll be forever grateful for him
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for doing that.
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And we didn't really
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talk about whether I was gay or not.
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I certainly didn't bring it up.
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But the bullying went from
bad to worse.
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Before I was just surviving
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and now I felt like
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I was drowning.
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SIMON: Is the sound working?
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Are we ready to go?
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We're going to start?
Are you rolling?
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- Yeah
- Oh, we're rolling?
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Okay.
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EAMMON: So Simon is the second
person I want you to meet.
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Until recently, he played rugby
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at a fairly high level in Birmingham
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and north London.
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But he wasn't out.
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SIMON: I was a guy who knew from the
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age of about 10 years old that
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he was attracted to the same
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sex that decided
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very early that that was
just not a thing.
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I just didn't see how I could come out
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and still do what I wanted to do.
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I didn't really know I was in a struggle
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until
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Yeah, I decided that, you know,
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obviously people settle down
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and start getting married and ...
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Yeah, I um.
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Yeah.
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I guess I um ...
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I changed my mind and it was
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kind of weird, like, to have
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this whole life philosophy
that had worked.
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I was happy.
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And I was like, yeah,
privately I knew that I was gay
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but I was like: I'm going to be
the uncle and the
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best friend and the son.
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And I don't need a relationship.
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And it's weird. I used to look at --
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sounds so childlike, but because
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this view was formed
when I was a kid.
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We got a black labrador
when I was 12
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and I used to always say
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Rolo doesn't need a partner,
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like he's happy just bouncing around
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and goes for a walk in the park.
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So I always say,
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I based my life decisions around
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the black labrador family pet,
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right?
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Which is strange.
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EAMMON: Two years ago,
Simon realised it was time
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to be his true self.
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SIMON: When I went through
the process of trying to
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you know, deciding I wanted
to come out as gay
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I was shocked by
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how much
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there was built in.
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And it was.
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It was ... obviously
a lot of it was in me
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that I didn't know, you know.
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Trying to think ... telling my
little brother ... it was
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we went for a walk up
and down the river
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My little brother is the most welcoming guy.
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There's no way he's gonna
have a problem with it.
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I really struggled.
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And we were walked up and down
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up and down.
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I walk like one more walk, one more
walk, one more walk.
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And
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I just couldn't say the words.
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And I was ahhh.
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Even though at this point
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I'm thinking he must know what I'm
about to say, right?
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But he wouldn't do it for me.
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In the end after about literally
an hour and a half
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I said Tom, I said you've
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you've got a gay brother and it's not Dave,
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00:16:16,720 --> 00:16:18,520
that's all I could say, our older brother.
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And he was, yeah.
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He said I'm really
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I'm really happy because
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he recognised that wasn't the start.
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That was the
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I guess the um
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culmination of a lot of thinking
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over the previous 12 or 18 months.
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EAMMON: But as Simon took his first
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steps out of the closet, he tripped.
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He'd fallen in love with a childhood friend
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a straight guy, who we'll call Jack.
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Jack said some things that he
382
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probably didn't think about how it
383
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would impact SIMON
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and they cut very deep.
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EAMMON : Did that lead
to the other sort of stuff
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like the depression?
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Or feed into it at least?
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SIMON: Yeah.
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Yeah, definitely.
390
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EAMMON: Simon's being very worried
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about this part of the documentary
392
00:17:11,280 --> 00:17:12,600
because he doesn't want to blame
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Jack.
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He understands it was a difficult
395
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situation for both of them.
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Jack was brought up to believe that
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being gay was unnatural and wrong.
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But nonetheless, his words had
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a very big impact.
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SIMON: Then ...
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I ...
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I found, I found ... um ...
403
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I found the road from there a lot
404
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harder than I expected.
405
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ALEX: This week is a special
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time for our club.
407
00:17:49,200 --> 00:17:50,480
We've got six teams.
408
00:17:50,960 --> 00:17:53,480
We are the biggest component
of this tournament.
409
00:17:53,480 --> 00:17:54,800
We're going to go out and give it
410
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our absolute best.
411
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NIC: And I just want to say
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just love every moment that
you're on the pitch.
413
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And then Sunday night, just go wild.
414
00:18:03,520 --> 00:18:05,360
(group cheers)
415
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NIC: So we got a sixth place last time
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And I believe with the set
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of players that we have and the team
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that we have
419
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that we're in with a chance
420
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to actually come away with a win.
421
00:18:26,160 --> 00:18:27,960
Stop no pictures, no pictures.
422
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ROB: This is where it starts.
First game.
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NIC: There's a few players that
the nerves are
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00:18:43,440 --> 00:18:44,920
overtaking them a little bit.
425
00:18:44,920 --> 00:18:46,600
But I'm trying to keep them
426
00:18:46,600 --> 00:18:48,000
keep them nice and low.
427
00:18:48,000 --> 00:18:48,960
Keep them calm.
428
00:18:49,200 --> 00:18:50,200
Nerves?
429
00:18:52,320 --> 00:18:53,320
Should be buzzing.
430
00:18:53,800 --> 00:18:55,800
Good nerves. They're good nerves.
431
00:18:56,520 --> 00:18:58,160
ALEX: So starting line up.
432
00:18:58,160 --> 00:18:59,960
Drew McDowell at loose head prop.
433
00:19:01,080 --> 00:19:02,280
NIC: I think they're all worrying
434
00:19:02,280 --> 00:19:04,280
because this is their main competition.
435
00:19:04,280 --> 00:19:06,160
So if they keep everything really positive
436
00:19:06,160 --> 00:19:07,880
they'll focus on their strengths and
437
00:19:08,200 --> 00:19:09,880
not let the kind of, um ...
438
00:19:10,040 --> 00:19:11,960
that kind of voice
439
00:19:12,680 --> 00:19:13,960
talk them down.
440
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EAMMON: So game one.
441
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The Sydney Convicts.
442
00:19:20,200 --> 00:19:23,640
The Steelers need to win
3 of their first 4 round games
443
00:19:23,640 --> 00:19:25,040
to make it to the semi-finals.
444
00:19:25,040 --> 00:19:27,520
And this is set to be the toughest.
445
00:19:31,400 --> 00:19:33,320
ROB: We are used to pressured games.
446
00:19:33,320 --> 00:19:34,880
We are used to fucking contact.
447
00:20:08,120 --> 00:20:10,720
EAMMON: The Steelers score first
with a penalty goal.
448
00:20:12,200 --> 00:20:13,880
But then the Convicts take the lead
449
00:20:13,880 --> 00:20:16,120
with one try and then another.
450
00:20:18,360 --> 00:20:20,400
Half time, we're down and points
451
00:20:20,400 --> 00:20:22,480
and down a man with concussion.
452
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ALEX: 20 minutes we've got here.
PLAYER: We've done this before.
453
00:20:28,000 --> 00:20:30,760
We've done this before
and we're going to do it again!
454
00:20:30,760 --> 00:20:32,560
You absolutely how it in you!
455
00:20:32,560 --> 00:20:35,680
You've got more in that tank!
More to give!
456
00:20:35,680 --> 00:20:36,680
C'mon on!
457
00:21:02,160 --> 00:21:04,960
EAMMON: Final score ...
Sydney Convicts - 12
458
00:21:04,960 --> 00:21:07,560
Kings Cross Steelers - 3.
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NIC: I'm going to say one thing.
460
00:21:48,360 --> 00:21:50,280
That shit show at the end
461
00:21:50,280 --> 00:21:51,640
is not Steeler's way.
462
00:21:51,640 --> 00:21:52,960
And if I see that one more time,
463
00:21:52,960 --> 00:21:54,960
you're off the game,
you're off the tournament
464
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because you're not playing
in my fucking team.
465
00:21:56,680 --> 00:21:57,640
Okay?
466
00:21:57,640 --> 00:21:59,280
I'm not having that bullshit.
467
00:21:59,280 --> 00:22:00,960
We're at a tournament
468
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with a brotherhood here.
469
00:22:03,000 --> 00:22:03,960
Not having it.
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Full stop.
471
00:22:08,120 --> 00:22:09,920
Last word on that - number one.
472
00:22:09,920 --> 00:22:11,000
Number two ...
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we didn't trust our structure
for about 18 minutes, okay?
474
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We need to do what
we're really good at, okay?
475
00:22:19,280 --> 00:22:21,080
What we are really good at.
476
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So we're going to learn from that.
477
00:22:23,040 --> 00:22:24,680
We're gonna step up from that
478
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because I'm disappointed
479
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you're disappointed
480
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and there's plenty more in the tank.
481
00:22:29,600 --> 00:22:30,600
OK?
482
00:22:30,920 --> 00:22:33,120
NIC: I think that I
483
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probably give out
484
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this really fearsome (laughs)
485
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I would say I'm
probably a fierce
486
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female.
487
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And so I might
488
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just slightly terrify
489
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a couple of people.
490
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And that's OK, because
491
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I kind of quite like that fierce
492
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female part.
493
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But those people that
494
00:22:58,680 --> 00:23:01,480
spend time trying to
get to know me
495
00:23:01,480 --> 00:23:02,760
realise actually
496
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I'm a bit of a pussy cat.
497
00:23:04,120 --> 00:23:05,880
NIC: You are a fantastic team.
498
00:23:05,880 --> 00:23:07,680
Believe in your structure.
499
00:23:07,680 --> 00:23:09,200
Believe in the way that we play
500
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rugby the Steelers way.
501
00:23:12,040 --> 00:23:13,800
SIMON: We decided just before kick off
502
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we're going to throw the first game
503
00:23:14,920 --> 00:23:16,880
so we can stay undercover
504
00:23:16,880 --> 00:23:18,520
so these boys think that they got us
505
00:23:18,520 --> 00:23:19,960
but they haven't.
506
00:23:20,720 --> 00:23:22,320
Nah, they came at us
507
00:23:22,320 --> 00:23:23,560
with a lot of physicality.
508
00:23:23,560 --> 00:23:25,760
DREW: But I think if we keep
building on through
509
00:23:25,760 --> 00:23:27,280
tournament, each game,
510
00:23:27,280 --> 00:23:28,920
keep working through our structures,
511
00:23:28,920 --> 00:23:30,640
we'll see Convicts in the final and
512
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then get a second chance at it.
513
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PLAYER: Beaten by my old team.
514
00:23:37,880 --> 00:23:39,120
So that's never a good thing.
515
00:23:39,120 --> 00:23:40,840
Put some good play together in the
second half and hopefully we can
516
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come up against them in the final.
517
00:23:46,840 --> 00:23:47,840
Fuck!
518
00:23:47,960 --> 00:23:49,520
EAMMON: So while the players recover,
519
00:23:49,520 --> 00:23:52,120
NIC snuck away to play a quick game herself.
520
00:23:52,120 --> 00:23:53,960
The last time she wore rugby boots,
521
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she was playing for Wales.
522
00:23:56,760 --> 00:23:58,400
NIC: I think I've gone a bit crazy
523
00:23:58,400 --> 00:24:00,320
and decided to come out of retirement.
524
00:24:00,320 --> 00:24:03,240
- How many years?
- Six years.
525
00:24:03,240 --> 00:24:05,960
- So who are you playing for and what position?
526
00:24:05,960 --> 00:24:08,480
- I'm not sure. We're just playing 10s.
527
00:24:10,440 --> 00:24:12,400
I'm playing where ever I'm put.
528
00:24:12,400 --> 00:24:16,320
- Oh God! Is it a big deal for you?
- No, well, yeah maybe.
529
00:24:16,800 --> 00:24:18,200
- Good luck.
- We'll see.
530
00:24:19,000 --> 00:24:20,400
EAMMON: So how does a gay woman
531
00:24:20,400 --> 00:24:23,320
come to coach a gay men's rugby club?
532
00:24:25,080 --> 00:24:28,320
NIC: Okay, so Gilbert Evans ...
533
00:24:29,000 --> 00:24:31,520
born, bred Caerphilly.
534
00:24:32,160 --> 00:24:35,600
Played rugby, football and cricket.
535
00:24:36,240 --> 00:24:38,520
Refereed in later life.
536
00:24:38,520 --> 00:24:40,800
Treasurer of Caerphilly Rugby Club.
537
00:24:41,240 --> 00:24:45,240
Hugely disappointed that I was a girl
538
00:24:45,640 --> 00:24:49,520
and told me so in no uncertain
terms when I was about 12
539
00:24:49,760 --> 00:24:52,160
and I was the only grandchild
540
00:24:52,160 --> 00:24:54,160
so he was stuck with me at that point.
541
00:24:54,600 --> 00:24:56,960
My brother and sister came along
a bit later on.
542
00:24:57,560 --> 00:25:00,400
And informed me that in his disappointment
543
00:25:00,400 --> 00:25:02,240
that he'd have to put up with it
544
00:25:02,240 --> 00:25:04,760
and that he's decided to pretend
545
00:25:04,760 --> 00:25:07,320
that I am a boy on a Saturday afternoon.
546
00:25:07,360 --> 00:25:11,360
So I got my first season ticket to Cardiff Rugby Club
547
00:25:11,360 --> 00:25:14,800
aged twelve when I went to senior school.
548
00:25:16,600 --> 00:25:19,120
From the age of 12, my grandfather took me.
549
00:25:19,120 --> 00:25:22,000
I was allowed to swear once
we got through the stalls.
550
00:25:22,000 --> 00:25:25,160
But as soon as we got through
the turnstiles on the way out,
551
00:25:25,160 --> 00:25:26,640
no more swearing.
552
00:25:27,320 --> 00:25:29,840
And he stood by my side
553
00:25:29,840 --> 00:25:30,840
for
554
00:25:32,480 --> 00:25:34,560
seven years and
555
00:25:35,200 --> 00:25:37,280
taught me the referee's perspective,
556
00:25:37,280 --> 00:25:39,200
taught me the fullback's perspective,
557
00:25:39,200 --> 00:25:40,800
the ten's perspective,
558
00:25:41,320 --> 00:25:43,240
and just talked me through the rugby match.
559
00:25:43,240 --> 00:25:44,960
He taught me why that penalty happened,
560
00:25:44,960 --> 00:25:47,040
what was happening in that ruck,
561
00:25:47,040 --> 00:25:48,880
why was that scrum pulled down.
562
00:25:48,880 --> 00:25:49,880
And he just ...
563
00:25:50,840 --> 00:25:54,000
he loved sharing that knowledge with me.
564
00:25:54,000 --> 00:25:56,480
And we had just this connection.
565
00:25:56,960 --> 00:25:58,840
So age 17,
566
00:25:58,840 --> 00:26:00,520
I got my first car
567
00:26:00,520 --> 00:26:03,280
and literally the first thing I did
568
00:26:03,280 --> 00:26:06,160
was drive on a Tuesday night down to rugby.
569
00:26:06,400 --> 00:26:08,920
So this game that I knew
570
00:26:08,920 --> 00:26:10,720
inside out
571
00:26:10,720 --> 00:26:12,400
I'd never played.
572
00:26:13,240 --> 00:26:17,480
So possibly one of the most exciting nights
of my life.
573
00:26:17,760 --> 00:26:22,360
And at the time, I was about eight stone
574
00:26:22,360 --> 00:26:24,440
so a little bit smaller.
575
00:26:24,440 --> 00:26:26,800
And I played on the wing
576
00:26:27,600 --> 00:26:31,000
and I just I thought this is the
best thing in the world.
577
00:26:31,000 --> 00:26:32,000
So
578
00:26:32,600 --> 00:26:34,000
I played at university.
579
00:26:34,000 --> 00:26:36,160
Then I went off to the university
580
00:26:36,160 --> 00:26:38,680
and I got into the university team
581
00:26:40,240 --> 00:26:42,200
I came home at Christmas
582
00:26:42,200 --> 00:26:44,320
and my grandfather said to me,
583
00:26:44,320 --> 00:26:46,080
"Ah, I'm just so ashamed of myself"
584
00:26:46,080 --> 00:26:47,680
And I said why grandad?
And he was like,
585
00:26:47,680 --> 00:26:51,640
"Oh, your grandmother's got
it in for me, it's all my fault."
586
00:26:51,640 --> 00:26:52,720
I said, what's happened?
587
00:26:52,720 --> 00:26:54,920
"You're going to get breast cancer."
588
00:26:54,920 --> 00:26:57,400
I'm like what do you mean
I'm going to get breast cancer?
589
00:26:57,400 --> 00:27:00,360
He's like, "Well, all those tackling.
590
00:27:00,360 --> 00:27:02,800
Is there anything you can have,
like chest pads?"
591
00:27:02,800 --> 00:27:05,640
I'm like, I'm not going to get breast cancer
592
00:27:05,640 --> 00:27:06,640
from rugby.
593
00:27:06,640 --> 00:27:07,880
He's like, "Yeah but you're going to
594
00:27:07,880 --> 00:27:09,200
take all those hits to your breasts."
595
00:27:09,200 --> 00:27:11,920
I'm like, you really do not need to be worrying
596
00:27:11,920 --> 00:27:12,960
about my breasts.
597
00:27:12,960 --> 00:27:15,200
My breasts are all good.
598
00:27:15,800 --> 00:27:17,600
And he's like, "And your teeth.
599
00:27:17,600 --> 00:27:19,120
You've got such nice teeth."
600
00:27:19,360 --> 00:27:22,160
So was he was super disappointed.
601
00:27:23,320 --> 00:27:25,840
And he blamed himself for my
602
00:27:25,840 --> 00:27:27,360
love of rugby.
603
00:27:27,360 --> 00:27:28,360
So
604
00:27:29,320 --> 00:27:33,400
he had a major stroke as I went to university.
605
00:27:33,400 --> 00:27:36,040
And he spent the rest of his life,
606
00:27:36,040 --> 00:27:38,760
twelve years, in a nursing home.
607
00:27:38,760 --> 00:27:39,760
So
608
00:27:40,480 --> 00:27:43,440
my first Six Nations playing for Wales --
609
00:27:44,200 --> 00:27:47,760
and I cried then too by the way.
610
00:27:48,240 --> 00:27:49,960
I'm a cryer --
611
00:27:49,960 --> 00:27:53,600
And I line up against Ireland
612
00:27:53,600 --> 00:27:55,000
and I look up
613
00:27:55,000 --> 00:27:57,360
and my nan is there, and she's only four foot ten.
614
00:27:57,360 --> 00:27:58,840
So there's this tiny little woman,
615
00:27:58,840 --> 00:28:01,320
with this massive scarf and a big wolly hat
616
00:28:01,320 --> 00:28:03,720
watching me, waving at me.
617
00:28:03,720 --> 00:28:04,720
And
618
00:28:06,160 --> 00:28:07,960
she come up to me at the end of the game
619
00:28:07,960 --> 00:28:09,400
and she's like, "Your grandfather
620
00:28:09,400 --> 00:28:12,240
would have been just so proud of you right now.
621
00:28:13,160 --> 00:28:14,880
He never said it
622
00:28:14,880 --> 00:28:15,880
because he was always a bit frightened
623
00:28:15,880 --> 00:28:17,680
you were going to get hurt,
624
00:28:19,160 --> 00:28:20,760
but he'd be really proud of you."
625
00:28:20,760 --> 00:28:23,640
So, he never got to see me play.
626
00:28:23,640 --> 00:28:24,640
But
627
00:28:25,920 --> 00:28:27,840
he's always with me
628
00:28:27,840 --> 00:28:30,120
on the pitch, near the pitch.
629
00:28:30,120 --> 00:28:32,240
So ... hence the reason
630
00:28:32,240 --> 00:28:34,920
why I'm a rugby obsessed.
631
00:28:45,840 --> 00:28:47,520
EAMMON: Do you think you feel him here
632
00:28:47,520 --> 00:28:49,360
here with you this week?
633
00:28:50,640 --> 00:28:52,720
NIC: Yes, and I think ...
634
00:28:56,120 --> 00:29:01,800
he was immensely proud of all my achievements.
635
00:29:01,800 --> 00:29:03,120
Anything that I did.
636
00:29:03,120 --> 00:29:04,960
He would drive me anywhere.
637
00:29:04,960 --> 00:29:09,400
He would fuel that passion.
638
00:29:09,400 --> 00:29:11,560
So I think
639
00:29:11,560 --> 00:29:13,600
for him to know
640
00:29:13,600 --> 00:29:17,000
that so many years on
641
00:29:17,000 --> 00:29:19,560
that he still fuels my passion.
642
00:29:19,560 --> 00:29:23,560
I think ... that's pretty special, isn't it?
643
00:29:36,960 --> 00:29:38,720
DREW: I told you not to kill anyone.
644
00:29:38,720 --> 00:29:39,800
NIC: I didn't.
645
00:29:39,800 --> 00:29:41,840
I was nice. I played nice Evans.
646
00:29:43,320 --> 00:29:45,320
COACH: You love a bit of constant
infringing don't you?
647
00:29:45,320 --> 00:29:47,640
In at the side, clobbering that bird.
648
00:29:49,360 --> 00:29:52,400
- Still go it. Could've been a contender.
- I wish.
649
00:29:53,160 --> 00:29:55,120
EAMMON: You got so close at the end.
650
00:29:55,120 --> 00:29:58,080
- My God. That was so good.
- Ahhh! I should've scored.
651
00:29:58,080 --> 00:30:00,160
- NIC, how was that?
- Horrendous.
652
00:30:00,160 --> 00:30:02,960
I can remember why I retired now.
653
00:30:03,600 --> 00:30:05,120
Oh well.
654
00:30:05,120 --> 00:30:10,160
- But worth doing?
- Yeah it was really nice to play in the Bingham Cup.
655
00:30:10,160 --> 00:30:12,480
So, know what the boys feel like.
656
00:30:12,480 --> 00:30:13,800
- What did it feel like?
657
00:30:13,800 --> 00:30:15,960
Um really nervous.
658
00:30:15,960 --> 00:30:17,240
First game in a long time.
659
00:30:17,240 --> 00:30:18,480
Felt really nervous.
660
00:30:18,480 --> 00:30:21,360
I just thought I'd mess it up for everybody.
661
00:30:21,360 --> 00:30:23,000
- But you played awesome.
662
00:30:23,920 --> 00:30:25,560
I didn't do very much.
663
00:30:25,560 --> 00:30:28,480
It's good to get a few hits in.
664
00:30:29,880 --> 00:30:30,880
- Thanks NIC.
665
00:30:38,840 --> 00:30:40,480
EAMMON: Is your gran still alive?
666
00:30:40,480 --> 00:30:42,200
NIC: Ahh, Yeah.
667
00:30:42,200 --> 00:30:43,800
EAMMON: Do you think you call her after
668
00:30:43,800 --> 00:30:45,600
and let her know how you go this week?
669
00:30:45,600 --> 00:30:47,280
NIC: She's in hospital.
670
00:30:48,960 --> 00:30:51,640
But she asks me about my boys.
671
00:30:52,040 --> 00:30:55,560
So I tell her that I coach the gay men's rugby team
672
00:30:56,320 --> 00:30:58,200
and she loves that.
673
00:30:59,360 --> 00:31:02,120
She's like, oh, that's funny.
674
00:31:02,800 --> 00:31:05,440
And I think I think she really loves that
675
00:31:05,440 --> 00:31:06,840
because she always talks about the fact
676
00:31:06,840 --> 00:31:09,440
that life was so different in her era.
677
00:31:11,560 --> 00:31:12,920
I think
678
00:31:13,600 --> 00:31:15,920
she loves the fact
679
00:31:15,920 --> 00:31:17,680
that our society
680
00:31:17,680 --> 00:31:21,240
now embrace gay people
681
00:31:21,240 --> 00:31:23,600
and we're able to have these amazing things
682
00:31:23,600 --> 00:31:24,800
like the Bingham Cup.
683
00:31:25,160 --> 00:31:28,760
We're able to safely walk the streets of Amsterdam
684
00:31:29,600 --> 00:31:32,720
and we're able to celebrate
685
00:31:32,720 --> 00:31:35,040
our own sporting lives.
686
00:31:35,040 --> 00:31:37,360
And I feel that's what Bingham is.
687
00:31:37,360 --> 00:31:41,160
It's a celebration of gay sporting lives.
688
00:32:06,240 --> 00:32:07,240
So I noticed that
689
00:32:07,240 --> 00:32:09,280
I didn't have an American flag in our tent.
690
00:32:09,280 --> 00:32:10,960
So I brought this
691
00:32:10,960 --> 00:32:14,840
and then this is the Man of the Day award.
692
00:32:14,840 --> 00:32:16,800
It's normally a skirt
693
00:32:16,800 --> 00:32:18,520
but it would have been sacrilegious
694
00:32:18,520 --> 00:32:20,200
to cover the flag.
695
00:32:21,280 --> 00:32:22,480
EAMMON: what did you think
of the guy
696
00:32:22,480 --> 00:32:24,400
with the Spangled Banner Speedo.
697
00:32:25,040 --> 00:32:26,880
CHRIS: Oh right. Ummm...
698
00:32:26,880 --> 00:32:29,960
Yes that was quite an interesting outfit.
699
00:32:31,040 --> 00:32:33,280
I wonder he'll wear to the closing party.
700
00:32:33,680 --> 00:32:34,920
CASPAR: Oh you're wondering?
701
00:32:35,600 --> 00:32:36,640
I don't want this.
702
00:32:36,640 --> 00:32:38,000
Get this camera off.
703
00:32:38,480 --> 00:32:40,840
My focus first and foremost is on the rugby.
704
00:32:40,840 --> 00:32:41,800
- Yeah, exactly.
705
00:32:41,800 --> 00:32:43,280
- But second...
706
00:32:43,280 --> 00:32:44,160
EAMMON: speaking of which ...
707
00:32:44,160 --> 00:32:45,880
time for the next game
708
00:32:46,120 --> 00:32:48,320
the Emerald Warriors from Dublin.
709
00:32:48,880 --> 00:32:52,040
NIC: We're going to go out there and
play lots of attacking rugby
710
00:32:52,040 --> 00:32:53,200
right from the off.
711
00:32:53,200 --> 00:32:55,760
There's no taking anything for granted.
712
00:32:55,760 --> 00:32:56,760
Just as many points.
713
00:32:58,280 --> 00:33:00,840
Be my top pain in the arse today.
714
00:33:36,600 --> 00:33:38,760
EAMMON: 73 - 0 to the Steelers.
715
00:33:38,760 --> 00:33:40,320
They're back in the competition
716
00:33:40,320 --> 00:33:42,120
and need just two more wins
717
00:33:42,120 --> 00:33:44,360
if they have a chance of going all the way.
718
00:33:53,600 --> 00:33:54,600
NIC: Thought you were fabulous.
719
00:34:04,600 --> 00:34:07,280
Get some food on board as soon as possible.
720
00:34:07,280 --> 00:34:09,040
PLAYER: Don't worry about that Nic.
721
00:34:10,080 --> 00:34:11,680
Got some down here.
722
00:34:12,520 --> 00:34:14,000
ROB: Louis, as you're a PE teacher
723
00:34:14,000 --> 00:34:15,200
you can fucking launder the shirts.
724
00:34:16,080 --> 00:34:17,560
So shirts off.
725
00:34:17,720 --> 00:34:19,280
And also, last thing for me.
726
00:34:19,280 --> 00:34:21,080
Where is he? Congratulations.
727
00:34:21,080 --> 00:34:22,240
You scored more tries in this tournament
728
00:34:22,240 --> 00:34:23,440
than your boyfriend.
729
00:34:23,440 --> 00:34:24,400
ALL: AYYY!
730
00:34:28,840 --> 00:34:29,800
EAMMON: Well, remember I said
731
00:34:29,800 --> 00:34:31,680
there are three people I want you to meet?
732
00:34:31,680 --> 00:34:33,520
Well, it's kind of four.
733
00:34:33,520 --> 00:34:36,320
Drew and Drewalicious.
734
00:34:45,600 --> 00:34:48,280
DREW: I think Drag just came along
735
00:34:48,280 --> 00:34:50,880
as a bit of a fluke.
736
00:34:53,800 --> 00:34:56,680
EAMMON: So, yes, apparently joining
a gay rugby club
737
00:34:56,680 --> 00:34:58,840
can turn you into a drag queen.
738
00:35:03,160 --> 00:35:04,680
So Drew used to be in charge of
739
00:35:04,680 --> 00:35:06,240
social events at the club
740
00:35:06,600 --> 00:35:08,080
and one night before a big game
741
00:35:08,080 --> 00:35:10,240
when they couldn't drink alcohol
742
00:35:10,240 --> 00:35:13,120
he decided to swap the spirits for stilettos.
743
00:35:13,840 --> 00:35:15,880
DREW: I was smaller than I am now,
744
00:35:15,880 --> 00:35:18,000
but I was still quite stocky.
745
00:35:18,000 --> 00:35:22,080
So to see three quite stocky rugby players
746
00:35:22,080 --> 00:35:24,640
in heels and makeup doing a dance.
747
00:35:24,640 --> 00:35:25,840
No one was expecting it.
748
00:35:25,840 --> 00:35:28,680
So they were just absolutely floored.
749
00:35:28,680 --> 00:35:30,800
And then I realised in that moment
750
00:35:30,800 --> 00:35:35,320
I got to do multiple
things that I love doing.
751
00:35:35,840 --> 00:35:38,200
I got to dance.
752
00:35:38,200 --> 00:35:40,040
I got to perform.
753
00:35:40,400 --> 00:35:42,360
And I got to play a character.
754
00:35:43,280 --> 00:35:46,440
I've created a persona as a drag queen
755
00:35:46,440 --> 00:35:50,120
that is probably an extension of myself,
756
00:35:50,120 --> 00:35:51,280
but just a very wild
757
00:35:51,280 --> 00:35:54,560
and very kind of exaggerated sense.
758
00:35:54,560 --> 00:35:55,720
And I was like,
759
00:35:55,720 --> 00:35:57,920
how can I make this actually last
760
00:35:57,920 --> 00:35:59,760
as long as possible?
761
00:35:59,760 --> 00:36:01,000
Because I kind of love it.
762
00:36:01,000 --> 00:36:03,080
I love being centre of attention.
763
00:36:03,080 --> 00:36:04,960
Everyone knows I love being centre of attention.
764
00:36:04,960 --> 00:36:07,960
And I think it's partly because I
like making people laugh.
765
00:36:07,960 --> 00:36:09,720
I like seeing people smile.
766
00:36:15,920 --> 00:36:17,720
EAMMON: The Devalicious drag show
767
00:36:17,720 --> 00:36:19,440
was so successful
768
00:36:19,440 --> 00:36:22,040
that the club decided to put on a public event
769
00:36:22,040 --> 00:36:23,840
and make it a fundraiser.
770
00:36:31,560 --> 00:36:33,160
DREW: And I was like oh,
771
00:36:33,160 --> 00:36:34,840
I'm possibly going to get nervous again.
772
00:36:34,840 --> 00:36:36,760
And then the first song came on,
773
00:36:36,760 --> 00:36:40,120
which was the first routine that
we did in Manchester.
774
00:36:40,120 --> 00:36:41,640
As soon as we got on stage,
775
00:36:41,640 --> 00:36:43,960
I was like, no, no,
776
00:36:43,960 --> 00:36:45,680
I love this.
777
00:36:45,680 --> 00:36:48,360
Seeing 600 people just looking at me
778
00:36:48,360 --> 00:36:49,480
owning the stage.
779
00:36:49,480 --> 00:36:52,800
I was like, this is something I love.
780
00:36:57,880 --> 00:36:59,400
I kind of soaked it up
781
00:36:59,400 --> 00:37:00,840
and then I got off stage
782
00:37:00,840 --> 00:37:02,400
and it was like I don't want to leave
783
00:37:02,400 --> 00:37:03,720
and then I realised
I don't have to
784
00:37:03,720 --> 00:37:05,320
because I have four other acts.
785
00:37:05,320 --> 00:37:06,560
So it's perfect!
786
00:37:10,720 --> 00:37:12,280
EAMMON: And now it's turned
787
00:37:12,280 --> 00:37:13,840
into an annual event
788
00:37:13,840 --> 00:37:16,080
at the famous Heaven nightclub in London.
789
00:37:26,480 --> 00:37:28,520
And there's even a spinoff.
790
00:37:28,520 --> 00:37:30,560
Steeler's Drag Race.
791
00:37:34,120 --> 00:37:37,080
Yep, these are all rugby players.
792
00:37:41,080 --> 00:37:43,200
And they take it very seriously.
793
00:37:54,200 --> 00:37:55,520
There's a reading challenge
794
00:37:55,520 --> 00:37:57,480
which is kind of like a roast
795
00:38:04,680 --> 00:38:07,080
A Lip-Sync for your life.
796
00:38:12,480 --> 00:38:15,480
And of course, a Lip-Sync, for your legacy
797
00:38:15,480 --> 00:38:17,160
to crown the winner.
798
00:38:21,480 --> 00:38:25,280
The winner is 'Anya Knees'.
799
00:38:42,120 --> 00:38:44,000
DREW: We had some pushback,
800
00:38:44,000 --> 00:38:45,840
especially when we did Heaven
801
00:38:45,840 --> 00:38:49,440
and we did a lot of photoshoots
and promotion ...
802
00:38:50,480 --> 00:38:52,240
being drag queens in the locker room
803
00:38:52,240 --> 00:38:53,320
with other rugby players
804
00:38:53,320 --> 00:38:57,520
and creating that image of butch queens
805
00:38:58,360 --> 00:38:59,640
in drag
806
00:38:59,640 --> 00:39:01,600
and butch queens out of drag.
807
00:39:01,600 --> 00:39:04,840
And some of our previous members
808
00:39:04,840 --> 00:39:07,720
didn't really appreciate that
809
00:39:07,720 --> 00:39:11,400
because they thought we were feeding
into that gay stereotype
810
00:39:11,400 --> 00:39:15,040
that gay men are only sissies.
811
00:39:15,040 --> 00:39:16,880
Or only want to play dress up
812
00:39:16,880 --> 00:39:18,800
in girl's clothes when actually
813
00:39:18,800 --> 00:39:21,360
they looked at it the wrong way.
814
00:39:21,360 --> 00:39:24,400
We were actually welcoming
and promoting
815
00:39:24,400 --> 00:39:27,280
and kind of congratulating people
816
00:39:27,280 --> 00:39:29,160
who are their own people
817
00:39:29,160 --> 00:39:31,040
that they can be rugby players
818
00:39:31,040 --> 00:39:32,520
that they can be drag queens
819
00:39:32,520 --> 00:39:33,720
they can be whatever they want.
820
00:39:33,720 --> 00:39:37,520
And that's not something
to really look down upon.
821
00:39:37,520 --> 00:39:39,080
That's actually something to embrace
822
00:39:39,080 --> 00:39:41,080
and say that's fine.
823
00:39:47,960 --> 00:39:51,040
EAMMON: Day two and the Steelers are
still in with a chance
824
00:39:51,040 --> 00:39:53,040
if they win their next two games.
825
00:39:53,040 --> 00:39:55,680
And just thinking about what Drew was saying
826
00:39:55,680 --> 00:39:58,160
about embracing who you are
827
00:39:58,160 --> 00:40:00,880
and sometimes the hardest person to convince
828
00:40:00,880 --> 00:40:02,000
is yourself.
829
00:40:03,280 --> 00:40:05,680
SIMON: I'm thinking I'm about
to talk about ...
830
00:40:07,160 --> 00:40:09,640
I guess because it's relevant ...
831
00:40:10,680 --> 00:40:12,560
depression ... you know?
832
00:40:13,560 --> 00:40:14,560
which
833
00:40:18,720 --> 00:40:20,080
I'm not like ...
834
00:40:20,640 --> 00:40:23,240
You want to be kind of proud,
don't you right?
835
00:40:25,600 --> 00:40:27,240
You told me you were filming and stuff
836
00:40:27,240 --> 00:40:30,200
and do I want, like, a documentary about ...
837
00:40:30,200 --> 00:40:32,560
where I'm talking about my depression.
838
00:40:32,560 --> 00:40:33,680
Not really.
839
00:40:34,640 --> 00:40:35,600
But it is part ...
840
00:40:35,600 --> 00:40:37,440
It is part of the ...
841
00:40:38,040 --> 00:40:39,960
It is part of the story.
842
00:40:43,960 --> 00:40:45,200
EAMMON: Simon grew up in Birmingham,
843
00:40:45,200 --> 00:40:46,800
an industrial city
844
00:40:46,800 --> 00:40:49,360
and not the easiest of places to come out.
845
00:40:49,800 --> 00:40:50,880
After moving to London
846
00:40:50,880 --> 00:40:53,040
he eventually started telling his friends
847
00:40:53,040 --> 00:40:55,720
and their support was mostly overwhelming.
848
00:40:55,720 --> 00:40:58,400
But the situation with his childhood friend Jack
849
00:40:58,400 --> 00:41:00,240
hadn't improved.
850
00:41:03,520 --> 00:41:05,960
Simon got himself into a muddle
851
00:41:05,960 --> 00:41:07,840
and pulled away from everything he loved,
852
00:41:07,840 --> 00:41:09,400
including rugby,
853
00:41:09,400 --> 00:41:12,720
and he almost quit the sport
he loved to altogether.
854
00:41:12,720 --> 00:41:14,920
But then searching the internet, one day
855
00:41:14,920 --> 00:41:17,000
he stumbled across the Steelers
856
00:41:17,000 --> 00:41:18,720
and he decided to give it a go.
857
00:41:19,200 --> 00:41:21,280
SIMON: There was a couple of weeks
while I was training ...
858
00:41:21,280 --> 00:41:22,920
I wasn't even at work.
859
00:41:22,920 --> 00:41:24,600
I was off work, sick,
860
00:41:24,600 --> 00:41:26,000
lying on the floor most of the day.
861
00:41:26,000 --> 00:41:28,360
Could hardly get out of the flat
862
00:41:28,960 --> 00:41:30,960
and then just be waiting
863
00:41:30,960 --> 00:41:32,400
for six o'clock to come
864
00:41:32,400 --> 00:41:34,480
and I could get my boots on
865
00:41:34,480 --> 00:41:36,440
and get out to play rugby.
866
00:41:36,720 --> 00:41:39,400
And that's how it was for
the first couple months.
867
00:41:43,760 --> 00:41:45,640
But it did ...
868
00:41:45,640 --> 00:41:46,960
it made me smile, you know
869
00:41:46,960 --> 00:41:48,840
and I was so quiet when I started.
870
00:41:48,840 --> 00:41:50,480
I was like ... people were like 'oh'
871
00:41:50,480 --> 00:41:51,480
People now ...
872
00:41:51,480 --> 00:41:52,640
cause they were like ...
873
00:41:52,640 --> 00:41:53,800
they look back ... and they were like
874
00:41:53,800 --> 00:41:54,720
you were quiet when you started
875
00:41:54,720 --> 00:41:55,880
I was always really quiet.
876
00:41:55,880 --> 00:41:57,240
I was just there to play rugby
877
00:41:57,240 --> 00:41:58,560
and just experience it.
878
00:41:58,560 --> 00:42:00,920
Also I was excited because I knew
879
00:42:00,920 --> 00:42:03,280
that it was a turning moment.
880
00:42:07,400 --> 00:42:08,320
Rugby ...
881
00:42:10,320 --> 00:42:12,080
It sounds like it's a bloody religion
882
00:42:12,080 --> 00:42:13,080
when I say it this way
883
00:42:13,080 --> 00:42:16,080
but I'd started to question rugby
884
00:42:16,080 --> 00:42:17,120
which is nuts
885
00:42:17,120 --> 00:42:19,600
because I played rugby
since I was seven years old.
886
00:42:24,120 --> 00:42:25,560
When I got to the rugby club
887
00:42:25,560 --> 00:42:28,360
and it was bringing out all the best of me
888
00:42:28,360 --> 00:42:29,480
but I was still depressed
889
00:42:29,480 --> 00:42:31,000
I was lying on the floor, you know?
890
00:42:32,200 --> 00:42:35,440
I'd then used up my entire deck of cards, right?
891
00:42:35,440 --> 00:42:37,560
And this is where I think
892
00:42:37,560 --> 00:42:39,680
I finally realised that I was ...
893
00:42:39,680 --> 00:42:43,440
you know, would be diagnosed
with depression, was ...
894
00:42:44,360 --> 00:42:46,120
I had my rugby back.
895
00:42:46,120 --> 00:42:49,840
I had everything on paper
was then fine again
896
00:42:50,680 --> 00:42:52,640
but I was still feeling really low.
897
00:42:53,400 --> 00:42:54,400
So, um...
898
00:42:56,160 --> 00:42:57,800
Yeah, I remember. It was weird.
899
00:42:57,800 --> 00:42:58,440
I was ...
900
00:42:58,440 --> 00:42:59,720
Bit of a theme.
901
00:42:59,720 --> 00:43:01,040
I was lying on the floor in the flat
902
00:43:01,040 --> 00:43:02,960
and my friend kept ringing me and saying,
903
00:43:02,960 --> 00:43:05,200
"Have you called the doctor?"
904
00:43:05,200 --> 00:43:06,960
And I was like, yeah,
I'll do it in ten minutes.
905
00:43:07,120 --> 00:43:08,120
I'll do it in ten minutes.
906
00:43:08,120 --> 00:43:09,000
It was the middle of the day.
907
00:43:09,000 --> 00:43:11,200
I wasn't at work and he's like
phoning me up.
908
00:43:11,200 --> 00:43:13,360
And he goes, "I found the number that
you need to dial,
909
00:43:13,360 --> 00:43:14,640
you need to dial this number,
just dial it."
910
00:43:14,640 --> 00:43:15,480
And he sent it to me.
911
00:43:15,480 --> 00:43:16,560
And I'm like okay, I'm on going to dial it.
912
00:43:16,560 --> 00:43:18,160
Ten minutes later, "Have you dialed it?"
913
00:43:18,160 --> 00:43:19,320
No, no ...
914
00:43:19,920 --> 00:43:23,480
I will be forever grateful for that guy
915
00:43:23,480 --> 00:43:24,640
because he phoned the number in the end
916
00:43:24,640 --> 00:43:26,640
he got me the appointment for the next day
917
00:43:26,640 --> 00:43:30,040
and he said, "Get yourself to the doctors,"
918
00:43:30,040 --> 00:43:31,920
and I felt this like weight lifted.
919
00:43:34,880 --> 00:43:37,320
I told him how I'd been feeling
920
00:43:37,320 --> 00:43:39,400
for the last 18 months prior.
921
00:43:39,400 --> 00:43:42,720
And he said, "It's a shame
that you've come to me now."
922
00:43:42,720 --> 00:43:45,520
"You've definitely been depressed."
923
00:43:45,520 --> 00:43:48,840
By that point, I was just ready.
Tell me what to do?!
924
00:43:48,840 --> 00:43:50,640
And it'd spent 18 months saying
925
00:43:50,640 --> 00:43:52,920
no anti-depressants - none of that stuff.
926
00:43:55,360 --> 00:43:59,400
I started on a course
of antidepressants then.
927
00:44:03,240 --> 00:44:05,560
The psychiatrist said to me
928
00:44:05,560 --> 00:44:07,360
"Once you've got through that first month,
929
00:44:07,360 --> 00:44:09,760
you're gonna be chatting to people in the lift
930
00:44:09,760 --> 00:44:10,840
and on the bus,"
931
00:44:10,840 --> 00:44:13,920
and I was like no mate you have no idea.
932
00:44:13,920 --> 00:44:16,240
I'm not going be talking to people in the lift.
933
00:44:16,240 --> 00:44:18,360
And I'll never forget, three months later
934
00:44:18,360 --> 00:44:21,120
going into work, "hey, how's it going?"
935
00:44:21,120 --> 00:44:24,840
Then I caught myself ... oh, it's that thing.
936
00:44:26,080 --> 00:44:27,240
SIMON: How are you feeling Jono?
937
00:44:27,240 --> 00:44:29,680
JONO: I had a wank this morning
so I feel great. No, no ...
938
00:44:31,800 --> 00:44:35,160
- No, how you feeling about the game?
- Ah ... yeah ... you know.
939
00:44:36,120 --> 00:44:38,280
- How many Bingham's you played?
940
00:44:38,280 --> 00:44:39,600
- 4th Bingham mate.
941
00:44:42,680 --> 00:44:47,080
SIMON: So I now advocate
anti-depressants.
942
00:44:47,080 --> 00:44:49,360
I mean, it's weird now I'm talking about it
943
00:44:49,360 --> 00:44:50,600
it feels fine.
944
00:44:52,080 --> 00:44:55,520
I've tried to do my best best to tell people.
945
00:44:55,520 --> 00:44:57,080
I don't see anything wrong with it
946
00:44:57,080 --> 00:44:59,720
and eventually I hope to get off them.
947
00:44:59,720 --> 00:45:02,880
Obviously I had a happy life
948
00:45:02,880 --> 00:45:05,160
up until a couple of years ago, so ...
949
00:45:05,160 --> 00:45:06,480
Should be okay.
950
00:45:21,880 --> 00:45:24,600
EAMMON: I didn't realise how many
scars I had
951
00:45:24,600 --> 00:45:26,120
until after I left school
952
00:45:26,120 --> 00:45:28,200
got away from the bullying
953
00:45:28,200 --> 00:45:30,040
came out and everyone was accepting.
954
00:45:30,040 --> 00:45:32,240
But I still didn't feel happy.
955
00:45:32,440 --> 00:45:33,840
Like Simon,
956
00:45:33,840 --> 00:45:35,360
like so many gay people
957
00:45:35,360 --> 00:45:38,440
despite putting on a smile, I was depressed.
958
00:45:38,440 --> 00:45:39,480
There were many days
959
00:45:39,480 --> 00:45:41,120
where I couldn't get out of bed.
960
00:45:42,080 --> 00:45:45,280
I graduated law school
and got a great job.
961
00:45:45,280 --> 00:45:47,040
But during work sometimes
962
00:45:47,040 --> 00:45:48,640
I would just burst into tears
963
00:45:48,640 --> 00:45:49,840
for no reason.
964
00:45:49,840 --> 00:45:50,920
I couldn't handle it.
965
00:45:50,920 --> 00:45:51,720
So I quit.
966
00:45:51,720 --> 00:45:55,040
And I started working at a TV station
where a friend worked
967
00:45:55,040 --> 00:45:57,120
and eventually got a job as a reporter.
968
00:45:57,120 --> 00:45:58,400
And I thought, great.
969
00:45:58,400 --> 00:45:59,360
My dream job.
970
00:45:59,360 --> 00:46:01,400
Finally, I'll be happy.
971
00:46:01,520 --> 00:46:05,240
But still, suicidal thoughts
kept knocking on the door.
972
00:46:05,520 --> 00:46:07,320
and more than once I even wrote
973
00:46:07,320 --> 00:46:08,720
a goodbye note.
974
00:46:08,720 --> 00:46:10,600
And the only thing stopping me
975
00:46:10,600 --> 00:46:12,000
was the devastation
976
00:46:12,000 --> 00:46:13,600
that it would cause my family.
977
00:46:19,120 --> 00:46:22,920
Again, like Simon, I started taking anti-depressants
978
00:46:22,920 --> 00:46:24,280
and when it levelled me out
979
00:46:24,280 --> 00:46:25,600
I finally realised
980
00:46:25,600 --> 00:46:28,120
that I needed to stop trying to do things
981
00:46:28,120 --> 00:46:31,240
that I thought would make other people like me.
982
00:46:31,240 --> 00:46:33,600
So I quit my job again.
983
00:46:33,600 --> 00:46:35,320
I packed up my life.
984
00:46:35,320 --> 00:46:36,720
And I moved to London.
985
00:46:40,560 --> 00:46:44,080
And that's where I found the Steelers.
986
00:46:50,480 --> 00:46:52,600
NIC: As a team, we need more from you.
987
00:46:52,600 --> 00:46:56,080
OK? hold yourself to really high standards.
988
00:46:56,480 --> 00:46:58,080
EAMMON: So just two games left
989
00:46:58,080 --> 00:46:59,560
until the semi-finals.
990
00:46:59,680 --> 00:47:02,800
Next up, the Manchester Village Spartans.
991
00:47:04,200 --> 00:47:07,480
So these two teams share a rich history.
992
00:47:07,480 --> 00:47:11,000
In fact, in '98, three years after
the Steelers formed,
993
00:47:11,000 --> 00:47:12,840
the Spartans became the world's
994
00:47:12,840 --> 00:47:14,720
second gay rugby team.
995
00:47:15,040 --> 00:47:18,200
And a year on, they held a history
making rugby match
996
00:47:18,200 --> 00:47:20,120
between two gay teams.
997
00:47:20,640 --> 00:47:22,160
The world was slowly becoming more
998
00:47:22,160 --> 00:47:23,720
accepting of gay people,
999
00:47:23,720 --> 00:47:26,000
and these two clubs were doing their bit,
1000
00:47:26,000 --> 00:47:27,960
one game of rugby at a time.
1001
00:47:28,640 --> 00:47:30,040
And there were a few surprises.
1002
00:47:30,040 --> 00:47:32,920
First, it was a surprise to many of
the straight teams
1003
00:47:32,920 --> 00:47:35,960
that a gay team could
actually be quite good.
1004
00:47:41,800 --> 00:47:43,520
And second, it was a surprise,
1005
00:47:43,520 --> 00:47:45,160
well, at least to the Steelers,
1006
00:47:45,160 --> 00:47:47,280
that they didn't experience much,
1007
00:47:47,280 --> 00:47:50,080
if any, homophobia on the pitch.
1008
00:47:51,000 --> 00:47:54,440
So starting with London's
King's Cross Steelers,
1009
00:47:54,440 --> 00:47:55,720
with the Manchester Village Spartans
1010
00:47:55,720 --> 00:47:56,800
coming next ...
1011
00:47:56,800 --> 00:47:59,080
a movement was beginning.
1012
00:47:59,080 --> 00:48:01,640
Teams from around the world were forming.
1013
00:48:01,640 --> 00:48:02,760
From Washington
1014
00:48:02,760 --> 00:48:05,200
to Wellington, San Francisco.
1015
00:48:05,800 --> 00:48:07,560
And from those humble beginnings,
1016
00:48:07,560 --> 00:48:10,960
there are now 60 gay clubs around the world
1017
00:48:10,960 --> 00:48:13,200
with more than two thousand
1018
00:48:13,200 --> 00:48:14,680
queer rugby players.
1019
00:48:22,520 --> 00:48:25,960
And for me, this is what makes it so special.
1020
00:48:25,960 --> 00:48:28,120
Everyone here, every player
1021
00:48:28,120 --> 00:48:30,600
has gone through that same struggle
1022
00:48:30,600 --> 00:48:31,760
realising they're different
1023
00:48:31,760 --> 00:48:33,680
and coming to terms with it.
1024
00:48:39,240 --> 00:48:40,800
Take Matt, for example.
1025
00:48:40,800 --> 00:48:43,880
He's from a devout religious family in Ireland
1026
00:48:43,880 --> 00:48:46,720
and he was working on a missionary ship in Asia
1027
00:48:46,720 --> 00:48:48,640
and texting a guy who was helping him
1028
00:48:48,640 --> 00:48:51,600
come to terms with his sexuality
1029
00:48:51,600 --> 00:48:52,800
when he accidently messaged
1030
00:48:52,800 --> 00:48:54,800
the entire conversation
1031
00:48:54,800 --> 00:48:56,720
to his congregation.
1032
00:48:58,960 --> 00:49:01,000
They wanted him to go to counselling
1033
00:49:01,000 --> 00:49:04,640
and stand up in front
of the entire ship and confess.
1034
00:49:04,640 --> 00:49:06,880
But Matt refused.
1035
00:49:09,880 --> 00:49:11,400
And if being outed in this way
1036
00:49:11,400 --> 00:49:13,240
wasn't bad enough
1037
00:49:13,240 --> 00:49:15,800
they then kicked him off
the boat at the next port
1038
00:49:15,800 --> 00:49:17,720
without a cent to his name
1039
00:49:17,720 --> 00:49:20,600
alone, to find his own way home.
1040
00:49:27,120 --> 00:49:29,680
In this moment, on this pitch
1041
00:49:29,680 --> 00:49:32,240
to this team, he is nothing
1042
00:49:32,240 --> 00:49:33,680
but a champion.
1043
00:49:33,800 --> 00:49:36,200
And that's something that everyone
1044
00:49:36,200 --> 00:49:37,560
deserves to feel.
1045
00:50:12,360 --> 00:50:14,720
Final score, Steelers - 52
1046
00:50:14,720 --> 00:50:15,920
the Spartans nil.
1047
00:50:15,920 --> 00:50:18,000
So two wins, one loss
1048
00:50:18,000 --> 00:50:20,040
and only one game to go
1049
00:50:20,040 --> 00:50:21,640
until the knockouts.
1050
00:50:21,640 --> 00:50:22,960
MATT: I was trying to step
1051
00:50:22,960 --> 00:50:24,600
but my hamstring kept kind of tugging.
1052
00:50:24,600 --> 00:50:27,760
So I just just started pushing people
1053
00:50:27,760 --> 00:50:30,080
and it was like the slowest try ever.
1054
00:50:30,080 --> 00:50:31,440
But we got there.
1055
00:50:31,440 --> 00:50:33,160
NIC: Push out. Three seconds.
1056
00:50:33,160 --> 00:50:35,800
3, 2, 1.
1057
00:50:36,240 --> 00:50:38,240
SAM: Feeling really good ... it's um ...
1058
00:50:38,240 --> 00:50:40,200
the spirits definitely picked up.
1059
00:50:41,840 --> 00:50:44,040
It's nice to be back on a winning streak
1060
00:50:44,040 --> 00:50:45,080
after the first game.
1061
00:50:50,800 --> 00:50:52,120
Miles: So how many shots have
we got at this?
1062
00:50:53,600 --> 00:50:54,840
SAM: He's not a trained actor.
1063
00:50:55,200 --> 00:50:56,920
EAMMON: So now for a bit of downtime.
1064
00:50:56,920 --> 00:50:58,160
Take one.
1065
00:50:58,160 --> 00:50:59,120
MILES: You good to go?
1066
00:51:02,880 --> 00:51:04,680
- Hey Sam, you look like you've
been through the wars man.
1067
00:51:04,680 --> 00:51:06,960
- Yeah. I think I'm gonna be full mummy
1068
00:51:06,960 --> 00:51:08,200
by the end of tomorrow.
1069
00:51:08,800 --> 00:51:10,120
- One more?
1070
00:51:10,120 --> 00:51:11,120
- Do it again.
1071
00:51:13,160 --> 00:51:14,640
- I can't do this.
1072
00:51:22,160 --> 00:51:24,080
- You ever had a nice massage boy?!
1073
00:51:29,720 --> 00:51:31,360
MORGAN: I'm just gonna stretch, sorry.
1074
00:51:31,360 --> 00:51:31,880
- Guys, guys.
1075
00:51:32,640 --> 00:51:33,880
- No, bend and snap.
1076
00:51:34,680 --> 00:51:35,800
EAMMON: Take two.
1077
00:51:35,800 --> 00:51:37,640
- Hey Sam, you look like you've
been through the wars.
1078
00:51:37,640 --> 00:51:40,480
- Um, yeah. I think I'm
going to be a full mummy.
1079
00:51:43,320 --> 00:51:45,160
JONO: Miles always chatting shit, ay?
1080
00:51:50,640 --> 00:51:52,400
- Don't ever offend me again.
1081
00:51:55,280 --> 00:51:57,560
- Guys, you know you boy's filming here?
1082
00:51:58,280 --> 00:51:59,760
SIMON: Yeah that's why we're here.
1083
00:52:04,680 --> 00:52:06,200
- Oh you're happy now?
1084
00:52:11,960 --> 00:52:13,280
EAMMON: And ... take three.
1085
00:52:13,280 --> 00:52:14,520
- Hey Sam how are you feeling?
1086
00:52:14,520 --> 00:52:16,280
You look like you've been through the wars.
1087
00:52:16,280 --> 00:52:17,680
- Yeah. I think I'm going to be a full mummy
1088
00:52:17,680 --> 00:52:18,680
by the end of tomorrow.
1089
00:52:20,280 --> 00:52:20,800
- We good?
1090
00:52:20,800 --> 00:52:22,920
- So terrible! So terrible!
1091
00:52:22,920 --> 00:52:24,080
Sounds so staged.
1092
00:52:24,320 --> 00:52:25,640
EAMMON: Yeah.
1093
00:52:25,640 --> 00:52:28,000
So inside a little less acting,
1094
00:52:28,000 --> 00:52:29,680
a little more relaxing.
1095
00:52:30,560 --> 00:52:35,280
DREW: Sorry. Just trying to
zone out for a little while.
1096
00:52:35,280 --> 00:52:36,920
EAMMON: Feeling alright? How you feeling?
1097
00:52:36,920 --> 00:52:37,920
DREW: I'm feeling fine.
1098
00:52:38,240 --> 00:52:41,040
Just trying to, like, chill.
1099
00:52:41,040 --> 00:52:43,160
I know it's going to be a big boy game.
1100
00:52:43,160 --> 00:52:46,600
So my body will definitely hurt afterwards.
1101
00:52:47,280 --> 00:52:49,920
MORGAN: Yeah it will girl.
Yeah it will.
1102
00:52:51,800 --> 00:52:53,640
NIC: Feeling a bit nervous.
1103
00:52:54,280 --> 00:52:57,080
I think our backs are up
against the wall, really.
1104
00:52:57,080 --> 00:52:58,960
We've had quite a few injuries
1105
00:52:59,880 --> 00:53:02,760
and a few people are hanging on
by a hamstring.
1106
00:53:02,760 --> 00:53:03,960
I think their confidence
1107
00:53:03,960 --> 00:53:05,440
is a thin veil
1108
00:53:05,440 --> 00:53:08,600
under a lot of worrying
1109
00:53:08,600 --> 00:53:10,160
and lack of self belief.
1110
00:53:11,880 --> 00:53:14,280
EAMMON: The San Diego Armada next.
1111
00:53:14,280 --> 00:53:16,160
If we beat them, we'make it
1112
00:53:16,160 --> 00:53:17,360
to the semi-final.
1113
00:53:55,120 --> 00:53:56,920
Try after try,
1114
00:53:56,920 --> 00:53:59,360
the Steelers continue their winning streak.
1115
00:53:59,360 --> 00:54:01,120
So now after this match,
1116
00:54:01,120 --> 00:54:03,680
they're top four in the world.
1117
00:54:03,680 --> 00:54:05,760
Through to the semi-finals.
1118
00:54:13,920 --> 00:54:16,720
NIC: The reason why we got
to this position right now
1119
00:54:16,720 --> 00:54:18,320
is because you chose to take the game
1120
00:54:18,320 --> 00:54:19,200
to them.
1121
00:54:19,200 --> 00:54:21,000
You chose to play
1122
00:54:21,000 --> 00:54:22,000
our game.
1123
00:54:22,240 --> 00:54:24,000
EAMMON: And as fate would have it,
1124
00:54:24,000 --> 00:54:25,640
our opponent for the semi-final
1125
00:54:25,640 --> 00:54:27,520
is our biggest rival.
1126
00:54:27,520 --> 00:54:29,680
The team that beat us in the first game.
1127
00:54:29,680 --> 00:54:31,360
The Sydney Convicts.
1128
00:54:31,360 --> 00:54:32,560
SIMON: Personal apology from me
1129
00:54:32,560 --> 00:54:33,680
for being quite negative in the second half.
1130
00:54:33,680 --> 00:54:35,200
I'll sought it out for the next game.
1131
00:54:35,200 --> 00:54:36,600
DREW: proud of you all.
1132
00:54:36,600 --> 00:54:37,200
Keep going.
1133
00:54:37,960 --> 00:54:40,800
NIC: Now I'm asking you for more, OK?
1134
00:54:40,800 --> 00:54:42,680
I'm asking you for more. OK?
1135
00:54:42,680 --> 00:54:43,880
Play your game. OK?
1136
00:54:43,880 --> 00:54:45,080
Play our game.
1137
00:54:45,080 --> 00:54:46,080
Brilliant.
1138
00:54:50,040 --> 00:54:52,160
ROB: Get your hands in.
Get your hands in.
1139
00:54:54,280 --> 00:54:56,080
3, 2, 1, Steelers!
1140
00:54:56,080 --> 00:54:57,080
NIC: Yeah don't ask Jono.
1141
00:55:00,800 --> 00:55:02,680
SIMON D: Broke my shoe.
1142
00:55:03,560 --> 00:55:04,520
Looks like we're gonna
1143
00:55:04,520 --> 00:55:05,880
come up against Convicts again.
1144
00:55:06,200 --> 00:55:07,800
They only beat us 12-3
1145
00:55:07,800 --> 00:55:09,080
and I'm pretty sure they
only put a lot more points
1146
00:55:09,080 --> 00:55:10,080
on other people.
1147
00:55:11,080 --> 00:55:12,360
We know the game they're going to play.
1148
00:55:12,360 --> 00:55:13,280
It's going to be aggressive.
1149
00:55:13,280 --> 00:55:15,600
So we just need to be up ahead of that this time.
1150
00:55:18,240 --> 00:55:20,240
EAMMON: How exciting. Top 4!
1151
00:55:20,240 --> 00:55:23,880
CASPAR: Very exciting.
That was the goal we set ourselves.
1152
00:55:26,040 --> 00:55:27,280
I would say anything now
1153
00:55:27,280 --> 00:55:28,640
is just a cherry on top.
1154
00:55:28,640 --> 00:55:29,840
But we want more.
1155
00:55:30,240 --> 00:55:31,680
ROB: That is disgusting.
1156
00:55:31,680 --> 00:55:32,680
Don't film.
1157
00:55:33,640 --> 00:55:35,520
No one wants to see this!
1158
00:55:35,520 --> 00:55:37,120
MILES: Switch it off. Switch it off.
1159
00:55:37,120 --> 00:55:38,120
Switch it off.
1160
00:55:48,760 --> 00:55:49,760
DREW: It's a bit shit
1161
00:55:49,760 --> 00:55:51,640
we're playing against the Convicts again.
1162
00:55:51,640 --> 00:55:53,240
But I guess we have to play them again anyway.
1163
00:55:54,280 --> 00:55:56,760
I can see your religion.
1164
00:55:59,080 --> 00:56:00,760
STEVE: What have you got
against my waist?
1165
00:56:02,040 --> 00:56:04,080
SIMON: I'm fine. I was shouting
at the referees
1166
00:56:04,080 --> 00:56:05,280
and I said I wouldn't do that.
1167
00:56:06,240 --> 00:56:07,880
I was shouting at them bad.
1168
00:56:07,880 --> 00:56:09,880
I actually know that guy's sister.
1169
00:56:10,120 --> 00:56:12,160
And I met him just then
1170
00:56:12,160 --> 00:56:14,040
for the first time on the pitch.
1171
00:56:15,880 --> 00:56:17,480
That was supposed to be
my personal goal.
1172
00:56:18,120 --> 00:56:19,280
So not too good.
1173
00:56:19,280 --> 00:56:20,800
I'm going to try and find him
1174
00:56:20,800 --> 00:56:23,680
and apologise and start a blank sheet tomorrow.
1175
00:56:24,400 --> 00:56:25,640
EAMMON: Mate, you said you were
1176
00:56:25,640 --> 00:56:26,520
a bit down this morning
1177
00:56:26,520 --> 00:56:27,880
but I see that big smile.
1178
00:56:30,000 --> 00:56:31,480
JONO: He's a lot better
on camera than me.
1179
00:56:33,240 --> 00:56:35,160
- Yeah I was ... rugby helps, hey.
1180
00:56:35,720 --> 00:56:37,080
Yeah, no. I'm good.
1181
00:56:37,280 --> 00:56:40,080
SIMON: You know, one of the hardest ...
1182
00:56:40,080 --> 00:56:43,280
moments definitely in my life so far
1183
00:56:43,280 --> 00:56:46,880
was recovering myself from depression.
1184
00:56:46,880 --> 00:56:48,960
Feeling like myself again.
1185
00:56:48,960 --> 00:56:50,400
I remember probably just the moment
1186
00:56:50,400 --> 00:56:53,280
I was thinking, oh, I'm feeling myself again.
1187
00:56:53,760 --> 00:56:56,000
It was week. I think I had a week of that.
1188
00:56:56,000 --> 00:56:57,240
And then ...
1189
00:56:57,240 --> 00:57:00,120
I was actually doing counselling at the time
1190
00:57:00,120 --> 00:57:04,320
and I'd done my 15th out of 16 sessions
1191
00:57:04,320 --> 00:57:06,480
and we'd gone all the way through.
1192
00:57:06,480 --> 00:57:08,560
And I'd learnt so much about myself, you know.
1193
00:57:08,560 --> 00:57:10,600
And I just had to write a letter or something
1194
00:57:10,600 --> 00:57:12,200
to summarise this is what I've learnt.
1195
00:57:12,240 --> 00:57:14,720
And I was feeling like,
wrap it up and put it away.
1196
00:57:18,440 --> 00:57:20,560
Yeah, it was a sad week.
1197
00:57:21,720 --> 00:57:23,200
My dad was ...
1198
00:57:23,200 --> 00:57:24,360
became ill.
1199
00:57:24,560 --> 00:57:26,720
You know, he'd had a tumour in his bowel
1200
00:57:26,720 --> 00:57:30,280
for the best part of two years, they think.
1201
00:57:32,280 --> 00:57:34,840
He was in surgery on Monday
1202
00:57:34,840 --> 00:57:37,320
for about seven or eight hours,
1203
00:57:37,320 --> 00:57:38,840
and we were sat there.
1204
00:57:38,840 --> 00:57:40,160
And the weirdest thing, right.
1205
00:57:40,840 --> 00:57:43,720
My, my sister's heavily pregnant
1206
00:57:44,360 --> 00:57:45,320
and
1207
00:57:45,320 --> 00:57:47,600
oh she came over to try and see Dad
1208
00:57:47,600 --> 00:57:49,640
and see if he's out of his operation.
1209
00:57:49,640 --> 00:57:50,840
And she just whispered in my ear.
1210
00:57:50,840 --> 00:57:53,960
She said, "My waters have broken."
1211
00:57:54,160 --> 00:57:56,200
And I was like, what?
1212
00:57:56,200 --> 00:57:57,680
And she said "Yeah."
1213
00:57:57,680 --> 00:57:58,920
And I was like where?
1214
00:57:58,920 --> 00:58:00,440
She's like "No, no, it's calm."
1215
00:58:01,240 --> 00:58:03,000
"It is a trickle," she said.
1216
00:58:03,000 --> 00:58:04,960
Sorry for that. Sorry, sorry, sorry.
1217
00:58:04,960 --> 00:58:06,240
That's not good for film.
1218
00:58:08,040 --> 00:58:10,400
Her water broke while my dad
was in the operation.
1219
00:58:10,600 --> 00:58:12,400
Then my mum got in the lift.
1220
00:58:12,400 --> 00:58:15,080
I was doing my work in the corridor
1221
00:58:15,080 --> 00:58:19,040
and I got a message from my sister's partner
1222
00:58:19,040 --> 00:58:22,040
saying Isabelle Florence Wise Jones
1223
00:58:22,040 --> 00:58:23,760
has just been born.
1224
00:58:25,040 --> 00:58:27,160
I fucking threw the laptop down,
1225
00:58:27,640 --> 00:58:29,560
ran to the stairs,
1226
00:58:29,560 --> 00:58:31,720
ran down the stairs, and by the time
1227
00:58:31,720 --> 00:58:34,800
I got the two flights of stairs down
1228
00:58:34,800 --> 00:58:38,040
my mom was there in tears sobbing.
1229
00:58:38,520 --> 00:58:40,800
EAMMON: Simon's dad survived the surgery
1230
00:58:40,800 --> 00:58:43,040
and Simon flew straight here.
1231
00:58:43,800 --> 00:58:45,120
SIMON: Yeah, here we are.
1232
00:58:45,120 --> 00:58:46,320
It's kind of weird.
1233
00:58:46,320 --> 00:58:47,360
It's kind of weird, right?
1234
00:58:48,160 --> 00:58:49,760
They've seen how much this season
1235
00:58:49,760 --> 00:58:50,600
has meant to me.
1236
00:58:51,240 --> 00:58:53,600
So I think it would be nice to
1237
00:58:55,120 --> 00:58:57,320
take a picture on Sunday afternoon
1238
00:58:57,320 --> 00:58:58,760
and then send them
1239
00:58:58,760 --> 00:59:00,920
send them a picture of us with our ...
1240
00:59:00,920 --> 00:59:02,400
with our trophy
1241
00:59:03,080 --> 00:59:04,440
That would be cool.
1242
00:59:10,800 --> 00:59:11,960
SIMON: I want to kind of ...
1243
00:59:14,240 --> 00:59:15,600
I wanna win it, right?
1244
00:59:15,600 --> 00:59:17,880
I mean, we're not allowed to say that
1245
00:59:17,880 --> 00:59:19,360
because it's every game
1246
00:59:19,360 --> 00:59:19,960
it's every game.
1247
00:59:20,920 --> 00:59:23,160
But I want to win this rugby tournament.
1248
00:59:24,560 --> 00:59:25,560
And I want to contribute ...
1249
00:59:26,480 --> 00:59:28,040
I want to contribute to that.
1250
00:59:29,360 --> 00:59:30,960
I want ... I want to be
1251
00:59:30,960 --> 00:59:32,400
a big part of that.
1252
00:59:54,360 --> 00:59:55,960
EAMMON: I know that feeling.
1253
00:59:55,960 --> 00:59:57,400
Wanting to contribute.
1254
00:59:57,400 --> 01:00:00,000
Wanting to be a big part of something.
1255
01:00:00,560 --> 01:00:02,320
Wanting to belong.
1256
01:00:15,360 --> 01:00:17,920
EAMMON: I remember my first training
session with the Steelers.
1257
01:00:17,920 --> 01:00:20,040
I was overweight and unfit.
1258
01:00:20,040 --> 01:00:22,640
And we warmed up running around the oval
1259
01:00:22,640 --> 01:00:24,360
and I was about a lap behind everyone.
1260
01:00:24,800 --> 01:00:26,280
I didn't want to give up, though
1261
01:00:26,280 --> 01:00:28,960
to embarrass myself in front of everyone.
1262
01:00:28,960 --> 01:00:30,800
And as I was coming around
1263
01:00:30,800 --> 01:00:33,400
finishing the last lap, the whole club
1264
01:00:33,400 --> 01:00:35,440
was standing there clapping,
1265
01:00:35,440 --> 01:00:36,600
cheering me on.
1266
01:00:36,880 --> 01:00:38,360
Something like that
1267
01:00:38,360 --> 01:00:40,520
had never happened to me before.
1268
01:00:40,520 --> 01:00:41,920
And I remember my first game.
1269
01:00:41,920 --> 01:00:43,640
I was so nervous.
1270
01:00:43,640 --> 01:00:45,440
But it all started coming back to me
1271
01:00:45,440 --> 01:00:46,920
from when I was 12.
1272
01:00:46,920 --> 01:00:48,440
I broke through and I scored
1273
01:00:48,440 --> 01:00:49,880
the most tries of the match.
1274
01:00:49,880 --> 01:00:51,400
And afterward at the pub
1275
01:00:51,400 --> 01:00:53,240
people were patting me on the back
1276
01:00:53,240 --> 01:00:55,560
coming up to me, congratulating me,
1277
01:00:55,560 --> 01:00:57,080
wanting to get to know me.
1278
01:00:57,080 --> 01:00:59,160
And I remember thinking
1279
01:00:59,160 --> 01:01:00,640
this was one of the best days
1280
01:01:00,640 --> 01:01:02,320
of my life.
1281
01:01:13,280 --> 01:01:14,200
EAMMON: Day three.
1282
01:01:14,200 --> 01:01:18,520
Up next, the semi-final
against the Sydney Convicts.
1283
01:01:18,520 --> 01:01:21,360
MATT: So annoying because
they got that wee skinny winger.
1284
01:01:22,360 --> 01:01:23,640
CHRIS: How are the wingers?
1285
01:01:23,640 --> 01:01:26,400
- He does not look 40, but he's 40.
1286
01:01:27,240 --> 01:01:30,960
and he's just really lanky and skinny.
1287
01:01:30,960 --> 01:01:31,960
DREW: I think he's like the first
1288
01:01:31,960 --> 01:01:33,720
daddy twink I've ever met.
1289
01:01:33,720 --> 01:01:36,080
- No, I mean, he's like the
definition of a twink as well.
1290
01:01:36,080 --> 01:01:36,760
But he's 40.
1291
01:01:36,760 --> 01:01:37,560
- Daddy.
1292
01:01:37,560 --> 01:01:38,560
- Yeah, it's crazy.
1293
01:01:39,680 --> 01:01:41,000
- A twink daddy?
1294
01:01:41,000 --> 01:01:43,520
- Twonk? He's not a Twonk.
1295
01:01:43,520 --> 01:01:44,320
- Twatty?
1296
01:01:44,320 --> 01:01:46,120
ALL: He's a Twitty!
1297
01:01:49,640 --> 01:01:50,880
- Might want to throw up.
1298
01:01:50,880 --> 01:01:52,040
- Oh, really?
1299
01:01:53,120 --> 01:01:54,040
- Couldn't eat.
1300
01:01:54,880 --> 01:01:56,560
I had to like force down my banana.
1301
01:01:56,560 --> 01:01:58,040
- Did you sleep okay?
1302
01:01:58,040 --> 01:01:59,040
- Somewhat.
1303
01:01:59,040 --> 01:02:01,720
- All my thoughts, all my dreams
1304
01:02:01,720 --> 01:02:05,320
were all rugby, specifically this game.
1305
01:02:06,720 --> 01:02:07,880
But it's good. It's good.
1306
01:02:10,680 --> 01:02:12,440
- I had a dream that one of them
1307
01:02:12,440 --> 01:02:14,800
booted me in in the head
1308
01:02:14,800 --> 01:02:16,640
and then I just went feral.
1309
01:02:16,800 --> 01:02:18,080
- All my dreams were related to
1310
01:02:18,080 --> 01:02:19,920
fighting people as well.
1311
01:02:22,960 --> 01:02:24,800
EAMMON: So if you go by points,
1312
01:02:24,800 --> 01:02:27,120
these two teams are the strongest
1313
01:02:27,120 --> 01:02:28,040
in the tournament.
1314
01:02:28,040 --> 01:02:30,240
And it's unfortunate that they're meeting again
1315
01:02:30,240 --> 01:02:31,680
in the semi-finals.
1316
01:02:31,680 --> 01:02:34,360
Whoever wins this will surely go on
1317
01:02:34,360 --> 01:02:36,320
to win the entire competition.
1318
01:02:37,200 --> 01:02:40,040
DREW: Kind of our time to redeem ourselves
1319
01:02:40,040 --> 01:02:42,960
and show them that we can actually beat them.
1320
01:02:42,960 --> 01:02:44,000
It's a beatable game.
1321
01:02:44,760 --> 01:02:46,600
EAMMON: what would that mean to you?
1322
01:02:47,320 --> 01:02:49,400
DREW: Mean fucking the world to me.
1323
01:02:50,240 --> 01:02:52,880
World to everybody actually, all of us.
1324
01:02:55,560 --> 01:02:56,960
EAMMON: And how are you feeling
about yourself?
1325
01:03:09,560 --> 01:03:11,640
SIMON: I don't at this moment.
I don't know, mate.
1326
01:03:12,440 --> 01:03:13,800
You know when you're unsure?
1327
01:03:13,800 --> 01:03:15,400
I'll let you know after the game.
1328
01:03:17,600 --> 01:03:19,920
We are in... we are in with a shot.
1329
01:03:19,920 --> 01:03:20,920
A good shot.
1330
01:03:22,800 --> 01:03:24,040
EAMMON: How are the kind of nerves
1331
01:03:24,040 --> 01:03:27,120
because you spoke about
how you get very nervous.
1332
01:03:27,440 --> 01:03:30,560
NIC: Not bad yet it's always
just 10 minutes beforehand.
1333
01:03:31,720 --> 01:03:33,520
I feel calm. Feeling relaxed.
1334
01:03:34,600 --> 01:03:36,080
I'm really excited.
1335
01:03:36,080 --> 01:03:37,520
I'm genuinely excited.
1336
01:03:37,520 --> 01:03:40,680
I think for me, the bigger the game the better.
1337
01:03:53,360 --> 01:03:55,240
NIC: In some ways, I felt like
1338
01:03:56,000 --> 01:03:57,800
maybe Steelers would have been
1339
01:03:57,800 --> 01:03:59,400
one of the only clubs
1340
01:04:00,960 --> 01:04:02,520
to have given me the opportunity
1341
01:04:02,520 --> 01:04:04,480
to be Director of Rugby.
1342
01:04:04,920 --> 01:04:05,480
So
1343
01:04:06,760 --> 01:04:07,840
and I'm really sad
1344
01:04:07,840 --> 01:04:08,840
that that's the case.
1345
01:04:08,840 --> 01:04:10,920
And I'm really sad that even now,
1346
01:04:10,920 --> 01:04:13,520
we went to Elford Wanderers
in the Cup final in Essex
1347
01:04:15,120 --> 01:04:18,960
and one of the dignitaries from the league
1348
01:04:18,960 --> 01:04:20,960
went straight up to Alex and spoke to Alex.
1349
01:04:20,960 --> 01:04:22,600
And I was like, actually this is our
1350
01:04:22,600 --> 01:04:23,600
Director of Rugby.
1351
01:04:23,600 --> 01:04:25,600
So I feel like I'm still needed to be
1352
01:04:25,600 --> 01:04:27,000
validated by men.
1353
01:04:30,120 --> 01:04:31,200
I've been the physio.
1354
01:04:31,200 --> 01:04:32,360
I've been the water girl.
1355
01:04:34,160 --> 01:04:37,880
The referee often doesn't recognise me
1356
01:04:37,880 --> 01:04:39,600
so will go straight to Alex
1357
01:04:39,600 --> 01:04:41,720
because obviously he's in charge.
1358
01:04:42,000 --> 01:04:42,720
So
1359
01:04:43,560 --> 01:04:45,760
I feel those daily struggles.
1360
01:04:46,120 --> 01:04:47,600
And I don't think the players see it
1361
01:04:47,600 --> 01:04:50,360
because they've gone past
seeing me as a female
1362
01:04:50,360 --> 01:04:52,160
and they just see me as the coach.
1363
01:04:52,640 --> 01:04:53,640
So for them
1364
01:04:54,520 --> 01:04:57,120
my gender is invisible to them.
1365
01:04:57,440 --> 01:04:59,200
I'm just Nic.
1366
01:05:00,040 --> 01:05:02,200
But for me, it's always ...
1367
01:05:02,200 --> 01:05:04,920
it's always sitting there with me.
1368
01:05:04,920 --> 01:05:06,640
So I always feel judged.
1369
01:05:06,640 --> 01:05:08,600
I always feel that
1370
01:05:08,600 --> 01:05:11,240
I have to do a better job than other people
1371
01:05:11,240 --> 01:05:12,800
to be able to say
1372
01:05:13,560 --> 01:05:15,320
I'm okay as a coach.
1373
01:05:19,160 --> 01:05:22,960
ALEX: So starting 15
for the semi-final
1374
01:05:22,960 --> 01:05:24,880
against the Sydney Convicts is
1375
01:05:25,400 --> 01:05:27,320
Drew McDowell at lose head.
1376
01:05:29,520 --> 01:05:31,640
NIC: I don't think results
1377
01:05:31,640 --> 01:05:33,480
validate who I am
1378
01:05:33,680 --> 01:05:36,320
I think the relationship I have
1379
01:05:36,320 --> 01:05:39,120
with majority of the players
1380
01:05:39,120 --> 01:05:40,720
in the whole club
1381
01:05:40,720 --> 01:05:42,720
validates who I am as a coach.
1382
01:05:43,520 --> 01:05:45,840
I feel like I'm appreciated as a coach
1383
01:05:45,840 --> 01:05:47,000
throughout the club
1384
01:05:47,000 --> 01:05:48,920
not just in the first team.
1385
01:05:50,120 --> 01:05:51,720
But I want that to happen
1386
01:05:51,720 --> 01:05:52,960
in the outside world.
1387
01:05:52,960 --> 01:05:53,840
So
1388
01:05:54,520 --> 01:05:56,520
I think if
1389
01:05:56,520 --> 01:05:59,240
if we won the Bingham Cup
1390
01:06:00,760 --> 01:06:02,800
I could go home
1391
01:06:02,800 --> 01:06:04,040
and I could say
1392
01:06:04,040 --> 01:06:05,280
that I have the best ...
1393
01:06:05,280 --> 01:06:07,760
I have coached the best gay team
1394
01:06:07,760 --> 01:06:08,760
in the world.
1395
01:06:10,080 --> 01:06:11,720
And I think
1396
01:06:12,120 --> 01:06:14,320
yeah, I'd feel pretty proud of that.
1397
01:06:15,360 --> 01:06:16,640
EAMMON: that's beautiful.
1398
01:06:43,960 --> 01:06:47,320
NIC: Aggression. Brutality.
Communication.
1399
01:06:47,800 --> 01:06:49,280
Give me A, B, C.
1400
01:06:49,280 --> 01:06:50,920
That's all I want from you
1401
01:06:50,920 --> 01:06:51,880
for 40 minutes.
1402
01:06:52,160 --> 01:06:53,680
ABC. Aggression.
1403
01:06:53,680 --> 01:06:55,360
Brutality at the contact.
1404
01:06:55,360 --> 01:06:57,280
Communication with each other.
1405
01:06:57,520 --> 01:06:59,840
You can focus on that
as you walk down.
1406
01:06:59,840 --> 01:07:01,000
Those three things.
1407
01:07:01,000 --> 01:07:02,800
Nothing changes here.
1408
01:07:03,240 --> 01:07:04,960
PLAYER: This is what it feels like!
1409
01:07:05,440 --> 01:07:06,920
This is what it smells like!
1410
01:07:08,600 --> 01:07:09,840
Here we go Steelers!
1411
01:07:13,160 --> 01:07:16,160
This is our game!
This is our tournament!
1412
01:07:32,280 --> 01:07:34,160
PLAYER: We have made promises
to ourselves!
1413
01:07:34,160 --> 01:07:36,360
We have made promises to each other!
1414
01:07:36,360 --> 01:07:38,960
And today we fucking deliver
on those promises!
1415
01:08:09,040 --> 01:08:11,320
EAMMON: Here we are.
Face to face
1416
01:08:11,320 --> 01:08:13,080
with our toughest competition.
1417
01:08:13,080 --> 01:08:15,880
The biggest thing standing between us
1418
01:08:15,880 --> 01:08:17,760
and the Bingham Cup.
1419
01:08:21,320 --> 01:08:23,080
It's another brutal game.
1420
01:08:24,720 --> 01:08:26,040
But we push them back.
1421
01:08:26,040 --> 01:08:28,600
And then the ball goes loose
over our try line.
1422
01:08:28,880 --> 01:08:29,880
The Convicts pick it up.
1423
01:08:29,880 --> 01:08:32,000
But we rip it from them
1424
01:08:32,000 --> 01:08:33,400
and score the first try.
1425
01:08:43,840 --> 01:08:45,600
The Convicts fight back.
1426
01:08:45,920 --> 01:08:46,960
But we stumble.
1427
01:08:46,960 --> 01:08:49,920
And you can see just how much this means
1428
01:08:49,920 --> 01:08:52,400
to each and every one of us.
1429
01:08:57,680 --> 01:09:00,760
Half time comes
and we manage to hold the lead.
1430
01:09:00,760 --> 01:09:01,760
CAPTAIN: Keep that in your head.
1431
01:09:01,760 --> 01:09:03,320
Do not think this is done.
1432
01:09:03,320 --> 01:09:04,680
PLAYER: We are getting tired now.
1433
01:09:04,680 --> 01:09:05,800
ALEX: Blast them away.
1434
01:09:05,800 --> 01:09:07,040
There is more to come.
1435
01:09:07,040 --> 01:09:08,520
More to come for you guys
1436
01:09:08,520 --> 01:09:09,520
in the next 20 minutes.
1437
01:09:09,640 --> 01:09:11,560
ALL: 3, 2, 1, Steelers!
1438
01:09:22,040 --> 01:09:23,560
EAMMON: The Convicts score.
1439
01:09:31,520 --> 01:09:33,640
And they score again.
1440
01:09:41,240 --> 01:09:43,240
Our boys play their hearts out.
1441
01:09:45,680 --> 01:09:47,320
But it's not enough.
1442
01:09:47,600 --> 01:09:48,600
Full time.
1443
01:09:48,600 --> 01:09:50,320
And the Kings Cross Steelers
1444
01:09:50,320 --> 01:09:53,360
are knocked out of the Bingham Cup.
1445
01:10:51,760 --> 01:10:53,000
EAMMON: are you proud
of what you've done
1446
01:10:53,000 --> 01:10:54,040
for the club?
1447
01:10:56,000 --> 01:10:56,880
NIC: No.
1448
01:10:56,880 --> 01:10:57,880
I think
1449
01:10:59,000 --> 01:11:00,320
I would have liked to have given them
1450
01:11:00,320 --> 01:11:03,280
the Binghma Cup as the final hurrah.
1451
01:11:04,680 --> 01:11:05,960
They deserved that.
1452
01:11:06,800 --> 01:11:08,520
The boys deserved that
1453
01:11:08,520 --> 01:11:10,400
the amount of work they put in.
1454
01:11:11,880 --> 01:11:13,640
And you know, I feel
1455
01:11:13,640 --> 01:11:15,480
really connected to the boys
1456
01:11:15,480 --> 01:11:17,240
to the team, to the squad
1457
01:11:18,760 --> 01:11:20,040
as individuals.
1458
01:11:20,040 --> 01:11:21,880
And I felt
1459
01:11:21,880 --> 01:11:23,240
that they deserved that place
1460
01:11:23,240 --> 01:11:24,480
in that final.
1461
01:11:25,280 --> 01:11:27,320
And in terms of their ability
1462
01:11:27,320 --> 01:11:28,720
they were in that game.
1463
01:11:28,720 --> 01:11:30,320
That game was for winning.
1464
01:11:33,440 --> 01:11:34,440
PLAYER: The game is done.
1465
01:11:34,800 --> 01:11:36,200
There is nothing that we can do
1466
01:11:36,200 --> 01:11:37,320
to fix anything.
1467
01:11:37,320 --> 01:11:39,840
So now is not the time for recriminations.
1468
01:11:39,840 --> 01:11:40,960
What the moment is now
1469
01:11:40,960 --> 01:11:43,120
is for the fucking pride we should take
1470
01:11:43,120 --> 01:11:44,600
in the performance that we put in.
1471
01:11:44,600 --> 01:11:46,960
Not just today, but on the first day
1472
01:11:46,960 --> 01:11:47,960
and on the second day.
1473
01:11:47,960 --> 01:11:50,120
And for the whole of the fucking season.
1474
01:11:50,120 --> 01:11:51,400
The work rate
1475
01:11:51,400 --> 01:11:53,720
the effort you boys put in for me today
1476
01:11:53,720 --> 01:11:55,120
was fucking outstanding.
1477
01:11:55,120 --> 01:11:57,080
You hold your heads high.
1478
01:11:57,080 --> 01:11:58,800
You can have your fucking cry
1479
01:11:58,800 --> 01:12:00,480
when you have your cry.
1480
01:12:00,480 --> 01:12:02,200
But for the next fucking day,
1481
01:12:02,200 --> 01:12:03,720
I want your heads held high.
1482
01:12:03,720 --> 01:12:05,520
Be proud of the good things
1483
01:12:05,520 --> 01:12:07,560
that you've done on this tour.
1484
01:12:07,560 --> 01:12:09,840
You remember those fucking good things.
1485
01:12:12,880 --> 01:12:14,800
We said we'd slap each other on the back
1486
01:12:14,800 --> 01:12:16,840
for the good things that we've done.
1487
01:12:16,840 --> 01:12:18,520
Make sure you go to somebody,
1488
01:12:18,520 --> 01:12:20,000
anybody and say
1489
01:12:20,000 --> 01:12:21,880
one fucking good thing, guys.
1490
01:12:32,840 --> 01:12:34,440
SIMON: I definitely did myself proud
1491
01:12:34,440 --> 01:12:35,800
and also I'll learn from some of the things
1492
01:12:35,800 --> 01:12:37,560
that I could do better.
1493
01:12:37,560 --> 01:12:38,520
So it's great.
1494
01:12:38,520 --> 01:12:39,360
And I'm going home and my dad's
1495
01:12:39,360 --> 01:12:40,920
going to be at the hospital
in a couple of days
1496
01:12:40,920 --> 01:12:42,240
and my sister's got a baby.
1497
01:12:42,240 --> 01:12:43,920
And we got to the semi-final
1498
01:12:43,920 --> 01:12:45,240
of the Bingham Cup.
1499
01:12:46,520 --> 01:12:48,160
Finish with that yeah?
1500
01:13:07,680 --> 01:13:09,920
EAMMON: You did the club proud, mate.
1501
01:13:09,920 --> 01:13:11,560
You had an undefeated season
1502
01:13:11,560 --> 01:13:13,960
and you're top four in Bingham.
1503
01:13:13,960 --> 01:13:15,320
I think you did the club
1504
01:13:15,320 --> 01:13:16,720
bloody proud.
1505
01:13:16,720 --> 01:13:19,360
ROB: Yeah. I hope this year goes down
1506
01:13:19,360 --> 01:13:20,360
in a bit of Steelers history.
1507
01:13:21,840 --> 01:13:24,160
NIC: I think it's really selfish
1508
01:13:24,160 --> 01:13:27,120
because for me it's my ending.
1509
01:13:27,120 --> 01:13:31,040
And I wanted that fairy tale princess ending.
1510
01:13:32,160 --> 01:13:33,120
EAMMON: It's a bit selfish, too,
1511
01:13:33,120 --> 01:13:34,880
because I wanted that same
1512
01:13:34,880 --> 01:13:37,880
fairy tale ending for this documentary.
1513
01:13:37,880 --> 01:13:40,280
I wanted it to be our boys on that podium.
1514
01:13:41,920 --> 01:13:43,400
But actually, if you think about it
1515
01:13:43,400 --> 01:13:44,880
that's not how life goes.
1516
01:13:44,880 --> 01:13:46,680
More often than not, it doesn't turn out
1517
01:13:46,680 --> 01:13:48,080
how you want.
1518
01:13:48,080 --> 01:13:50,560
But that's where the opportunity lies.
1519
01:13:55,160 --> 01:13:56,920
Three weeks ago, I got a concussion
1520
01:13:56,920 --> 01:13:58,240
that ruled me out from playing
1521
01:13:58,240 --> 01:13:59,600
in this competition
1522
01:13:59,600 --> 01:14:01,120
and I was devastated.
1523
01:14:01,120 --> 01:14:02,480
But then I never would have
1524
01:14:02,480 --> 01:14:04,000
picked up this camera
1525
01:14:04,000 --> 01:14:05,760
filmed from the sidelines
1526
01:14:05,760 --> 01:14:07,440
and this story would have never been told.
1527
01:14:07,680 --> 01:14:09,480
If I didn't get bullied as a kid,
1528
01:14:09,480 --> 01:14:10,920
well, maybe I wouldn't have
1529
01:14:10,920 --> 01:14:12,640
a fighting spirit.
1530
01:14:12,640 --> 01:14:14,000
If I didn't pick up that rugby ball
1531
01:14:14,000 --> 01:14:15,760
when I was 12 years old
1532
01:14:15,760 --> 01:14:17,720
even though I hated sport
1533
01:14:17,720 --> 01:14:18,840
well, then I never would have
1534
01:14:18,840 --> 01:14:19,800
joined the Steelers.
1535
01:14:19,800 --> 01:14:22,040
I wouldn't have met my
incredible husband, John,
1536
01:14:22,040 --> 01:14:23,360
and got married.
1537
01:14:23,360 --> 01:14:24,480
Something I never thought
1538
01:14:24,480 --> 01:14:26,040
would happen to me.
1539
01:14:27,360 --> 01:14:30,080
And if that very first gay rugby team
1540
01:14:30,080 --> 01:14:32,120
25 years ago simply gave up
1541
01:14:32,120 --> 01:14:34,360
when the majority of straight teams
1542
01:14:34,360 --> 01:14:35,920
refused to play them ...
1543
01:14:35,920 --> 01:14:37,520
then who knows how many
1544
01:14:37,520 --> 01:14:40,160
thousands of gay lives would be less rich
1545
01:14:40,160 --> 01:14:41,600
because of it?
1546
01:14:41,920 --> 01:14:44,280
NIC: I hope that some of them
1547
01:14:44,280 --> 01:14:46,200
will feel that I have
1548
01:14:46,200 --> 01:14:47,800
changed them as a coach.
1549
01:14:48,800 --> 01:14:50,160
That I've moved them on
1550
01:14:50,160 --> 01:14:51,880
and some of them maybe that's a nudge.
1551
01:14:52,120 --> 01:14:54,280
Some of them maybe they feel like
1552
01:14:54,280 --> 01:14:55,600
that's big steps.
1553
01:14:55,600 --> 01:14:57,280
But I hope
1554
01:14:57,600 --> 01:15:00,160
that the majority of my players feel that
1555
01:15:00,160 --> 01:15:01,800
I've made them
1556
01:15:01,800 --> 01:15:03,000
a better person.
1557
01:15:07,760 --> 01:15:10,400
DREW: I don't fit in any one cup or mold.
1558
01:15:10,400 --> 01:15:12,920
To me, that's just a B.S.
1559
01:15:12,920 --> 01:15:14,080
kind of attitude to have
1560
01:15:14,080 --> 01:15:16,520
that we as gay men have to
1561
01:15:16,520 --> 01:15:18,880
fit this kind of category
1562
01:15:18,880 --> 01:15:20,720
this mold that
1563
01:15:20,720 --> 01:15:22,840
if you're a bear you have to be
1564
01:15:22,840 --> 01:15:24,720
big and brawny and blah, blah, blah.
1565
01:15:24,720 --> 01:15:25,960
If you're a twink, you have to be
1566
01:15:25,960 --> 01:15:27,200
really flamboyant.
1567
01:15:27,200 --> 01:15:28,400
Whoever you are,
1568
01:15:28,400 --> 01:15:29,880
whatever type of person you are,
1569
01:15:29,880 --> 01:15:31,400
that's you.
1570
01:15:31,400 --> 01:15:33,760
That's being your authentic self.
1571
01:15:34,400 --> 01:15:36,920
SIMON: I'll never forget
this rugby season.
1572
01:15:36,920 --> 01:15:38,120
And just when I was about to
1573
01:15:38,120 --> 01:15:39,680
walk away from rugby
1574
01:15:40,080 --> 01:15:41,440
but something told me
1575
01:15:41,440 --> 01:15:43,440
no, rugby can still help you.
1576
01:15:43,680 --> 01:15:46,240
Then the club, and this season
1577
01:15:49,040 --> 01:15:49,840
saved my life ...
1578
01:15:49,840 --> 01:15:51,840
probably saved my life.
1579
01:15:52,640 --> 01:15:53,800
And that's not ...
1580
01:15:53,960 --> 01:15:55,280
I don't say that ...
1581
01:15:57,480 --> 01:15:59,920
without careful thought.
1582
01:16:09,720 --> 01:16:10,720
EAMMON: So for me
1583
01:16:10,720 --> 01:16:12,920
this isn't a coming out story
1584
01:16:12,920 --> 01:16:15,400
or a story about winning a tournament
1585
01:16:15,400 --> 01:16:17,640
or even about being gay.
1586
01:16:17,640 --> 01:16:19,360
It's a story about
1587
01:16:19,360 --> 01:16:21,760
searching for where you belong
1588
01:16:21,760 --> 01:16:23,680
and never giving up
1589
01:16:23,680 --> 01:16:26,000
because you just might find happiness
1590
01:16:26,000 --> 01:16:28,400
where you least expect.
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